Mothers can be quite sensitive when we tell them about our first boyfriend; some get angry or find reasons to persuade us not to be together, but mostly they do it only for the sake of their daughters. So remember that sometimes they are right. But if you really like this guy and you want your mom to like you too, here's what you should do.
Steps
Step 1. Talk to your mom when she's in a good mood
Not when she has just returned from work or is busy doing something important. You have to have his full attention. Also, take her at a time when you are sure she will not blame you and is not mad at you.
Step 2. Talk to your mom when it's just the two of you; if your father is around, try to get him out of the room discreetly and without getting suspicious
Fathers (usually) are even more protective of their daughters when they realize they have grown up and have their first boyfriend!
Step 3. Talk to her so that you don't avoid the heart of the matter, but at the same time give her some time to think
Step 4. Explain to her that you want her to trust you in this, and that this is exactly why you are talking to her about your boyfriend
Also explain to her that you are growing up and that it is only natural to want a guy by your side.
Step 5. If she gets angry, don't respond in kind and don't scream
Don't get aggressive with her because you will only make things worse. Plus, if you stay calm she will realize how mature you are!
Step 6. Wait for me to answer you before leaving the room; otherwise you could provoke arguments
Step 7. Answer his questions about him sincerely; one day otherwise you might hear your mum scold you that you told her a lie
Step 8. If she says no, accept it
Doing so will show her your level of maturity and she will eventually change her mind. Remember, she just wants to protect you.
Step 9. She told you no, but you still have a boyfriend, so try to find a compromise
If you try to find a deal, you will show your mom that you are smart enough to adapt to situations, and she will likely be more understanding.
Advice
- You are good at school? Are you mature? Responsible? Your parents want you to have all of these characteristics before having a boyfriend, so work hard at school, don't be foolish and face your problems.
- Try to say as many positive things as possible about him. This way your mom will understand that she can trust you.
- Don't wait too long before telling him. She might get mad if you keep this news from her.
- Tell her all the positive things he has done for you, and she will feel more comfortable.
- Prepare the ground for this chat; behave yourself in the days leading up to your announcement.
- Tell her how long you've been together. This will show her how long you haven't been fooling with him and that you are therefore worthy of trust for the time being. Speak to her, it will help her to be more understanding.
- Don't lie about the length of your relationship. You could cause embarrassing situations. For example, what if he wants to give both of us an anniversary gift and isn't he?
- When they meet, be fair. It will be easier for everyone!
- A close and confidential relationship with your parents will always be of great help.
- Always be honest with your mom.
- Don't tell her where you met him, if he was in prison or if you met him on the internet.
- Be reasonable when relating to her.
- Behave yourself for at least a week before talking to her about something so special to you.
Warnings
- Keep in mind that if you wait to tell your parents that you have a boyfriend and they find out you will make things worse because you will lose their trust in you.
- Don't talk to your parents at the same time, let your mom tell your dad if you can.
