Winning a kid can be a really tough endeavor in middle school. You probably aren't able to get his attention or you don't even know if he's the right one. While there is no magic potion that allows you to make a guy fall in love, you will have better chances by learning to believe in yourself and getting to know lots of different guys. Once you've found who you like, don't be afraid to show your interest and invite them out.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Feel and Show Yourself at the Top
Step 1. Take care of your personal hygiene
You will be more attractive if you take care of yourself. Take a shower and always apply deodorant so that you smell good. Wash your face and teeth twice a day.
- You can shave your legs or armpits, but talk to your parents before you begin.
- If you want to wear makeup, don't hesitate! If you don't want to, don't feel forced.
- Body creams and scented lotions are a great choice, but don't overdo it.
Step 2. Choose clothing that allows you to be comfortable
Wear clothes that make you feel beautiful and confident. In some cases, you might bring a pair of jeans and a t-shirt, in others a floral dress. The more confidence and positive energy you exude, the more people will be attracted to you.
Make sure you wear clean and tidy clothes. The creases and stains are not pretty to look at
Step 3. Trust yourself
Yes, it's good to have a boyfriend, but you shouldn't feel the need to be comfortable with yourself. Remember that you are amazing just the way you are. Accept your personality, your weirdest interests and your body. You need to be at peace with yourself before focusing on someone else.
Step 4. Don't worry about your appearance
It's easy to fix it or want to be prettier or slimmer. However, remember that the things you believe in and the way you are are more important than your outward appearance. In fact, self-esteem is the single most important ingredient in impressing guys!
Part 2 of 4: Getting to Know the Right Guy
Step 1. Talk to every kid in your class
Are there any cute, single boys among your mates? Be resourceful and start talking to them to see if you have anything in common. If they are sitting next to you, it will be easier, but you can always chat with them before or after class.
- You might be frightened by the idea of having to strike up a conversation, but just comment on some incidents that happened in class! If the heating system is broken, you can say: "Are you cold? In this classroom it seems to be in the north pole".>
- Also try asking for help. For example: "Can I borrow a pencil?" or "Were you able to write down the check for the house?".
Step 2. Go to parties and other important events
A great way to get to know a potential boyfriend is to stick your nose out of the house! Go to classmates' parties and participate in activities organized by the school, such as football matches and theater classes. The more guys you know, the more likely you are to find the right one.
- If you want to make the most of this kind of opportunity, you don't have to be locked up in your little group of friends. If you see someone you like, have a chat with them by making some comments about their surroundings.
- For example, you might say, "I love this song! Do you know it?". If he likes it too, you already have something in common!
Step 3. Ask your friends to help you
They're sure to meet some nice, non-committed guys, so ask if they can introduce him to you. Having a mutual friendship can be a conversation starter for both of you. Also, if your friends approve of him, chances are he's a nice guy.
You might say, "I'd like to go out with someone. Do you know any nice guys that you might introduce me to?"
Step 4. Attend an association or cultivate passions
If you want to meet guys with similar interests, try joining an association or doing something stimulating! Shared interests will allow you to broaden your network of friendships.
- If you like sports, you can join a sports team, such as swimming or volleyball. You will be able to show everyone your athletic skills and, at the same time, meet guys who share a passion for sport with you.
- If you enjoy helping others, join a volunteer organization in your city to meet kind-hearted kids who want to make their contribution to society.
Part 3 of 4: Demonstrate Your Interest
Step 1. Say hello to him when you see him in the hallways
If you spot someone, let them know how you feel about them. Start greeting him and giving him a big smile when you cross him. Show him you're happy to see him!
Step 2. Ask him a few questions
If you have time, start chatting with him and ask him something to get to know him better. Ask open-ended questions that don't require a simple yes or no.]
For example, you might ask him, "Why do you love Star Wars so much?"
Step 3. Sit next to him
Since you spend most of your time sitting at school, why not take the opportunity to be next to him? Take a seat nearby during recess, on the bus, in class, or during a game. Of course, you don't have to stick with him all the time, otherwise he might get scared. However, if you sit next to him from time to time, he will start to notice something.
If you want to be a little more enterprising, you can also keep him the place
Step 4. Flirt
It might sound a little complicated to you, but it's actually quite simple! A great way to start is to lightly tap him on the arm while you are talking. You might even look him in the eye, smile, and playfully tease him!
- For example, try joking by saying, "Wow, you're good at football … almost as good as my sister!".
- Don't overdo the jokes. Stop if you feel like you're hurting her susceptibility.
Step 5. Use social networks to flirt
Enjoy his photos on Instagram, tag him when you post a funny picture, and play with him on Snapchat. However, the basic rule is moderation. If you like all of his posts and send him hundreds of photos, it can be a little creepy.
Step 6. Write him text messages in a light and cheerful tone
You don't want to contact him all the time, or he might think you're clingy. Rather, text him once every two days to update him on something funny that happened at school or wish him luck in the football match.
- Don't be too eager to respond to their messages. Make yourself wanted by waiting a few minutes before replying.
- Make sure the urge to hear from each other is mutual. If you're always the one starting a chat conversation, that's a bad sign.
Step 7. Help him when he needs it
Once you've made friends, offer to help him out. Maybe he needs a ride out of school and there's a free seat in your mom's car. If he has forgotten his snack, offer him your yogurt. Basically, you should try to be a good friend.
Part 4 of 4: Invite him out
Step 1. Offer to join a group outing
You will probably feel a little intimidated asking a guy on a date, so invite him out in a party at first. This way, the situation will be less demanding and you will have time to get to know each other better. Also, if your friends come too, they can offer you some advice and give you moral support.
You can organize a day at the pool, a bowling tournament or a ride to the amusement park with both your friends and his
Step 2. Ask him for a tête-à-tête meeting
After you've seen each other in a group a few times, try spending some alone time with him. Your parents probably won't let you go to the movies, but you can invite them to take a walk with you after school or spend an evening at home with your family.
- You might say, "Would you like to come to me tonight? My family has organized a game night. We usually have a great time!"
- Be sure to ask your parents for permission before scheduling a date with the guy you like.
Step 3. Talk to him about how you feel
If you think he likes you and want to get engaged to him, you need to express your feelings sincerely. Regardless of how obvious your interest is, it can't read your mind. You don't have to make a declaration of eternal love, but just tell him that you consider him more than just a friend.
- You might say, "I like you a lot and I would like to know you better."
- Try talking to him away from prying eyes so that you can more easily express what you think.
Step 4. Turn the page if you are not interested
Sometimes, relationships don't work out, so don't take it badly. If he avoids you, seems bored when you're together, declines your invitations, or seems more interested in making other hookups, he's not the right guy for you.
It is not easy to accept rejection, but there are thousands of guys around. Give yourself a few moments of despair and then chase away the sadness by meeting other guys who can appreciate you
Advice
- Carry a pack of gum or mints in your backpack. If you don't know how to strike up a button, offer him one!
- If you have guys among your friends, ask them for some advice on how to get the guy you like.
- Always be confident when talking to him.
Warnings
- Don't change for a guy. Those who deserve your time appreciate you for who you really are.
- Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable to get a guy, especially when it comes to sexual intercourse.
