A betrayal is like a train wreck: everyone sees the victims after the accident, but no one has been able to predict it. Generally, it's impossible to prepare yourself for an experience like this, but then it shows up and hurts you, which is why it's so painful to accept it. Cheating means being stabbed in the back, it is a breach of trust, which happens through cheating or infidelity. Maybe someone has given you a secret or has let you down by shamelessly lying about something. The question that arises spontaneously is "Why?". Why was it done to you? The situations for which this happened could be various.
Steps
Step 1. Try to control your emotions
Do not be angry, because anger will not help you, on the contrary, it will blind you.
Step 2. Stay calm
If you have recently been betrayed, you will need to be as calm as possible to protect yourself from further damage.
Step 3. Resist the urge to beg and plead
Such an attitude will make you seem weak, and that's not what you want. If your girlfriend cheated on you, let her go back to her lover. Never beg her to make her stay: you are worth much more.
Step 4. Get away from this person
This means taking a completely different path. You don't have to follow her, you don't have to cling to her, you have to let her walk the path she has chosen, but you will no longer be a part of her life.
Step 5. Don't act, don't oppose this person
This will allow you to take back your life and find peace. He can live as he likes, provided he stays away from you. Weak people can't be decisive, but showing strength pushes those who hurt you to make a clear decision. He can be with you or his lover, not both of them. Maybe it will be great for her to postpone the decision, but if this life makes you miserable, why tolerate it?
Step 6. Let her go, let her live her experiences
Sometimes we want to be in control of everything, but it's not up to us to do it. Your job is to live as peacefully as possible. All you have to do is forgive. And it will be for your benefit. Negative feelings do not make us happy and do not allow us to improve. You can recover your happiness. There are plenty of opportunities out there to love again, find a new relationship, a new friendship or even a new family. In fact, we can choose the right people, and we don't necessarily have to have a blood bond with them, the important thing is that they love us.
Step 7. Learn the lesson
Forgiveness doesn't mean seeing the person who cheated on you for coffee. Many times such individuals realize what they have lost only when it is final. Before you heal, you must learn to treat yourself lovingly and respectfully, and love yourself before others do. You cannot expect to receive love and esteem if you are the first to not show them to yourself. This also means that you shouldn't let others abuse you, verbally or physically.
Step 8. Don't think badly
Tell yourself that the damage is now done and perhaps this person would have behaved differently if he could. Forgive her. Keep the following in mind: "How do you know what you don't know if you don't know what you don't know?"
