Sooner or later in life, as a child, teenager, or young adult, you will do something stupid that will make your mother angry. In some cases, a simple excuse will not be enough and you will have to work harder to earn your mother's forgiveness. But you can offer a better excuse, be respectful, and do your best to help your mom get over what you did.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Make a Sincere Apology
Step 1. Apologize in person
Whatever you do, don't try to apologize via text or email. Talking to someone in a very emotional situation is difficult, but taking responsibility for what you have done will help your mother understand that you are sincere.
Step 2. Be honest
Use a respectful tone, and say your apology out loud. Grumbling implies that you are not admitting your mistake.
If you don't know where to start, say something like this: "I'm really sorry I made you angry. I know I shouldn't argue with Marco. I let anger drive me, but I really want to improve. I hope you can. forgive me."
Step 3. Tell the truth
In some cases, you may want to lie to avoid getting in trouble, but you will only postpone the inevitable. You will find yourself in even worse trouble when this happens, and you will have a hard time getting your mother to forgive you.
Step 4. Don't try to talk hot
Let the waters calm down a bit. Approach your mother later when she has had time to think.
Step 5. Choose the right time
Don't try to apologize when she's distracted by something else, like cooking dinner. Pick a quiet time, and ask if you can talk to her for a minute.
Try to figure out if he doesn't want to listen to you. She may not be ready to hear what you have to say. Wait a while, then ask again
Step 6. Don't wait too long
This means that you will have to admit that you were wrong in time. If you wait too long, you will give her a chance to get angry because you didn't apologize.
Step 7. Listen to what he has to say
Really listen and try to understand why he thinks you were wrong. The only way to effectively apologize is to understand why she is angry. So, put yourself in his shoes. He is trying to help you grow as a person, so try to look at things from his point of view.
Step 8. Do not bring other episodes into the discussion
Don't talk about what your brother did or what happened in the past. You will only remind her of other unpleasant episodes and make her more angry.
Don't say, for example, "But Laura stayed out last week and wasn't punished! Why are you mad at me and not her?" Talking about past episodes will only arouse more emotions. Instead, say something like, "I know you're angry, and I shouldn't have come back so late. I'm really sorry."
Step 9. Find no justification for what you did
Justifications spoil the excuses, because they give the impression that you are blaming something or someone else. You will have to accept that you did something wrong if you want your mother to forgive you.
For example, instead of saying "I didn't stay out that long and then, I only did it because I had to bring a friend home" say something like "I know they've been out too long, and I'm sorry. I'll try to manage it better. time next time and leave first."
Step 10. Try to fix the error
An apology can help a lot, but trying to correct the situation is even better.
For example, if you have broken something, try to repair or replace it. If you yelled at your sister, be kinder to her and show her you care
Step 11. Offer a written apology
This step may seem contrary to "Apologize in person", but you should do it in addition to the verbal apology. Also, you shouldn't use emails or messages. Handwrite your mom a letter about your mistakes and how you can do better in the future. A handwritten card takes time and thought, and your mom will appreciate it.
You could write something like this: "Dear Mom, I know you are angry about my fight with Paola. I know you want us to have the relationship you never had with your sister, and I appreciate that. They love Paola so much, even though sometimes it makes me lose my temper. I am the older brother, and I should be more mature when he tries to pester me on purpose. I understand that relationships take work, and that you are just trying to prepare me for the ones I will have in the future, as well as helping me to have a strong and lasting relationship with Paola. I will try to keep the peace in the future; I really do. They love you so much and I hope you can forgive me. With love, [your name]."
Step 12. Remember that forgiveness takes time
In some cases, your mother will be able to forgive you quickly, but in others, it will take longer. In fact, some psychologists believe there are stages of forgiveness, as well as grief. Your mother may go through denial, plea bargaining, anger, and depression before acceptance and forgiveness, although the order may be different and may not experience all stages. Regardless of this, remember that you must work to gain forgiveness and trust.
Step 13. Remember that your mother is not perfect
She made mistakes too, and she may be mad at you for longer than you deserve.
Sometimes moms may be angry for other reasons. It won't always be your fault. Just as you may have dumped the nervousness about a bad day on your sister, your mom may let her emotions get the better of her after a bad day (or week!)
Method 2 of 3: Show You Sorry By Behaving the Best Way
Step 1. Follow the rules
Don't make her more angry by doing some other nonsense. Respect the house rules and behave in an exemplary manner.
Step 2. Work together and not against each other
Ask her to help you come up with a plan to do better in the future.
The problem, for example, could be your constant delays on the curfew. Ask her to help you find ways to fix the problem. Maybe you could put an alarm on your phone 30 minutes before you need to be home, and ask her to help you remember to set it before you leave
Step 3. Stay calm
Don't make hasty decisions. You're probably angry that you got in trouble, and you might think your mom doesn't care about you. His anger, on the other hand, shows that he only wants the best for you. He just wants you to improve as a person. If you feel isolated, try talking to a friend, other parent, or sibling if you need to let off steam.
Step 4. Don't repeat the same mistake
If you keep making the same mistake over and over, your mother will start to doubt the sincerity of your apology.
Step 5. Offer to do more housework
Take out the trash without being asked. Do the laundry yourself. Offer to babysit or go shopping. Make dinner before your mom can. Your mom will notice that you are trying to behave yourself.
Step 6. Make cute gestures for your mom
Bring her breakfast in bed. Pick some flowers for her. Write her a note or give her a photo that she can take to work. Let her know you love her.
Step 7. Try doing activities with her that you know she enjoys
Go to the park with her even if you don't feel like it, or ask her to accompany you to the bookstore.
Step 8. Be affectionate and not grumpy
With your love you will show your mother that you care and want to improve.
Method 3 of 3: Be Respectful
Step 1. Show that you can listen
When your mother talks to you and scolds you, listen carefully and don't argue. Accept that you are wrong and that she has the right to scold you.
Step 2. Don't ignore it
She is just trying to help you, and if she wants to talk to you, listen to her.
Step 3. Use a respectful tone
When answering his questions, don't do it by seeking confrontation. Respond calmly, directly and sincerely.
For example, if your mom asks "What were you thinking?" don't say, "I don't know, obviously I'm an idiot" in a sarcastic tone. Try something more like "Evidently I didn't think right. I'll try to do better next time."
Step 4. Accept your punishment without complaining
Doing so will show that you respect their decision.
Your mom doesn't scream at you because she doesn't like you or because she hates you. He cares a lot about you, and he doesn't want you to make bad choices that could negatively impact your future. He wants you to be confident and learn to be a better person
Step 5. Be mature
Don't be mean and don't respond with hateful insults. Do not slam your feet or doors. You will only make her angrier, and in the future, you will regret doing it.
- Also, your mom will respect your maturity and forgive you sooner.
- If he says to you, "You always answer like that but then you never do! Don't argue. Say you understand, and ask for his help to improve in the future.
Advice
- Don't avoid her, but if she's really upset and doesn't want you around, step aside.
- Ask your other parent or siblings for help. In some cases, they will be able to talk to your mom and help her forgive you.
- Don't yell at your mother.
- If you've done something you regret, instead of crying, show you're sorry by changing your behavior. Your mom will notice.
- Remember that your mother loves you and tell her that you want her too with all your heart.
