You managed to find the courage, you asked the person you like to go out and their response was "Yes!". And now? Whether you choose the classic and reliable dinner and movie date or something more adventurous, the main goal is to plan something fun with a romantic note. As long as you think a little about your partner's preferences, you are sure to have a good time.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Choosing an Activity
Step 1. Do something fun by playing it safe
The key step would be to choose a place. The first classic appointments take place in various places, such as the local shopping center, the cinema (it can be connected to the shopping center) or a nice restaurant. Some appointments can be very simple, like going to the other person's house or going out for ice cream together. You decide what is best for you and her. If you don't know very well the person you're going to take out for your date, you may want to opt for a classic dating activity that most people like. That way there's a good chance you'll have a good time, and your partner won't feel compelled to pretend that she likes something she doesn't really like. Stay away from activities that reflect your personality, such as playing paintball or going to see an artwork; rather try one of the following more neutral dates:
- Be a tourist in your city. Go for a walk in the most beautiful park in the city, visit a museum you were planning to see, take a ferry ride so you can appreciate the beautiful skyline. Find a business that everyone in your area likes.
- Buy tickets to go see a movie. Pick a famous one that both boys and girls like.
- Find a place where they have live music. You can get up and dance when you feel like it.
- Find a football match. True, some people hate sports, but you probably know at least that about the person you're dating, right?
- Go to a restaurant, ice cream parlor, cafe, kiosk or bar (if appropriate)
- Go to a fair or amusement park. There is usually a little bit of everything, including games, food, shows, and so on.
Step 2. Plan an adventure
If you know the person you're dating well enough to think they'll appreciate the idea of doing something outside the box, you have plenty of options for planning an incredibly fun date. Doing something adventurous together and maybe a little scary is a great way to bond and get to know each other better as you face your fears. Here are some ideas:
- Go to an amusement park and ride a roller coaster together. Holding hands on the Ferris wheel is also a positive sign.
- Go to a water park and take advantage of the water slides. Remember to tell the person you are going out with to bring your swimsuit!
- Try an adventure sport together. Skiing, snowboarding, surfing, kayaking, snorkeling, rock climbing, abseiling and caving are all great options.
- If you are a daredevil couple, you could try skydiving or bungee jumping.
- Take or rent a bike and choose a route together.
- Try something unusual, which you may never have tried before: learn how to play the didgeridoo, take tango lessons, participate in a theater improvisation workshop, a Mongolian cooking class, learn how to play curling. Not all adventures need to be physically challenging; something artistic, intellectual or a musical adventure can be just as exciting or interesting.
Step 3. Make everything ultra-romantic
If your idea of the perfect date is to be sweet from start to finish, plan a day that offers you and your partner plenty of time to be alone and opportunities to help reinforce early feelings even more. love. Choosing a beautiful environment is the key to everything, so find a place in your area that is undoubtedly beautiful and an activity that does not involve getting dirty or sweating. Try one of these:
- Go for a walk by the sea, lake or river. Water will provide the perfect environment for a love to blossom. If there is a nice stone bridge, take a walk on it. If you rent boats in that area, rent a rowboat or pedal boat so that you can spend some romantic moments on the water without getting wet.
- Take a walk in the historic center of the city, preferably in a street full of quaint cafes, ice cream parlors and cute boutiques where you can buy each other sweet thoughts.
- Book tickets for a play. It would be better if the show had a romantic element and a happy ending, as a sad show could disrupt the mood of the evening. If you don't like theatrical performances, go to the planetarium or some other place to spend time together in the dark side by side.
Step 4. Think about your safety
Especially on a first date, make sure you or the person you're dating are not in a vulnerable position. In general, this means trying not to be completely alone and not totally dependent on the other person:
- Meet in a public place: cinema, restaurant, fair, nightclub, stadium, concerts. Make sure it is a well-lit place and that it is popular. A moonlit beach can certainly be romantic, but choose the lighted pier instead of a more secluded area.
- Try to have a means of transportation instead of being dependent on the other person. Even if he offers to drive you home, make sure you have a friend who can pick you up or schedule the appointment according to the bus schedule, or maybe call a taxi.
- Bring some cash, even if you don't expect to have to pay. You may need to pay for the taxi, to pay for your drinks or for an emergency.
- Be extremely careful with drinks, especially alcohol. Unfortunately, they are known in cases where someone adds drugs to drinks. Make sure you always have an eye on the glass in which the drink is poured. Have the barman serve your drink. Drink things you know, straight from the bottle instead of opting for cocktails.
- If you live or are in a dormitory, leave the door open. Young adults especially, may have a more suitable environment to entertain someone. Leaving the door open creates a situation where both of you are not completely isolated.
Step 5. Stay home for an intimate evening
If a storm is raging outside, or if you're both an introverted person who would rather stay at home than go out and go to a party, invite the person you like for an intimate evening at home. Inviting someone to your home is a rather intimate affair, as the other person will learn a lot about you just by taking a look at your living room. If you are ready to take this step, plan your quiet evening like this:
- Make sure the house is very clean. If the person you like walks into a dirty house, this will probably be a red flag for them. Cleaning shows that her thinking is important to you.
- Create a romantic setting. Make sure the light is soft and a little subdued. Cool the air by lighting a delicate incense or scented candle before the other person arrives. Make sure the space is welcoming.
- Be careful not to force your hand too hard. Soft lighting, Barry White music in the background, and the smell of incense might be a little too suggestive for your girlfriend's first visit. It could be interpreted as a rather sleazy thing.
- Schedule an activity. Choose a few movies or shows to watch or group some albums to share with the person you like.
- Try to have topics to start a conversation with. If you have objects that highlight your interests and personality, this makes the conversation easier. You probably already have several scattered around the house. For example: your paintings, your guitar, your photographic portfolio, your dog, your trophies and so on.
- Go easy on the bedroom. Being too cheeky and inviting the person into your bedroom could send a pretty strong message. There is nothing wrong with bringing the person to your room, but if they are not comfortable, be sure to make it clear that it is possible to go elsewhere as well.
Part 2 of 3: Deciding where to eat
Step 1. Choose the perfect restaurant
Your date can be extraordinary in almost any type of restaurant, whether it's a wine bar-style place with great margaritas or a French restaurant with main courses for 25 euros. There's no need to pick the most expensive restaurant in town, unless you're trying to impress the person you're dating by showing them you're wealthy. Choose a restaurant known for its great atmosphere and delicious food.
- You could opt for a place you've already been to or a place that has been recommended to you by someone you know. Nothing ruins a date like ending up in a restaurant with insanely high prices or food and service not up to par.
- Check the prices on the menu. You can often get a sample of the menu online and reading restaurant reviews can give you an idea of how much you're going to spend. This helps avoid an awkward situation: not having enough money or finding yourself in a low-key or overpriced restaurant.
- If you set up the date, plan to pay the person you're dating for dinner.
Step 2. Make it casual and fun
If you've spent the day doing something adventurous like kayaking in the sea and a dinner served at the table seems too formal or expensive, consider opting for a casual meal. You could have lunch or dinner by stopping in front of one of those vans that sell food on the street or buy a sandwich at a deli near the beach. Match the food to the activity you intend to do.
- If you plan on being very active all day, you might want to consider going on a picnic. Bring a bottle of wine or champagne with you to share with your partner to make it even more special.
- While a casual dinner is perfect for a date, avoid eating at a fast food restaurant if you can. It is not the price of the food that matters, but the originality. Take the person you're dating to a special place. When she tells her best friend the details, you don't want her description to have room for, "And then we went to McDonalds."
Step 3. Cook dinner at home
Nothing could be more romantic than planning and cooking an entire dinner for the person you like. If you're planning on staying home for your date, it's a way to make the other person feel very special. Plus, having good cooking skills is sexy and admirable. Just make sure you cook something you've tried before, so you'll be sure of the result and know that it tastes delicious.
- You don't need to make a complicated six-course lunch, but you shouldn't invite someone over to your house for a frozen pizza. If you are going to cook at home, make something from scratch.
- Making a pasta dish is easy and relatively inexpensive.
Part 3 of 3: Organizing the End of the Evening
Step 1. Don't forget the dessert
You can have dessert in the same restaurant where you ate or go to another place to end the evening. Regardless of what kind of date you have, it's nice to include something sweet at the end. This is a gentle finishing touch that shows the other person that you have thought through planning the evening. Plus, it gives you the opportunity to share a dessert, just like in the movies.
- Going out for ice cream is a nice way to end a date during the summer.
- If you cook at home, consider offering her a chocolate cake. It is the most romantic kind of dessert.
- If the person you're dating isn't a sweet tooth, you might want to go to a bar for a drink before bed instead. Of course, if you don't drink or are underage, the latter is not a good idea.
- It may happen that someone cannot eat desserts that are too sweet, especially if they have diabetes. Or he could have an allergy, a food intolerance, a disease or something like that. Just try to be flexible and understanding.
Step 2. Finish with a flourish
Ending a date can be a little awkward if you haven't thought about it before. Think a little about how you would like it to go. After dinner, will you each go home on their own? Are you going to take her home after dessert? Maybe you'd like to invite her back to your home. Think about the logistical question so that you don't find yourself in that awkward moment when you think "what now?" after an otherwise perfect date.
- Make sure you have the house tidy in case you end the night yourself. Don't take the person you went out with home so that they see your kitchen with the plates from the night before stacked in the sink and the dirty laundry piled on the floor.
- End the evening in positivity. It may not be easy. In general, try to end the evening at a "logical" moment. For example, when the last movie show ends, offer to take her home. Generally, it is better to finish a little early than to do it a little late.
- Kiss, hug … or something else? The end of the evening, especially on a first date, is often marked by a gesture, and at times, this particular moment can get quite awkward.
Step 3. Remember that you can't schedule everything
Once you have your appointment scheduled, all you can do is follow the flow of events, try to relax and have a good time. If something goes wrong - for example, if the restaurant accidentally cancels your reservation or traffic prevents you from arriving on time for the show - it's much better to stay calm than to get mad in front of the person you're dating. Remember that the most important thing is to have a good time together and get to know each other better, so that you feel closer to the end of the evening than you were at the beginning. If this happens, consider the appointment well organized.
