You like your best friend, but how do you know if you are loved in return? If all goes well, and this feeling is mutual, then it will surely turn out beautifully. On the other hand, if she were to turn down your proposal, the discomfort could work its way along with other negative consequences. Make this decision by believing in yourself, but make sure you know the possible repercussions of your statement.
Steps
Step 1. Consider the reasons why you like this girl
The choice to make the statement could harm the friendship. Make sure you make the right decision before asking her this big question.
Step 2. Check with your mutual friends to find out if she's interested in anyone
One of them may already know how he feels about you. Knowing in advance if she considers you just a friend or if she likes you will make you feel more confident about choosing to declare yourself or not. In fact, if you know she likes you, you can step forward without any problems; otherwise, you won't run the risk of damaging the relationship.
Step 3. Test what you will tell your friend
It's not a problem at all to declare yourself spontaneously, but get an idea of the words you will use before you talk to her about it.
Step 4. Prepare for a negative response
As confident as you feel, there's always a chance this girl will reject you. Try to accept this probability: if you get a "two of spades", at least it won't be a cold shower.
Step 5. Make an appointment with your friend so you can see each other alone
Talking about it in person is undoubtedly more sincere than making a statement over the phone or online. Also, you should be alone: since you are going to ask her a rather personal question, the presence of your friends could cause you anxiety or discomfort.
Step 6. Analyze his body language
If he seems to feel comfortable both physically and emotionally when he is in your company, you are more likely to give you a positive response. Does it seem detached? In this case, better reconsider the statement.
Step 7. Ask him
Declare yourself at the right time. Believe in yourself and sincerely express your feelings.
Step 8. Respect his decision
If your friend answers the question positively, then congratulations! If she says no, tell her that you respect her decision, don't insult her or react badly.
Advice
- Try to observe the signs and clues she sends you: they could help you understand if she likes you and it will be easier to decide if it is worth coming forward.
- Whatever happens, do your best to stay calm.
- Don't go too far and don't expect an immediate response. Your friend may be surprised and need time to think.
- If you really like her so much, try to get even closer to her and get to know her better before taking this step.
- Ask for it at the right time.
- Don't try to understand what it feels like by making jokes about a hypothetical life as a couple. She may think you are joking because you are not interested in her at all from that point of view.
- As you try to figure out if she's interested in you, try flirting with her more often and see how she reacts.
- Make sure you don't talk too much - a very long conversation could make her uncomfortable.
Warnings
- Think about the pros and cons before doing it. Ask yourself if it's worth the risk of ruining the friendship.
- Try not to be around him all the time - you might be considered clingy.
- You may get rejected. If so, do your best to respect his decision and move on.
- Don't ask her if she likes you if she's already committed to another guy.
- If she says no, don't think you're the problem and don't get down on yourself. A rejection does not define your personal worth.
