Texting a guy you like can be exciting, but also stressful and a little scary. You will probably be very nervous at first, but if you can keep your cool, you will soon become an ace. By asking a few funny questions and teasing him just a little, you can pique his interest and show him that you are a nice, interesting and intelligent person.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Finding an Irresistible Opening
Step 1. Be confident by sending a message first
Maybe you'd rather have him text you first, but if you beat him on time, you can be in control of the conversation and show him you're a confident girl. He will be impressed and perhaps even relieved that you took the initiative.
But you don't always have to start the conversation. If you sent the first text the last few times you spoke, let him contact you once to see if he's really interested
Step 2. Talk about an experience you have shared
Mentioning something you've talked about or done together is a great way to start the conversation naturally. It will serve to establish that there is something that binds you, even if you only went out in a group. To be sure he will respond to the message, formulate it as a question.
- If you're in class together, for example, you might make a funny comment about a teacher, like, "Was it me or was Rossi weirder than usual this morning?"
- If you've had a memorable conversation, you could turn it into a private joke between the two of you by saying something like, "Okay, I still can't believe you don't like ice cream. How can you not like ice cream ??".
- If you recently met him at an event, such as a party or game, refer to your meeting in a joking way; for example: "Are you the guy who saved me yesterday from a Coke shower?".
Step 3. Surprise him with a funny question
Being a little spontaneous is a great way to get her attention, especially if she has a sense of humor. Opening the conversation with a nice question will surely pique his interest and lead him to answer. Here are a couple of examples:
- "I know it's a weird question, but I absolutely have to know: if you could only eat one type of food for the rest of your life, which one would you choose?"
- "I'm having a discussion with a friend of mine about a fundamental question and you need to determine who's right, so focus: Is the hot dog technically a sandwich?"
Step 4. Give him some ambiguous compliments
Everyone likes to get a good shot of self-esteem, but you don't have to overdo it, or you may seem too into it. Compliment him by teasing him a bit at the same time so that you are impressed, but not too impressed. For instance:
- "I heard that you scored the victory point in yesterday's game … maybe you are not so hampered in sport!;)"
- "You know when you fixed my thermostat the other day? Well, don't freak out, but now my roommate thinks you're some kind of handyman hahahaha"
- "It's great that they gave you the lead role in the play, but don't forget who knew you before you got famous: P"
Step 5. Challenge him to do something
Guys are often competitive and love to challenge themselves. Send him a message with a fun challenge or a nice request and you will see that he will be eager to impress you by showing you that he can succeed. You could write:
- "Hey, I hear you're a great cook! I don't believe it until you make me something."
- "Everyone says that you are very good at playing guitar, maybe you should play for me, so I can confirm!"
Part 2 of 3: Keeping His Interest Alive
Step 1. Ask him questions about the things he likes
Think about what his interests are and move the conversation in that direction. Doing so will give him a chance to show you who he really is and you can create a stronger bond. Remember to keep the tone of the conversation playful and light so it doesn't get too serious.
- For example, if you know he likes sports, ask him which teams he supports, how they are doing this year, how and why he started following them.
- You can also ask him questions about his pets, the TV series he follows, his favorite subjects or the places he has visited.
- Let him know that you agree with him by saying, "Yes, I think so too!" and jokes when you are not, saying: "In my opinion you are wrong, but I forgive you;)".
Step 2. Grab it around a bit to keep it on the string
Many guys like to "chase" girls and throwing a few digs will make them want your approval even more. Tease him with a few jokes to keep his interest alive and leave him wanting to know what else you will say.
- For example, if he is going to play soccer with his friends, you could write: "Try to score at least one goal this time!: P".
- If you sit next to him at lunch, you could text him later saying something like: "I saw you made your own lunch today! This time it even seemed edible …;)".
- Only mock him on minor matters; avoid touching sensitive topics such as family, physical appearance or political views, especially if you are not yet familiar with him.
Step 3. Talk about what you do in your spare time
You have to make him understand that you are interested in him, but that your life does not revolve around him. Introduce a few small details about yourself to pique his curiosity and get him to ask you questions.
- By showing that you have your own life, you will make yourself more interesting and fascinating in his eyes.
- If, for example, you're talking about a pet, you could write: "I've never had a dog, I'm definitely a cat lover … but I could always change my mind, you never know;)".
Step 4. Don't use too many emojis and exclamation marks
It can be overkill and make you seem insecure. Inserting an emoji or exclamation point every now and then is fine, but avoid putting more than one or using them at the end of each message.
- Once you understand how he writes, you can adapt to his style and eventually start sending more emojis. In the beginning, however, it is better not to take risks and to keep it simple!
- If your message seems to be too enthusiastic, it probably really is. When in doubt, play it safe and moderate it a bit.
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Step 5. Don't worry about his shorter messages
If it gives you a concise answer like "Ok" or if it doesn't answer at all, don't panic! There can be many reasons why he couldn't answer you or text you longer, so don't fret. Leave the phone alone for a while and distract yourself by doing something else.
- Some kids take longer than others to respond; notice how long it usually takes and adjust your expectations accordingly.
- Avoid asking him why it took him so long to answer when he finally does - it will seem like you've been thinking about it. Be calm and relaxed, continuing the conversation as if nothing had happened.
Step 6. Don't text him too many, especially if he doesn't respond
It's great that you're enjoying talking to him, it means you're getting in tune! But you don't have to overdo it. If you constantly text him or send him long messages about the smallest things, you risk appearing in need of attention.
- If you're just starting to hear from each other, try not to send him more than 2-3 messages in a row without getting a response first.
- If you start to feel anxious about not responding, drop the phone and do something else for a while.
Step 7. Be yourself
No matter how much you want him to like you, don't try to be who you are not. Let your humor, your intelligence and your personality emerge spontaneously. Don't force yourself to behave differently just to appear more attractive.
- Guys are attracted to self-confident girls, so the best thing you can do is be yourself.
- Remember that there is no point in creating the perfect conversation if you are completely different in person!
Part 3 of 3: Getting Wanted
Step 1. End the conversation when it is at its peak
If the conversation ends when he's already at a standstill, it's unlikely he (or you) will be dying to talk again. Greet him just when you are having the most fun.
- It can be hard to stop just when the conversation is going well, but it will keep him thinking about you and can't wait to talk to you again.
- Use your instincts to figure out when the time is right: if he is amused by your joke, if he has just asked you an interesting question or in general if he shows that he is particularly involved in the conversation.
Step 2. Greet him with an apology
Telling him you're busy, even if you don't really have to do something, is a natural and relaxed way to end the conversation. In this way, on the one hand, you will not hurt his ego, because it will not seem that you are neglecting him or that you are not interested in him, on the other hand you will arouse his curiosity about what you do during the day. You could write:
- "Ugh, I have to go prepare dinner … you'll have to wait to find out what I think;)"
- "I'm sorry to deprive you of my wonderful humor, but I have to go study!"
- "I have to drive, if you're lucky I'll write to you when I get to my destination;)"
Step 3. End the conversation with a question to keep him thinking about you
For example, you can write: "I have to go, I'm sorry! Anyway, what do you think of …?" This is a bombproof way to get him to respond and at the same time not have to immediately reply back. She'll spend the rest of the day checking her cell phone to see if you answered!
Try saying something like: "I have to go, I'm sorry! Anyway, do you think Roma have any chances this year?"; or: "Damn, I have to go … but have you started seeing the new season of that series? It's fantastic."
Step 4. Mention the possibility of future meetings
The best conversations via text lead to having them live! To increase the chances of meeting him in person, suggest that you might see him later or another day, but without making any specific plans. Being a little mysterious will make him even more anxious to see you.
- For example, you could write: "See you later … maybe …"; or: "Maybe we'll meet tomorrow;)".
- To continue on a provocative note, try saying something like: "I know you can't wait to meet me at school tomorrow;)".
