How to Tell a Guy You Like You (with Pictures)

2024 Author: Samantha Chapman | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 09:13

And so, there is a guy you like. Congratulations. Admitting it is a first step, but telling him is the hardest part. This article will guide you through the process of flirting, getting to know him better, and finally sharing your feelings. Courage!

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Let them know

Step 1. Find out first if they like you

If so, go ahead confident, after all you have nothing to lose! If he doesn't like you, don't despair, it will take time to convince him. If he's dating another girl, forget it. If she doesn't have feelings for you, you can still be friends with her and keep flirting. Here are some ways to get information about a guy before approaching him:

• Ask around about him, or if you're shy, ask a friend to help you figure out if he likes you. If, on the other hand, you know for sure that he likes you, you can allow yourself to be daring.
• Look for any clues left voluntarily. If he's interested, he'll go out of his way to be with you - this doesn't always turn out to be so, but it's often a good sign. He'll find an excuse to sit next to you, introduce himself to all the activities you're involved in, and even start hanging out with your friends. Watch for these signs.
• If you notice that he is staring at you, make eye contact and try to maintain contact for a few seconds. If he keeps looking at you too, then it means he likes you. If he turns around instead, it could mean he likes you, but he's shy. Be careful though, because there can be several reasons why a person stares at you; for example, you may have some salad in your teeth!

Step 2. Start a simple conversation with him

Before you ask him out or tell him you like him, you need to talk to him as a friend, to get to know each other better and start getting more confident. It will be a good opportunity to learn more about him, the new information could influence your decision to open your heart to him. Here are some tips on how to start a conversation:

• Tell him something that flatters him. A good way to start the conversation is to talk about something that makes him feel good. Try with:

  • "You played a good game on Friday. I was in the stands watching you with a friend. How long have you been playing?"
  • "You are always the best at homework in English. Can you read the mind of the teacher or just the English teacher?"
  • "I like your hair. Have you recently cut it?"

  

  Step 3. Talk about the things you have in common

  A great way to start a conversation is to talk about the things you could potentially do together (they don't necessarily have to be related to a common interest - they might like doing them with you anyway). This will make you both more comfortable.

  • Here are some useful examples for attaching a button:

    • "Hey, do you know what math homework is? I left my diary at school and I don't remember them by heart."
    • "Does your brother go to that school? I believe my sister is sharing one of the lessons with him."
    • "I noticed you have a Schwinn bike. How are you? I wanted to ask my parents to give me one for Christmas."
  • It might seem obvious, but it's worth a mention: don't tell him you like him until you've at least started to get some confidence. Revealing your feelings towards him out of the blue may scare him. At the very least, you will influence the course of any possible courtship or friendship.

  

  Step 4. Try flirting with him

  Guys are stereotypically unable to notice when girls are flirting with them and the web is full of guides trying to answer the question is flirting with me?. But that doesn't mean you need to flirt more, but you have to keep in mind that he may not flirt back, even if he likes you.

  • When he talks to you, play with his hair while you listen to him. It's a natural action that doesn't mean anything, but if he pays attention to it and points it out to you, then it means you've hit his interest. This is a simple flirting strategy you can use.

  • Ask him to do you a favor. It's a nice way, but it can be counterproductive for a variety of reasons - she may not want to do it because she feels embarrassed in front of her friends. Try to ask for small favors like:

    • Ask him to bring your backpack to class. Tell him it's heavy and that you want someone who is strong enough to help you.
    • Ask him to help you with your homework, even if you don't need it. This is a perfect excuse to get close to him and also an indicator of how patient he is.
    • Above all, try not to show yourself in need - avoid getting help with a move or anything like that!
  • Smile, show him your gaze and be available. Show him all the qualities that make you attractive. Show a beaming smile, your lovely eyes, and be around him. It will soon start to notice you!

  

  Step 5. Look for physical contact

  Start showing him that you are interested by touching him in quiet but suggestive body parts. Try something like this:

  • Pretend you're bored and rest your head on his shoulder, or just put your hand on his shoulder. Look him in the eye and see if he returns your gaze.
  • When he teases you, gently pat him on the shoulder. You can pretend to be annoyed or react with a laugh.
  • Find excuses to touch it. If he has big hands, take them and say something like "wow what a big hands you have compared to mine!" and put your hands on his.

  

  Step 6. If you are ready to tell him, there are several ways to do it

  If you feel brave enough, just tell him, but not in front of his friends; wait for the right time. Try to look confident, or rather, try to be. Start speaking normally and at the first pause, tell him.

  

  Step 7. If you are afraid of what he will answer you, simply ask him for a date

  This is a good method as you are not asking him if he likes you, but if he wants to go somewhere with you. If he reacts positively, then there's no reason he shouldn't say yes! Try with:

  • "Hey I was going to see a movie on Saturday, then my friend blew me up. Do you want to come with me?"
  • "I can't wait to go see the haunted house of the new amusement park, but I haven't found anyone brave enough to go there. Would you come?"
  • "My parents and I go to the town festival every year, don't ask me why it's a long story, but they asked me if I wanted to take a schoolmate with me. Do you want to come?"

  

  Step 8. If you'd rather be less direct write him some messages, or ask a trusted friend to deliver them to him for you

  • Write a cute note that says "I like you" and stick it on his locker.
  • Write "I like you" on a piece of paper, making sure to write only to whom it is directed, and not who it comes from. Ask some of your friends to pass the note nonchalantly. If he looks around expectantly, you can either let him know that you wrote it, or let him guess.

  

  Step 9. Whatever he tells you, be sure of yourself

  If he says yes (and he should!) Rest assured that he likes you for who you are. Don't question his reaction - would you shoot yourself in the foot if you really asked him? if he should reply that he returns your interest. You have every reason to trust yourself.

  If your interest is unpaid, dismiss it naturally by simply saying, Okay, don't worry. Then move on. Remember that a no does not at all imply that he finds you horrible. Its motives can be complex. Understand that his personal tastes certainly can't define you, and that the world is full of guys who would feel remarkably lucky at the very idea of being able to go out with you. Always remember that

  

  Step 10. If you feel like daring, text him like "My God, what a physical he has (his name)!"

  "and then send him another one that says," Sorry it wasn't meant for you, but for my friend. "If he likes you, he has no reason not to ask you out.

  Part 2 of 3: Mental Preparation

  

  Step 1. Analyze your feelings towards him

  Love can be confusing. Give yourself at least a couple of days to understand what you are feeling and follow the advice contained in this article. If you get carried away with impulsiveness, you may find that your feelings are not long-lasting.

  • Ask yourself questions like these: Am I really in love with this guy or is this just a passing infatuation?; What do I like about him?; What is the result I want to achieve?. If you can't find the answer to these questions, try to get to know him better before proceeding further.
  • Only you are able to really understand if you like the person. However, if you are feeling particularly daring, you can try taking an online test and interpret the results however you like.

  

  Step 2. Don't overdo your imagination

  No matter how handsome the guy you like is, he is and remains a human being. He probably has the same fears as you about expressing his real feelings for someone. Likewise, although it may not be evident from the outside, it may have multiple flaws… like all of them. Don't get deeply involved in emotions for a relationship that hasn't started yet.

  If you think of him only as a perfect Adonis, try to mentally notice some of his details that make him even the least bit funny or out of place! Does it have a beginning of baldness? Do you spell some words incorrectly? Recognizing that no one is perfect makes everyone more reachable, even the cutest guys

  

  Step 3. Pay attention to his behavior

  Do you think that you reserve any particular attention? Do you often smile in your company? Or, on the contrary, does he do everything he can to provoke you and then playfully pretend to ignore you? All of these signs can indicate that he likes you. If you can catch any possible clues that he is attracted to you, it will be easier to tell him how you feel!

  A guy's body language can reveal his inner emotions. Does he stretch his chest and shoulders towards you even when his attention is momentarily occupied by something else? Does he frequently make eye contact with you? Maybe he's looking for a way to tell a girl he's attracted to it

  

  Step 4. Understand that a negative answer is not the end of the world

  Although you are preparing well, your interest may not be paid. Accept this possibility and try not to worry about it; if his answer is no, it doesn't mean he hates you. He may not want to go out with you at the moment, and there could be a variety of reasons. Here are some of them:

  • He may have just gotten out of a complicated relationship.
  • He may be too emotionally immature to be in a relationship.
  • He may simply appreciate being single.

  

  Step 5. Abandon the idea that man has to take the first step

  In the past, a woman who asked a man out was considered scandalous. Nowadays, however, this connotation has almost completely disappeared. However, there are still many women who hesitate to make the first move. A 2011 study, in which most people were college-age, found that 93% of women prefer men to take the initiative. Be proactive! You'll get more dates if you find the confidence to approach a man yourself.

  Part 3 of 3: After her yes

  

  Step 1. Arrange an appointment

  Strike while the iron is hot - don't let your attraction fade as you both fear planning a date together. You won't need to go out on the same day that you confessed your mutual interest, but try to schedule an appointment in the following weeks. By spending time together, you will get to know each other better and understand if you are romantically similar.

  • A good time for a date is the first weekend that follows after the statement.
  • For your first date together, choose an activity that allows you to talk at least part of the time. For example, if you want to go to the cinema, add a dinner too. A good first date is casual, relaxed, and allows you to be yourself.

  • It doesn't have to be extravagant. A great first date can be a simple picnic in the park followed by schoolwork. Here are some low-cost tips to get inspired if you're running out of ideas:

    • A local party, fair or amusement park.
    • Roller or ice skating. If one of you is not a great skater, even better, you will have to support each other in order not to fall.
    • An excursion, for example to reach the top of the nearest hill or cliff, will be rewarded with a wonderful and romantic view.

    

    Step 2. Don't be intimidated

    The time between the time of the statement and your first date can be nerve-wracking, but try not to worry too much. A first date is a good opportunity to get to know a person better.

    If you can't control your nervousness, talk to a friend. Maybe he'll be able to tell you some funny anecdotes about first dates. At the very least, she'll be able to convince you that a first date shouldn't be so terribly stressful

    

    Step 3. Keep in touch, but don't overdo it

    Feel free to send him a couple of flirtatious messages before you meet, but avoid overdoing it. You may be tempted to shower him with compliments, especially if you have a big crush on each other. Resist the temptation, too much and too soon can prove to be an embarrassing combination, especially if her past love experiences are scarce. Some argue that it is even better to create a sense of mystery before the first date by maintaining total silence.

    

    Step 4. On the first date, be yourself

    When you are certain that your feelings are reciprocated, you will be inclined to change your behavior slightly. But remember, he likes you for who you are, so there's no need to turn you into a sexy queen on your first date. Act as you usually do in his presence, make the same jokes, make fun of him the same way. If you really are the right person for him, you won't need to do anything else!

    Advice

    • If you think he likes you, try being closer to him, such as sitting next to him or walking next to him.
    • If you want to ask him if he likes you, do it when he's alone. If he is in the company of friends he will be under pressure to try to show himself up to it, and will be inclined to say no, regardless of how he really feels.
    • If he refuses you, don't ask him why and don't feel hurt. And don't ignore it. Go on with your life as if nothing has happened. At least he'll know you like him and maybe he'll start looking at you in a different light.
    • Guys have feelings too. If he seems nervous or blushes, don't laugh, don't make fun of him, and don't insult him. This can be provocative if done jokingly, but only when you are more confident.
    • If you've decided it's time to tell him you like him, do it gently. Start by talking about something that interests him, then give him clues.
    • The worst place to confess your feelings is at a party. You could ask him to seclude you and talk privately, but once back among his friends he could tell everyone about your conversation.
    • Don't tell him you like it by email or text. Everyone appreciates more those who have the courage to say it in person.
    • Joke and make jokes appropriate to the conversation. Guys like funny girls.
    • Act naturally as if you are comfortable with him. You've heard it hundreds of times before, but be yourself. You don't have to change just to be accepted by the other person. If he really likes you, he will accept you for who you are.
    • During this time try not to flirt with other guys, at least not in his presence. Focusing on him will show him your interest.
    • You could try inviting him to study at your home. You will be alone and relaxed if you decide to open your heart to him.

    Warnings

    • If you tell him you like him, don't expect him to take it well. He may be more or less shocked, and if he is, it means he didn't have the faintest idea that you liked him.

    • Make a selection of the people you tell him you like, especially if you go to the same school, because words travel fast. The best way to keep the secret is to keep it to yourself. If you really have to tell someone, tell someone who knows how to keep the secret, or even better, a distant person who won't go and tell them (like a pen pal or someone who goes to another school).

      Never tell a friend or ask for feedback, as it can be counterproductive (the friend can tell him or give you false information)

    • Don't make him jealous - it's misleading and doesn't work! Games of this type are a disincentive for him.
    • If you are good friends, try to figure out if he likes you before you tell him; if he does not reciprocate your feelings, he may begin to ignore you and the friendship will then be ruined.
    • If your friends don't support your choice, they probably know or see things in him that you don't see or know. Ask questions, they might help you in the long run.
    • Don't show off, you could make him feel uncomfortable.
    • Never raise questions related to his past if you know something. At best he will liquidate you by asking you what reason you have for reviving his past; in the worst case, you will look like a nosy.
    • Don't text all the time, as it would seem obsessive and ridiculous. Wait for him to text you, reply to him, and then notice how long it takes him to reply.
    • Don't be too fond of him in front of his friends. To avoid being teased and to keep up appearances, he will not react to your gestures.
    • If he is more interested in your body than in what you say, maybe you shouldn't go any further!
    • Try to be determined. Hesitating and not getting to the point can be irritating at times. If he does not reciprocate your feelings, it is right that you know it so that you can go further. If you love them back, you'll be glad you told them!
    • If you ask him for help, make sure you have a lot of things to do, otherwise he'll think you're just picky.
    • For older men and women: Most men have no problem telling a girl they are attracted to her, thus saving you the trouble of having to say it first. Just make sure you let him know the feeling is mutual.