He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me … He will surely love you, if you play your cards right. Try some strategies that, without attracting attention, will lead him to consider you more than just a friend, such as winning over his friends or flirting with body language. At that point, take a step forward by showing yourself vulnerable, learning what makes him happy, and showing the best and most confident part of you.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Change the Way He Thinks About You
Step 1. Spend a lot of time with him so that you are always in his thoughts
The closer you are to him, the more he will think about you, even if subconsciously. Attend events where you know you will find him, like go to his team's football match, or hang out at his favorite clubs, like the local bar.
- Avoid acting like a stalker or choking him. If you are suddenly always around him, he will become suspicious or uncomfortable.
- Make sure you meet him in situations where you look your best. For example, if you know you're going to see him at the gym, put on a cute outfit. If you're attending the same party, challenge him to a game of ping pong (or show off another of your secret talents!).
Step 2. Plan an adventurous activity with him to make him feel attracted to you
Adrenaline and fear produce the same brain reactions as physical attraction, so plan a high-tension date, like rock climbing or a roller coaster ride at a nearby amusement park. He will begin to associate these feelings of arousal with you, rather than with the event itself.
- Try a simple activity like watching a horror movie or go on an adventure like indoor skydiving.
- While it's best to arrange meetings for the two of you alone, so that he thinks of you when he remembers the feeling, you can also invite him on group dates. Just make sure you spend quality time with him.
Step 3. Win over his friends so he knows he can trust you
People rely on their friends and take their opinions into account. If a guy notices that you get along well with his friends, he'll feel more comfortable with you. Find out what their group's favorite activities are and plan an outing all together, for example invite them to minigolf or brunch, so you get the chance to get to know them better.
- You can also invite your friends, so that he can meet them.
- Do some research on his friends before you meet them, for example by studying their profiles on social networks. It is important to know if Giovanni has left his girlfriend before asking him how she is!
- If she hasn't proposed meeting her friends yet and it's already been a couple of weeks since you're dating, introduce the topic yourself. You can say something like, "I was thinking it would be fun to invite our friends to watch the game this Saturday. Would you like that?"
- Always avoid talking bad about his friends or making fun of them. Even if he does it first, don't consider it an invitation to imitate him. If you don't have anything nice to say, avoid talking.
Step 4. Talk about love or romantic relationships, so that you associate yourself with those topics
If you want him to consider yourself a person he can fall in love with, train his brain to think about certain words, ideas, or feelings when he thinks of you by introducing them into conversations. For example, use the word "love" often when you talk to him, tell him a sweet story about a friend's new boyfriend, or tell him about a celebrity couple's latest romantic trip.
- Follow this advice discreetly so that your attitude is not forced or too obvious.
- For example, you could tell him that today is your parents' wedding anniversary or ask him if he has seen the latest romantic comedy just out. Try something like, "I love the new Jennifer Lawrence movie. Romantic comedies are so cute!"
- You can also use images or sounds, for example putting a playlist of love songs when you are together or wearing a cute t-shirt with a heart.
Method 2 of 3: Use Body Language
Step 1. Maintain eye contact to make him feel loved and appreciated
When two people love each other, they look into each other's eyes more often than anyone else. If you meet his eyes frequently while he speaks, you will arouse in him the feelings he experienced the last time he fell in love. He will associate these positive emotions with you.
- Avoid staring at him for too long or you will scare him. From time to time, look away, then return your eyes to him.
- You can also wink seductively. Frequent blinking is a natural reaction when you like someone, so this way you discreetly let them know that you are attracted to them.
Step 2. Imitate his movements to show him that you are in tune
If you copy his body language, tone, and behavior, he'll get the impression that you're on the same page. Smile when he does, lower your voice if he speaks softly and tilt your body like his.
- For example, if he rests his chin on the hand he is holding on the table, imitate him.
- This is also true when you walk together. Speed up or slow down to keep up with him.
- Avoid imitating everything he does. Try to maintain a natural behavior, instead of copying all the individual movements in a creepy way.
Step 3. Touch it often to create a physical bond
Studies have shown that by touching a person, you push them to feel more attraction to you. Find as many excuses as possible to get in touch with him, for example by placing your hand on his forearm when telling a funny joke or hugging him for a moment when you say hello.
- Try to make these contacts seem accidental if you don't want your intentions to be too obvious. For example, brush his arm when you get up to grab a drink or gently touch his foot under the table.
- Only touch it above the waist, so as not to exceed any limits and not make it uncomfortable. If in doubt, the safe points are arms, shoulders and face.
Other Ways to Conquer it with Body Language
Bite your lower lip when he looks at you.
Smile often to light up your face.
Look him in the eye and then observe his lips
Lean towards him or orient the body in its direction.
Method 3 of 3: Deepen Your Bond
Step 1. Find out what makes him feel most loved
Each person prefers to receive affection differently, for example through physical contact or gifts. Pay attention to what gestures make him happiest, so you can understand how he prefers to be loved. At that point, focus on that method of communicating your love so she knows you really understand.
For example, if he likes being told how special he is, be sure to say something like "Thanks for helping me with my homework, you're so smart!" or "I love the way you always know how to cheer me up."
Understanding How He Prefers To Be Loved
If he likes to receive compliments, words could be the way to his heart. Tell him how you feel about him, send him sweet messages or write him a romantic note.
If he is happier when you help him in doing something, he probably appreciates the people who are committed to him. For example, you could offer to help him with math or massage his back when it hurts.
If his face lights up every time you give him a gift, receiving gifts makes him feel appreciated. You could bring him his favorite dessert next time you see him.
If you feel sad when you are away, appreciate quality time. Plan an evening together at home or dedicate a Saturday afternoon to relaxation and pampering.
If he always wants to hold your hand, physical contact is important to him. Hug him more often or put your legs on his when sitting on the sofa.
Step 2. Fill the void in his life so he understands how much he needs you
If you can give him something that no one else gives him, he will likely develop strong feelings for you. For example, if no one supports him in his dream of becoming a professional footballer, he becomes his first fan.
- Think about your strengths too. If you are very good at listening, you can be the person to whom he tells all his deepest feelings.
- For example, if he always tells you that he can't talk to his friends when he's sad, you can say something like, "I'm always here if you need to talk to someone. I won't judge you!"
- Avoid trying to "fix" it. Staying by someone's side is different from trying to turn them into the person you think they should become.
Step 3. Share your secrets to create intimacy between you
By showing yourself open and vulnerable, you let him know that you trust him and that you want to create a closer emotional relationship. Tell him things about yourself that few people know, and be sure to listen carefully when he does the same.
- Start small, then share bigger and deeper stories about yourself as your relationship progresses.
- For example, on a first date, you can tell him that you love trashy reality shows. Then in the tenth meeting, you can tell him about your parents' divorce.
Step 4. Always show your best, so that he knows how wonderful you are
Instead of just focusing on how to get it, think about yourself. How can you give your best and be the confident and determined girl she deserves and desires? Work on yourself as much as you do on your relationship, dedicating time to your personal interests, hanging out with friends, and learning to love yourself for who you are.
- Avoid trying to become someone other than who you are. On the contrary, improve what you don't like about yourself.
- For example, instead of spending the weekend spying on his ex on Instagram, he uses those moments to improve his painting. He is more likely to fall in love with a girl with a lot of passions, interests, and who values herself before anyone else.
