This article offers advice on how to be and be perceived as an ideal husband and father. The only assurance that the author of this article can guarantee is that he is himself a husband and father who genuinely strives to do both roles well, while being aware that it is never enough. He himself is always learning.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: On Being a Good Husband
Step 1. Trust your wife and really do it
Remember, she is and will always be in charge of some of the most important aspects of your life. It would make no sense not to trust.
Step 2. Love your wife
It is equally important to be able to actually love your wife in order to be who she is to you. You, her husband, are no more (or less) person than she is. This means that you cannot give more or less importance to your individuality than you do to his. If you have done so without realizing it, now is the time to stop. If you've subdued her, it's your job to point it out and ask her to stop being too servile.
Step 3. Speak openly
When you have doubts about his integrity, as happens between two people who are together in a certain environment for a certain period of time, it is very important that you have an open heart discussion about the matter, to resolve the doubts as soon as possible.
Step 4. Pay attention to the sacrifices she makes for your relationship
She may make sacrifices to try to 'fix' something that is broken, but it's your job to make sure she doesn't do anything you don't agree with or aren't aware of. If you learn of any sacrifice he has made, it is your duty to reciprocate and see to it that his effort has not been wasted. How you do it is up to you, but you have to do it.
Step 5. Provide for the family, if that's your chosen role
If you are the one who maintains the family, you must, of course, 'provide'. It is your primary task, with no obligations on the part of those for whom you provide.
Step 6. Think of ways you can be more humane, or even magnanimous, if you like
The foregoing principles are not the only ones that can be followed. However, they are entered here with the belief that they can result in a highly satisfying married life, if taken seriously and lived to the full.
Method 2 of 2: Paternity
Step 1. Make yourself responsible for your child's current and future well-being, from the day he came into the world, and do it with a good heart
A father should not hold a grudge or fear because of his child's sex, skin color, or any other trait - be it natural or adopted. If a father has any doubts about it, he is immediately and naturally deprived of the ability to be a good father.
Step 2. You don't necessarily have to satisfy your child's every whim
Rather, select the best of what will genuinely benefit the guy without burning your wallet.
Step 3. Be constantly and continuously committed to your child's present and future well-being
A good father must be ready to make sacrifices for the sake of his son. If the child benefits from being away from home for school or other reasons, the father has the natural ability to endure the separation. And he must make good use of it. When they are not separated, his time, his ears, his patience and his advice are among the most important goods he can give to his child. He should never not want to give it to him.
Step 4. Show and receive trust
The extent to which one is a good father is reflected in the trust naturally placed in him by his son. Therefore it is imperative that a father never betrays his son's trust.
Step 5. Be a guide, not a best friend
Your child is not your mate. Your child needs you to provide more than just food, toys, medicine and so on. Your child needs you to give him the wisdom, strength and goodwill you have accumulated over the years. These will pass to him (or her) naturally, you just have to want it.
Step 6. Feel free to draw all that is positive from the above
Remember, you can be anything you want if you only really want it.
Advice
- Always be open to advice and criticism.
- Do not tolerate anything imposed on you. Nobody has the right to force you to do anything. If it happens, it is only because you have allowed it, consciously or not.
- Learn to say yes and say no, but more importantly, learn when to say 'which'. Make a sincere effort.
- Learn to respect others as you would like to be respected.
- Take everything positively. It's hard, but try, it's worth it.
- Always make informed choices.
- Learn to be friendly when needed.
