Becoming a parent is one of the most exciting moments in a couple's life. If you find out that you are pregnant, the first person you want to tell will surely be your husband or partner. However, it would be best to come up with an original or clever idea to break the happy news. With a little organization and preparation you can tell your husband that he is about to become a dad and have the memory of a special moment to cherish over time.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Giving the News
Step 1. Give your husband a positive pregnancy test
There are several ways to give your partner a positive pregnancy test, giving them a nice surprise. You could take a picture of the test or hand it in place of another object. Whatever solution you want to adopt, the other person will not expect what they are about to receive.
- Take a picture of the test and upload it to your computer. Set it as your desktop image.
- Let him know that you haven't been feeling well all day. When he's a little distracted, tell him you want to take his temperature. Go back, ask him if he can help you read the thermometer and give him the positive pregnancy test.
- Ask him to sign a birthday card for a friend. Hand him the positive pregnancy test instead of the pen.
Step 2. Present yourself with a special gift
Give him a special gift to celebrate the occasion when you break him the good news. If personalized, it can add to the surprise and excitement as you announce that you are pregnant - especially if she isn't expecting it - and make you remember this special moment forever.
- Customize a t-shirt with a short but cute lettering, for example the word "Dad" will be perfect. You could also get one that says "Future Dad" or one for the first child, if you are already a mother, that says "Big Brother" or "Big Sister".
- You could buy a trinket, such as a silver baby cup or a silver teething ring, and write a special dedication on a card, such as, "In a few months we will be able to engrave the name of our future family member on it."
- Reflect on your husband's interests and give him something inherent. For example, if you love hiking, buy a pair of hiking boots and a backpack and write: "For your new hiker friend."
- Buy a ceramic piggy bank in the shape of a pig and write on it: "Fundraising for our son's university."
- You can hide the gift in one of her drawers, closet, or gym bag so she finds out later in the day when she probably least expects it.
Step 3. Prepare a dinner, adding a surprise
Cook something special or eat at your favorite restaurant. Use this opportunity to put a surprise on his plate or tell him at a rather meaningful moment while you are together.
- Try making her favorite dishes or a dinner of baby food, including a baby food.
- You can go to your favorite restaurant to make the announcement even more special or memorable.
- You can devise various ways to inform your husband of the pregnancy. For example, try buying a plastic bottle at a party supply store and put it on his plate or you can ask the waiter to put it in what he orders.
- You could buy a bottle of wine and attach a special label announcing your husband that he is about to become a father. Similarly, you can create a label for something you cook together at home.
- If your husband suggests wine or beer over dinner, tell him you can't drink and explain why. Use some nice phrases, like, "Our child doesn't like the taste of wine (or beer) yet."
- Tell him with a dessert. Prepare or buy a cake that says "Congratulations, you are going to be a dad!".
Step 4. Send a note written by your child
Buy a cute card or decorated sheets of paper and write a letter or a dedication to your husband from your child. It doesn't have to be long or elaborate, but fun, sweet, and straight to the point.
- You don't necessarily have to get a birthday card for the birth of a baby. If it's simple, it can add to the surprise.
- Mail it so your husband has no idea what's in the envelope. Consider having another person write it so they don't know from your handwriting that you were the author.
- For example, write: "Dear Marco, I can't wait to meet you in eight months and I know that mom is looking forward to having new adventures with the two of us". Sign the card with "Your Child".
Step 5. Announce the news through another family member
If you have a pet or other children, get them to break the good news to your husband. In this way, you could catch him off guard and surprise him even more or it could be an opportunity to have another pleasant memory to cherish over time.
- If you have a dog or cat, try tying a tag around your neck announcing the news.
- You may also want to get a toy by having the dog or cat show it to your husband so that he has a clue about the unborn child.
- Have another child inform your husband through a very simple message, such as "Mom says she will have another baby", or a phrase that refers to the personality of your future child.
Step 6. Inform them with an announcement
To break the news to your husband, buy any kind of sign. You can go overboard by buying large advertising space, or be more discreet by getting a "baby on board" sticker to stick in the car.
- Make sure the ad matches your husband's personality. For example, if you've been trying to have a baby for a long time and your husband is an outgoing type, you could have a billboard posted along the daily commute he takes to work so that he sees it when he least expects it.
- If your husband is shy or doesn't like giving this kind of news to the world as soon as it happens, the "baby on board" sticker for the car is more discreet. Alternatively, stick it in the car or very casually somewhere in the house where it can be noticed.
- Write the good news on a small piece of paper to insert into a fortune cookie. Order some Chinese food and replace the message inside the fortune cookie with your own. Make sure he reads the sentence, so he will receive the surprise! You can also purchase a pack of fortune cookies that contain birth prediction. Many companies sell this type of product.
Step 7. Organize the scene
Borrow baby supplies from a friend or buy some items from a local store. Scatter what you got all over the house while your husband is at work. When he comes back, let him know what's going on or wait for him to ask you before breaking the wonderful news.
You could get some baby toys and set up a play corner in your living room. To have a similar effect in the kitchen, place bottles or packs of baby food
Step 8. Organize a treasure hunt
Without spending too much money, buy some items that imply that you are pregnant and arrange them around the house. Hide and display a note indicating your hiding place so that you can give him the good news as soon as he finds you.
Arrange what you bought so that your husband slowly discovers all the clues. If everything goes as you hope, he will understand what you intend to announce to him before he finds you
Step 9. Park your car in places intended for pregnant women
Go shopping at the supermarket and tell him you want to drive. When you arrive at the car park, maneuver by entering a place reserved for pregnant women.
Method 2 of 2: Prepare Together for the Baby's Arrival
Step 1. Realize that your life will change
A child significantly transforms personal and couple life. By identifying and talking about the inevitable changes that will take place, it is possible to avoid misunderstandings and the emergence of any problems in the relationship.
- Women are led to devote themselves completely to caring for the baby in the first months after birth. Take this into account along with related changes to help your husband prepare psychologically.
- For example, most mothers do not want to have sex in the first few months after giving birth, and some do not even want to have sex during pregnancy. However, men do not undergo this change. Realize that this is hormonal and decide what to do to deal with this situation.
Step 2. Find out
You have many books and websites available to prepare you to welcome your child. Talk to your doctor, friends, texts and websites to deal with pregnancy together.
- Ask your doctor and friends for tips and resources that may be helpful during and after pregnancy.
- It would also be wise to consult texts explaining what happens in the woman's body during each stage of gestation so that you can understand both changes you are experiencing.
Step 3. Focus on the relationship with your husband
One of the best gifts you can give your child is to establish a strong partnership with the father. By keeping your relationship strong and healthy throughout pregnancy and beyond, you can prepare yourself to care for your unborn baby in the most effective way.
- It's important to discuss everything right now, including expectations, family values, and how to raise children. Even if you fully agree on these points, if the need arises, find some compromise that does not jeopardize your relationship.
- Plan to spend a lot of time together enjoying life as a couple. You can go for a walk, go out together a few more nights or plan other vacations to strengthen your bond.
Step 4. Discuss your financial resources and workload
Children involve expenses and require a lot of time and attention. By talking about your financial possibilities and how to share the work to care for the baby, you can avoid misunderstandings over time.
- During pregnancy, you should discuss your workload, especially how to cope with the third trimester when commuting could get complicated. Consider how you will need to take care of the animals that live with you and other household chores.
- Talk about how your situation will change once the baby is born and how to handle household chores with a newborn. These talks can help you as a couple to avoid mutual resentment.
Step 5. Involve your husband as much as possible
It is essential to have the father actively participate in the preparations for the birth of the child to preserve the couple's relationship and help him to forge a bond with the child from the beginning. Make sure you make appointments at the gynecologist so that your partner can be present and go and buy everything the baby will need together so that you can fully enjoy his imminent arrival.
- You do not have to set up the baby's room taking care of it in every minimum aspect, but organize it involving your husband. Buy furniture, clothes and everything you need together.
- Make sure your husband is present at major gynecologist appointments, such as those involving ultrasound scans or heart rate.
