There is a fine line between being self-confident and becoming annoying when interacting with others. Often many guys with the best of intentions end up being considered weirdos for no reason. This article will help you understand what attitudes can cause a guy to be considered "weird" and how to avoid being labeled as such in the future.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Avoid Looking Weird in Front of Girls
Step 1. Don't delay
If you spot a girl that you find attractive, don't hang on the sidelines with your friends trying to awkwardly get her attention. If you see someone who interests you, an immediate and direct approach will make you seem confident, while lingering will make you look weird.
If you're not brave enough to approach the girl, look for her gaze, smile for a second or two, and then go back to what you were doing. This will show her that you are interested and confident, but she will have to work hard to deepen your knowledge
Step 2. Don't have too many expectations
Instead of going to a woman convinced that you can persuade her to come home with you that same night or to be able to make an appointment with her next week, go to her with the aim of talking to her for a while. Focusing too much on a specific purpose will not allow you to pay enough attention to the conversation and you would end up giving the impression of not being too interested in getting to know the girl better.
Step 3. Try not to scare her
If you suddenly stand in front of her as if you have appeared out of nowhere, the woman will be on the defensive before you even open your mouth. Instead, try to get close to her so that she notices you before you get close to her. You don't need to make a detailed plan, but any approach will work better than suddenly appearing out of nowhere and start talking.
Step 4. Avoid immediate physical contact
When meeting a girl for the first time, don't seek physical contact right away. Of course, you can shake her hand when you go to introduce yourself, but after you do, try to keep your distance in a subtle but polite way until she sends you a signal to invite you to make your move.
Step 5. Leave
Try not to stay there with her until you have nothing more to talk about. After a couple of minutes, apologize and go back to whatever you were doing before - this way you show her you're not desperate. Also, leaving will give the girl time to reflect on your meeting. If there is a feeling between you, you can continue talking later.
Method 2 of 3: Avoid Looking Weird in a Group
Step 1. Don't force people
If you corner someone, their primal instincts will have the upper hand, and the only thing they will want is to try to get rid of you. No matter what you are talking about (this could be a completely acceptable topic in another context!): You will be considered an annoying person because it will seem that you cannot get the attention of others without forcing them to listen to you.
Step 2. Keep your hands to yourself
This doesn't just mean you don't have to touch people - the rule also applies to objects. No need to touch with your fingers whatever is within your reach or play with your glass while holding it. Keep your hands to yourself. Try crossing your arms or putting your hands in your pockets if you can't restrain yourself otherwise. Even if these two gestures do not make you seem available and confident, they do not make you look strange, which would be much worse than seeming a little shy and introverted.
Step 3. Don't obsess over people
Dedicate your time to everyone in your group; don't always hang on to one or two, especially if they're not close friends. Let everyone have the space they need to interact with others without bothering them. If you find yourself having no one to talk to for a few minutes, take the opportunity to go to the bathroom or get another drink, before throwing yourself back into the fray and starting another conversation.
Step 4. Don't be the first to make jokes at every opportunity
If sex is the only thing you like to talk about, you will be considered by everyone as a socially inadequate person and a weird guy. Let someone else make these kinds of jokes and consider whether they are appropriate and the reaction of others before considering (even minimally) joining the party.
Method 3 of 3: Don't Be Weird While Dancing at the Club
Step 1. Try to have good personal hygiene
Although hygiene is important in any situation, it is even more important if you are close enough to a person to dance with. Remember to put on deodorant, comb your hair, and put on a clean shirt before going to the club.
Avoid getting wet hands. In addition to being in bad taste, sweaty hands are often associated with "weird" types. If you know your palms sweat a lot, take precautions before going to the club
Step 2. Be careful how you look at people
Do not stare at the collarbone, neck or shoulders of women. While it may seem like an innocent thing to do, you may be misunderstood: the lady may think you are staring at her breasts and consequently think you are very strange. Also avoid staring women in the eye for long. While this is definitely preferable to looking at the breasts, doing it for a long time and without knowing the person in question will make you look a little creepy. The best choice is to look over his shoulder. You can occasionally look down at his feet or make eye contact, as long as you only have him last for a few seconds. Smile and look away, so she doesn't think you're staring at her shapes.
Step 3. Behave appropriately
Watch the other couples dance on the floor. Turn your attention to other men: how close do they get to their mates, on average? How do they dance? Where do they rest their hands? Try to imitate men who dance with girls who seem satisfied with their partners. Avoid playing the part of the weird guy who is clinging to his girlfriend or who, on the contrary, dances too detachedly.
Step 4. Don't chat too much
While you shouldn't be silent all the time, constantly talking while dancing wouldn't be a good idea. The music will be very loud and will not allow your partner to understand well what you are saying and to respond. If you're having a lot of fun dancing, buy the girl a drink and ask her to join you at the bar to talk in peace. With her.
