As is the case with most guys when they are surrounded by girls, you may get nervous and wonder what you can do to get their attention. The initial spark of attraction ignites long before introductions and it all depends on the way you behave. To impress girls, it is not enough to dress well or make the right moves, but you need to convey the idea that you are someone who is pleasant to be with.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Using Body Language the Right Way
Step 1. Practice maintaining good posture
Stand straight when walking, standing or sitting. Put your shoulders back slightly to widen your chest and lift your chin. Whether people are aware of it or not, good posture in itself can convey a confident and casual air.
Physical posture is one of the fundamental elements of body language that immediately catches the eye. It reflects how you view yourself and can betray a lack of confidence, even if you are well dressed and smiling
Step 2. Smile
Regardless of what you are doing, don't hesitate to smile. This way you will not only show that you are loose and relaxed, but you will also communicate that you are comfortable with people and, in turn, others will appreciate your company. Do not overdo it. A pleasant, faint smile and a vivid gaze is all you need to convey to people that you are a cool guy, able to have fun… and maybe even a little mysterious.
Smiles also make you more charming, so showing yourself open and available will be doing yourself a big favor
Step 3. Move with determination
With this attitude you will communicate that you feel good in your own skin and that you know how to move in the surrounding environment. Gestures must be casual and confident, so avoid unnecessary movements. You should always be composed and behave casually. By doing so, you will communicate to people that you are in complete control of yourself and the environment around you.
- If you don't learn how to optimize your gestures, you will appear clumsy and uncoordinated and will give the impression of having no spirit of adaptation.
- Don't gesticulate too much when talking to people, or you may be annoying. At the same time, don't stand like a corpse, fearing to move. Try to find the right balance.
Step 4. Communicate a certain openness
When you stand or talk to someone, "open up" physically, positioning yourself in front of your interlocutor. Look at it and keep eye contact. You will be much more helpful and interesting than you would seem if you unknowingly close yourself off to the people around you, move away with your body, look away while they talk, and so on.
Try not to cross your arms, fidget, or absentmindedly pull your clothes. In addition to the fact that these gestures betray a "closure" of the body, you will have the air of a person who does not know what to do
Part 2 of 3: Knowing How to Manage Social Interactions
Step 1. Try to stand out
Without bragging or acting self-centeredly, take possession of the surrounding context and the people present. Whether you are talking or listening, you need to give the impression that you are an important person. Therefore, try to be assertive (stand up straight, be open and move casually) in order to get people around to pay attention to your presence and get involved while maintaining respect. Act as if everything you say and do has an influential weight on others.
- Think all eyes are on you and people look at you as an example of class and style - pretend until it comes true.
- Reflect for a moment on what you are going to say before opening your mouth. You will appear more sensible in the eyes of others and will not run the risk of stammering or making mistakes while speaking.
Step 2. Show your enthusiasm to the people around you
Express your interest in conversation and be enthusiastic about everything you do in your life. You should aim to become a person who can talk to everyone. This charisma will pay off when the time comes to really start getting attention. If the girl you're trying to impress is watching you, she'll know you're open and sunny.
- Listen actively. To show that you are paying attention, use verbal expressions such as "yes", "mhmm" and "I agree" when speaking.
- Try to keep a balance between your interventions and those of your interlocutor, establishing a relationship with him. Once he talks to you about himself, mention something about yourself using it based on what he said to you, then give him the floor again.
Step 3. Be humble
It doesn't matter how smart you seem if you continually discourage others or monopolize all attention on yourself. Instead of always showing off or bragging about your accomplishments, try to be modest. Kindly accept compliments and curb the need to talk about yourself. Basically, you don't have to trick your interlocutor into thinking that you believe yourself better than anyone else, so try to give others the importance and attention they deserve, as well as demand them for yourself.
- Those who are really smart do not feel the need to prove to others why they are confident.
- Knowing how to recognize the qualities of others is a sign of self-confidence, because those who believe in themselves know this and do not need the spotlight to always be on them.
Step 4. Act with confidence in yourself
More than anything else, you should respect yourself and show who you are, without fear of being judged or laughed at. It's nearly impossible to hide your inhibitions, even unfounded ones in most situations. If what a beautiful girl or anyone else thinks doesn't bother you, nothing can hold you back. You will feel better and you will be able to bring out your personality.
Think about having fun. Don't make the intention to impress girls turn into a depressing mission. Interesting people always manage to have fun, no matter what environment they are in
Step 5. Stay calm
Don't fret if your social life isn't going your way. If you want to show people that you are a cool guy, you need to learn to control yourself emotionally. So, keep a cool head and try not to get irritated when you feel uncomfortable. If you fidget, take a few deep breaths until you are relaxed and don't lose your smile. Whatever the situation, rest assured and continue to behave politely.
- If someone freezes you with a hasty remark, don't take it personally. When someone criticizes you or says something you disagree with, keep in mind that they are only expressing their opinion. Remain calm and impassive.
- If you can't help but get upset or anxious, pretend nothing has happened. Even if you can't shake what he told you, at least try to show some detachment so that other people don't notice.
Part 3 of 3: Show Confidence
Step 1. Dress well
When you have to go out, choose clothes that make you feel comfortable, that highlight your physique and make you look great. Learn to match and dress according to the seasons. A person who dresses well is always charming, no matter where he has to go. If you want to look like a cool guy, you need to take care of your appearance first.
Dress with taste to show that you know the latest trends. By combining the colors of the season, the hottest patterns and fabrics and the slim-fitting clothing, you will have the air of a guy who is attentive to the fashion of the moment
Step 2. Take care of your body
Eat right, exercise regularly, and don't overdo unhealthy foods, such as junk foods and alcohol. Try to take care of yourself. If you tend to be lazy or a bit sloppy, others will probably notice it too. By training and following healthy eating habits, you will also benefit from your appearance, you will feel better and have more confidence in yourself when you are in the company of some girl.
- Eat a high-protein diet that contains a moderate amount of refined carbohydrates (bread, pasta) and is low in fat. You should have at least one meal a day containing fresh fruit and vegetables.
- You don't have to become a gym animal to look and feel better, just spend a few hours a week keeping fit and moving. Try to train in a fun way by doing what you enjoy, like swimming, hiking, or biking.
Step 3. Take care of your personal hygiene
In addition to dressing well, pay special attention to personal cleanliness, take care to comb your hair and put on deodorant. You will feel fresher and more invigorated and easily get noticed. Clothes are only one element of the outward appearance: if you do not neglect personal hygiene, you will prove that you are a truly self-confident person.
Get in the habit of following a daily personal hygiene routine. Shower, trim your nails, brush your teeth, and make sure you're clean and presentable before you go out
Step 4. Feel good about yourself
Take it easy! It is one of the fundamental principles for becoming a smart and relaxed person. Whatever you do, try to be confident and comfortable. Treat every gesture or conversation as something you've done thousands of times. This is especially important when interacting with the girls you're trying to impress. If you've taken all the steps necessary to look your best, but you don't feel comfortable in your skin, you risk taking yourself too seriously.
- If you are usually tense in public places or when meeting new people, take a few minutes to mentally prepare before going out. Plan what you need to do so you don't get caught off guard. Practice speaking when you need to introduce yourself.
- Learn to take yourself less seriously when you look bad. This way you will develop a more positive attitude and a stronger sense of humor, all qualities that belong to attractive people.
Advice
- Maintain eye contact. This is typical of self-confident people and can also help you establish a certain intimacy with your interlocutor.
- Learn to accept rejection. It can be a huge blow to your pride, but if a girl isn't interested in your attention, leave her alone.
- On the first date, take her to a place frequented by many people you know. This way he will understand that you are a rather sociable guy and you will be surrounded by people with whom you will not find it difficult to have a chat.
Warnings
- Don't lose sight of the line between flirting and inappropriate behavior.
- If you want to impress a girl, don't put on airs. Self-esteem, confidence and assertiveness are key, but arrogance gets you nowhere.
