Arrogance is often seen as a character flaw, but when used correctly, arrogance can give you a competitive and magnetic edge in your personal and professional relationships. You can learn to be competitive in all aspects of life, brag like the best, and make sure your arrogance doesn't make you a complete idiot.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: The Facts
Step 1. Be the best
It is much easier to be arrogant if you are the best in the crowd. The less you have to prove your arrogance, the more convincing your verbal boasting will be. Often, we think of arrogance as part of competition in sports or work environments, but it also applies to social interactions, lifestyle, relationships, and many other areas of life. Try to be the best in everything you do.
Train hard and dedicate your time to activities in which you hope to excel. Arrogance will be seen as ignorance if you brag about something you don't fully understand or are not an expert on
Step 2. Develop an authoritative presence
Even if people don't like you, they need to notice your presence. Assume a silent presence and aura by controlling people with body language to reflect your superior status and worth. To command people's attention without speaking:
- Always keep your back straight, shoulders back and head up.
- Move confidently and decisively. Do not wander around the rooms and do not take small steps towards the bar. Approach the counter with long, straight strides and sit in a free seat.
- Smile less. If you want to communicate your superiority, do your best to remain detached and critically observe other people as they complete their work.
Step 3. Prove your skills publicly
Compete regularly to keep your skills at the highest level and your hunger for victory high. It is much better to brag about things that people already know or have seen you do, because you will be more credible. Strive to win competitions within your reach thanks to your skills and arrogance.
- The sooner you start competing, the better off it will be. If you learn to love competition as a youngster, you will continue to do so as an adult.
- Be competitive in all aspects of life. When Rafael Nadal got injured and had to stop playing tennis in order to recover, he started playing poker at a high level, with all the effort possible, to maintain his arrogance.
Step 4. Identify the weakest elements and give them an example
Arrogant people have to regularly prove their superiority and that means humiliating people weaker than you in a competition. You will be able to name the worst worker in your team in the office, assign them a task that will highlight their weaknesses or challenge them in a competition, with the aim of always finding ways to dominate.
- Never have compassion on your opponents. Arrogant people always compete at the highest level.
- It is also important to take on opponents of a higher level than yours who can test your skills, but matches in which you will crush your opponent will also be useful.
Step 5. Be independent, or pretend to be independent
Arrogant people must appear to be entirely responsible for their successes and do not give any credit to coaches, teachers, training or any other aspect of their skills. Arrogant people must appear to have been born in an Armani diaper, with a credit card in one hand and a trophy in the other, and have done nothing but dominate since that day.
It doesn't matter whether it's true or not. Just make it look real by living ostentatiously, appearing when you can. Wear your success
Step 6. Dress like the person you claim to be
Express your arrogance by wearing the uniform of the person you are trying to be. One expensive dress is worth 50 cheaper. It will last longer and make a big impression on whoever sees you.
- This advice involves a certain amount of conformism and dedication to a particular look. You will have to respect the image of the "arrogant athlete" or the "arrogant manager" and find the style and accessories that convey these images.
- Take care of your appearance in the way that your court requires. An arrogant rock singer will have to give the impression that her gorgeous hair falls that way naturally, and that her perfectly sized leather jacket has that look by accident.
Part 2 of 3: The Words
Step 1. Brag about your successes
Being arrogant means projecting superiority into all things, and it's easier to be superior and brag about something when you've really done it. When you score more points than all the other players, when you finish your job first, when you beat your brother in a race, make sure everyone knows.
- Just brag about things you do excellently. It's a lot harder to brag if you're just mediocre, and you'll look ignorant. If you want to have an authoritative presence, brag when you have a reason.
- If you want to be more arrogant, you don't have to wait for the right opportunity to do so. Arrogance is banal and intrusive, and arrogant people don't care if everyone knows it.
- Feel free to take the liberty to slightly embellish your successes. It is better to overdo it a little than to lie completely, because you could be exposed if people find that you did not do as well as you said.
Step 2. Set yourself extremely high standards
If you want to appear arrogant, start setting important goals and do your best to achieve them. Your standards of excellence should always be higher than those of others, but still within your reach. You set the bar too high for others to reach.
- Let your standards evolve with your skills. The more results you get, the higher your standards should become. It is not enough to win a championship, you will have to repeat yourself and repeat yourself again, you will have to win the best player award and be the best of all.
- If someone compliments you, you arrogantly respond, "That's nothing. I'm not even making a commitment."
Step 3. Criticize the weakness
When other people don't live up to your standards of excellence, say it publicly. While it may seem cruel to you to point the finger at other people's failures and inadequacies, it is important to demonstrate your superiority. It's as important as bragging.
You don't have to be rude to be arrogant, but being tough will help. If a teammate or opponent makes a mistake in the game, express your disappointment, softly but firmly: "We both know you were wrong. You made us lose. Pass me the ball next time."
Step 4. Be impenetrable
Eventually, if you are arrogant, you will probably find yourself having to fight. Other arrogant failures will try to get you down, and it is very important that you are solid in your verbal altercations. Don't let insults or jokes bother you and practice quick responses to always stay one step ahead.
Much of the preparation will take place before the fight. Learn to spot your opponents and keep them on your side by becoming friends with them and working with them to dominate, or get them off their pedestal before they have a chance to gain confidence and challenge you
Step 5. Be playful
Ideally, your arrogance should make you magnetic and attractive, particularly to members of the opposite sex. A dig at a ridiculous person or idea can be arrogant, but also funny and charismatic. Think of the following arrogant and funny icons:
- David Letterman
- Chandler from Friends
- Barney of How I Met Your Mother
- Lady Gaga
- Ron Burgundy
Step 6. Believe you are everything you say you are
Remember that you are the best and be proud of everything you do. Take this attitude in all your thoughts and eliminate all doubts about it. Remember to be wonderful in everything, and let this confidence transform your words and actions.
- In some cases, it may be helpful for you to invent wrongs or offenses to motivate yourself. Michael Jordan used to glue insults he received from other players to his locker to dominate on the pitch.
- Make up stories to motivate yourself. Take on the role of underdog, even if you are the best. Pretend you are getting over doom, even if you know you are only living up to your expectations. Keep the competition burning.
Step 7. Always say the last word
One of the easiest ways to convey your arrogance is in everyday conversations. When someone tells a story, or a success of it, don't compliment them or give them credit, but immediately start telling a similar story about yourself that is more impressive and spectacular.
Has your friend just returned from a beach holiday? It's a great chance to remind everyone of your trip to Malaysia, when you snorkeled with local fishermen and lived on the beach in a grass hut
Part 3 of 3: Remain Respectable
Step 1. Respect authority figures
Never speak ill of people who are truly worth or deserve respect. The purpose of arrogance is to silence the criticisms of those who believe they are worth more than what they are worth. It also means enchanting all the people who work with you, but this can have negative effects. It is probably best to never behave too arrogantly in the presence of:
- Your boss
- Coaches
- Your parents
- Service staff
- Romantic companions
Step 2. Always use education to your advantage
There is a fine line between arrogance and rudeness. Being arrogant doesn't mean being rude and forgetting the basic rules of education. Plus, education gives you the ability to stay detached and keep others away in a socially acceptable way.
- Never treat waiters or other people working in the service sector to develop your arrogant image. You would just look weak, mean and immature.
- Forgetting someone's name may seem like a good way to downplay it, but it will only make you sound rude. Respect people and treat them with dignity, and dominate them only in the field.
Step 3. Know your limits
If you claim to be superior in an area where you lack skills or experience, your arrogance will be exposed and will lose its effect. You will make a fool of yourself. Make sure you avoid conflicts, confrontations and competitions where you don't have a chance to win.
You have to learn to lose so you don't look bad when it happens. Learn to lose with dignity, because no matter how arrogant you may be, sooner or later it will happen
Step 4. Meet expectations
Arrogance must be a way to improve yourself. Think of Michael Jordan and Steve Jobs, arrogant people who were the best in their field, as your role models. Use your arrogant image to motivate yourself and reach new heights.
Always respect your word. You will have to respect the expectations you have created, or you will only appear as a blown-up loser. When it's your time to take the field, give it your all
Step 5. Find new goals to achieve
Some arrogant people end up in their thirties in the school parking lots they graduated from talking about the good old days. Don't be like those losers. Keep finding new goals to achieve and new challenges to improve yourself.
After winning a championship, do as Jordan did and try to excel in another sport. Try to become the best in another field similar to the one you come from. After dominating the world of industry, become the best fly fisherman. Always set new goals and achieve them
Advice
- True arrogance, when used in the right way, conveys your sense of superiority, health and careerism without being subject to discussion. Simply, you can breathe!.
- Arrogance is best used with sarcasm and with cutting comments that do not directly undermine the statements of others, but consist of puns that redirect the words used by the interlocutor against himself. This means you may have to work hard to increase your repertoire of witty sayings and sarcastic jokes.
- Being arrogant is different from bragging about your accomplishments or material wealth. Arrogant people don't need to show the rooftop their achievements in everyday life
- Being the best in everything is too much effort; therefore, exercise your superiority in areas where you feel you cannot be challenged and contradicted. You need to focus only on the things you really know well.
Warnings
- You're just trying to climb the top on the shoulders of people you don't trust or don't like. Don't do the same thing with family, friends, or coworkers you respect.
- Some people will not like it and will think you are an exhibitionist.
