Each person has wishes that they consider "impossible" to come true. Indeed many of them are realistically achievable; others are simply unlikely or unrealistic, but there are still steps you can take to make them more feasible. Finally, for those desires that are truly impossible fantasies, there is nothing wrong with staying optimistic.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Get into the Right Mental State
Step 1. Think positive
Don't stop to analyze the negative aspects of life; on the contrary, strive to become aware of the good things, thinking of the many opportunities that the future offers you. Science is highly in favor of this simple self-help method, arguing that positive thoughts are capable of making us happier, healthier and more successful.
At the same time, be careful not to blame yourself for possible "negative thoughts" or events that are beyond your control. Mental illnesses, such as depression, hinder the emergence of positive thoughts. Also remember that having positive thoughts can make you more likely to act, which is of fundamental importance since thoughts alone are unable to change reality
Step 2. Believe in yourself
Gain more self-confidence through the daily use of positive affirmations. In order for your wishes to come true, you need to rely heavily on yourself. Believing that you cannot get what you want is to create a self-fulfilling prophecy. Change your attitude, you will have a better chance of success.
Step 3. Base your decisions on a concrete goal
Find out exactly what you want, then express it in concrete terms. As can be easily understood, it will not be possible to achieve your goals by not knowing what they are.
- Is your wish to become famous? Analyze what are the reasons that push you in this direction. If you dream of being a famous actor, take acting lessons or enroll in a theater school. If you want to become a rock star, learn to play the guitar and start a band.
- Do you want to find love? Decide what kind of relationship you want to have. Evaluate the qualities your ideal partner should have. Knowing exactly what you want will avert the risk of missing out on a good opportunity.
Step 4. Analyze your dreams and set your priorities
Don't be distracted by the desire for instant gratification. Stay away from things that appear inviting at the moment but actually hinder your future goals.
For example, if your goal is to achieve financial independence but learn of a fabulous offer for a large flat screen TV, consider the following points: Will buying a discounted TV help you become financially independent? Or maybe putting that money into a high-interest savings account would be more in line with your wishes? In a year, your discounted TV will be worth much less than what you paid for it, on the contrary the money set aside in your savings account will be increased thanks to interest
Step 5. Be open to compromise
While it is fair to believe that, sometimes, even the most unlikely wishes can come true (such as becoming famous), it is good to remember that there are dreams that are really impossible to achieve. The best thing to do is to convert your fantasies into realistic goals.
- Would you like to turn yourself into a mermaid? Think about which aspects of being a mermaid that appeal to you the most. Rather than aspiring to become a real mermaid, you may be pursuing the dream of becoming a world-class swimmer or a respected marine biologist.
- Would you like to fly like a superhero? Start studying to acquire a flight license or apply for entry into the air force of your country.
Step 6. Be consistent
Whatever desire you would like to fulfill, whether simple or noble, it is very likely that you will face obstacles and difficulties. Strive to recognize missteps for what they are, learning to get around them to keep moving towards your goal.
- Did your being active, or inactive, in any way contribute to the onset of those setbacks? Even if so, don't blame yourself. Remember that everyone makes mistakes. Learning from your mistakes will allow you to perfect your strategies.
- What if things don't go as you hoped because of a simple coincidence or an unfavorable episode? In that case there is no reason not to try again.
- If along the way you find that your goal is objectively unattainable, rework the original desire to find an alternative.
Method 2 of 4: Be Proactive
Step 1. Stop procrastinating
Postponing pushes you to inaction, sabotaging your eventual success. Do not stand still waiting for the "right moment", immediately start moving towards your desires. The reality is that there is no "right time". Waiting until you have enough money, enough skills, or the approval of others may mean you have to wait forever. The time to act is now. The sooner you start moving towards your goals, the sooner you will be able to make your wishes come true.
Step 2. Do your homework
Search the web to gather as much information as you need to make your dreams come true. Find out what you need. The wikiHow site is an excellent source of teaching. Simply type what you want to know in the search bar to find valuable help.
For example, if you want to become an animated drawing creator, you need to learn how to draw and build a portfolio. Use the web to search for those programs that have trained the most successful animators; you will often find that they collaborate with major animation companies through internships and internships. Directly on the websites of the main programs, you will find the requirements necessary to submit an application
Step 3. Plan what to do
Make a list of everything you need to achieve your goal, respecting the correct timeline. You will need to be very detailed about the first steps, while you can remain a little more vague about the following.
- For example, do you want to become an astronaut? If you are still in high school, the first step is to choose a qualified university that allows you to specialize in different science subjects. In detail, you will have to create a list of faculties, find out what are the requirements for admission, inform yourself about the timing. In addition, he creates a draft of the next steps, knowing that they may vary over time, for example "do a master's degree" and "take a pilot's license", without specifying further.
- The secret is being creative to put yourself in the position necessary to make your dreams come true. While the chances of becoming a successful writer are slim, it goes without saying that you will never become one if you don't start writing. Remember the saying: "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step".
Step 4. Take the first step
There is not enough preparation to make your dreams come true unless you decide to take action. Make sure you stick to your action plan, meeting important deadlines. Even when your path forces you to wait, use the time available to exercise your talent and learn new things.
Step 5. Track your progress
On the journey that leads you towards the fulfillment of your desires, you should take note of every step that allows you to get closer to your goal. By doing so, you will have clear all your progress; this is a great way to stay motivated.
- You can record your progress in a classic paper diary or type it directly into your computer. If you wish, you can also decide to publish them on the web, in the form of a blog.
- The number of updates required depends on your goal. For example, if you are a high school student dreaming of becoming a neurosurgeon, you may decide to update your diary weekly or monthly. You will be able to write down what steps you took during that time to get into medical school, for example "volunteering for 20 hours in a clinic" or "passing an exam". Otherwise, if you are trying to get back in shape, you could describe your daily exercise routine. In any case, give yourself regular deadlines in which to update your progress to be able to stay on the right track.
- Keep track of both successes and missteps. Being aware of the goals achieved will help you stay positive and, at the same time, realizing what you should have done differently will help you understand what are the aspects you still need to work on to make the next steps more effective.
Method 3 of 4: Involving Others
Step 1. Share your wishes with others
Despite having different goals, family, friends, and colleagues may prove to be important assets. Talk to them, share your dreams, your ideas and your plans for the future; sometimes they will be able to offer you very useful advice. Some of them may even share the same aspirations as you, allowing you to create fruitful partnerships.
- As you open up to others, be ready to listen carefully to what they have to say to you. Sometimes their words may be juxtaposed to what you wanted to hear, but an alternative point of view is invaluable.
- If you need the money to make your wishes come true, other people could prove to be vital support. Whether it's your parents helping you pay your college tuition or some investors providing you with the capital you need to start your business, it's important to learn how to ask for help.
Step 2. Carefully select the recommendations you receive
While some people may help you make your wishes come true, others may try to crush them, still others may sabotage you with harmful suggestions, even if not always knowingly. While it is right to make your decisions instinctively, there are a few things to keep in mind:
- Analyze the source of the advice. What are the previous experiences of the person who is offering it to you? What is his knowledge in the field related to your desires? Is this a happy and successful person? Remember that even those who appear to be experts may have incorrect or outdated information. Worse still, an individual seemingly willing to help you may be hoping to see you fail to mask their shortcomings.
- Always check the "facts" when possible, especially when they appear unusual. Hear as many opinions as possible on a topic. If you are unable to verify the veracity of a statement, it is very likely that it is false.
- Learn to distinguish realistic people from those who always say no. A gentleman might argue that wanting to be the director of a blockbuster movie is a ridiculous goal. Otherwise, the opinion of a realistic person might suggest that you probably won't become a famous director, but at the same time offer you advice on the best film schools.
Step 3. Consider sharing your wishes by posting them on social media and / or crowdsourcing platforms
Regarding some dreams, the things you can do on your own may be very few. Fortunately, however, there are many people in the world who are rich or who can count on important acquaintances willing to do occasional acts of generosity. If you have an interesting desire and a story to tell, try spreading them through social media. Crowdsourcing for "impossible" wishes is becoming very popular these days, creating connections between those who have a dream and those who can help them make it happen. You cannot know who will read your story, perhaps deciding to help you.
Method 4 of 4: Using Unearthly Forces
Step 1. Experiment with some spiritual methods according to your faith
Regarding some wishes, there are very few things you can do yourself. For this kind of dreams, you might try to rely on supernatural forces to help you make them come true. Based on your religious beliefs, you will be able to decide how to act.
- If you believe in the existence of one or more deities or spiritual beings, who can sometimes make wishes come true, try using prayer. The methodology will vary based on your faith. If in doubt, try talking to a spiritual guide from your community.
- To make wishes come true, some religions use magical rituals, called spells. In some spiritual practices, spells serve to channel the magician's powers, while in others they are aimed at asking for the intervention of a higher power to intercede through the magician.
- A very popular New Age movement, based on the so-called Law of Attraction, asserts that each of us shapes our reality through our thoughts. If you think it possible, focus your mind on making your wishes come true to make them come true.
Step 2. Trust popular superstitions dictated by your culture
Every day people perform multiple propitiatory gestures, apparently capable of guaranteeing a lucky destiny. Since they generally don't require a lot of effort (often no more than just formulating a simple thought), there's no reason not to try. Some examples include:
- On your birthday, silently make a wish before blowing out the candles.
- If you see a shooting star, make a wish.
- When you notice that the face of the clock shows paired numbers, for example at 11:11 or 03:33, mentally repeat your wish.
Step 3. Write a post about the applications and sites dedicated to desires
There are many websites created to collect and make the wishes of users come true. Search online, most likely, you will have to make your wish by typing it into a text box. Depending on the site you choose, your aspirations may remain private or be posted publicly.
Be careful not to disclose your personal information when expressing your wishes on these types of sites, especially if you are not yet of legal age. Never include details such as telephone number, name, address or place of residence. You can't know who will read your words
Advice
- Never give up. If you really want your wishes to come true, you have to keep trying.
- Set yourself small daily goals. Each small success will motivate you to pursue bigger ones.
- Try not to get stuck trying to chase something unattainable.
