Maybe you've spotted that gorgeous office girl or maybe you're out of town and notice a cute girl across a crowded room. By following the advice given in this article, you will be able to start a conversation with a girl in any situation.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Flirting conversation
Step 1. Compliment her in a kind and sincere way
Tell her she has a nice smile, that you like her necklace, or that her laugh is contagious. Make her feel special. Be careful not to overdo it with compliments that seem fake.
- Try telling her that her gorgeous smile is contagious.
- Or tell her she's wearing a cute dress and that color really looks good on her.
Step 2. Try a tow joke
Pickup jokes aren't conducive to good contact, but they can help break the ice when you need a way to start a conversation quickly. Try some of the following lines to kickstart a conversation:
- If you want a romantic approach, try "Hi, I'm Andrea. I thought we should at least talk a bit before we get married!".
- If you intend to be eccentric, try a joke.
- If you want to flatter her, try explaining to her that you bet with your friends that you would be able to strike up a conversation with the hottest girl in the club.
Step 3. Focus on the non-verbal clues
Pay attention to body language and facial expressions to be able to turn even the most flirty comment into something romantic.
- Be careful to keep body language open and inviting. Maintain eye contact and keep smiling.
- Touch her hand with your arm when you tell her a story: in this way you will be able to create intimacy and move away from the friendship zone.
- Avoid engaging in negative body language, such as crossed arms or a frowning, downward look.
Part 2 of 4: Casual Conversation
Step 1. Introduce yourself
Approach the girl you want to start the conversation with, smile and say hello. Tell her your name and ask for hers. Be natural and simple.
- In any situation, simply introduce yourself: "Hi, my name is Roberto. What's your name?".
- In a bar, you could offer her something: "Hi, my name is Pietro. Can I offer you something to drink?".
Step 2. Ask her how she is
If you do it politely, it's a great way to start talking. It also makes a good impression because it shows that you are genuinely interested in her and willing to listen to her.
- A simple "How are you doing today?" never fails. It is not rhetoric to remember to listen carefully to what he replies!
- You might ask her "How was it today? Did you have fun?" and listen to what he replies to show her your full attention.
Step 3. Comment on the weather
A harmless observation about time or some other concrete subject always comes well. You will be able to break the ice and then move on to more engaging topics.
- Rather than giving lengthy talks, ask questions so that you have more opportunities to answer.
- If you don't like the "weather approach", try another topic to be safe with. Try commenting on your surroundings: "Wow, this bar is crowded tonight, isn't it?".
Step 4. Ask a question about school or work
If you can find common ground, you will also be able to break the ice by having a smooth conversation.
- If you are in class together, ask what she thinks about the lesson, if she likes the teacher or if she is interested in what you are studying. Discuss the exams for the next semester together or ask her on what subject she plans to write the essay.
- If you work together, ask her if she is currently working on interesting projects.
Step 5. Bring the conversation to his interests, avoiding more personal topics
Try to figure out which movies she is following or what music she likes, so that you have a global idea of her personality and interests. This valuable information could help you plan an interesting outing!
- As for TV shows, ask her which ones she prefers.
- To find out about her musical tastes, ask her what she thinks about a certain new album.
- As for the cinema, try asking her if she's seen the latest film by a particular director.
Step 6. Talk about an upcoming event
This could be a music festival or an exam. Talk to her about how excited or nervous you are in anticipation of that event. This can create a certain type of relationship between the two of you and allow her to see how much you have in common!
- If you are preparing for the same exam, you could tell her that you are very worried and ask her where she is in the study.
- If you are talking about music, you could mention the next music event, explaining that you went to last year and that you enjoyed it.
- If a holiday is approaching, you may want to try inviting her to the party your friend is throwing.
Part 3 of 4: Friendly Conversation
Step 1. Name a friend you have in common
It can help you create a more personal connection with her, even if you don't know her well. This girl will feel more comfortable and you will never seem like a complete stranger to her! Having a mutual friend will offer you some topics to talk about.
- Try saying something like "I heard you are friends with Filippo. How did you meet?".
- Or "Ah … so you know Danilo ?! Look how strange! Funny, right?".
Step 2. Bring out shared experiences
They can help you create a personal connection between the two of you and establish the beginning of a bond.
- If you realize you both grew up on a farm in the countryside, try talking to her about how hard it was to get up at five every morning to help your dad. Ask her if she did the same.
- If you've both worked on a volunteer project, try talking about that rewarding experience, asking her what prompted her to participate.
Step 3. Asking an interesting question can be an unusual and challenging way to break the ice and allow the girl to express herself and demonstrate her culture
- Ask her which animal she would like to be.
- Ask her what are the top five places she would like to visit before she dies.
- Find out if you have ever thought about doing some very particular sport, such as skydiving.
Step 4. Mention a shared interest
Finding out that you have a common interest will go a long way in starting to bond with this girl. No matter what it is - reading, running, rowing or rock climbing - what matters is that it is something you share.
- If you both love running, ask her what her favorite routes are and if she's ever thought about training for a marathon.
- If you both like to read, you can ask her what her favorite author is or what she thinks about the recent film adaptation of that well-known novel.
- If it's something particularly extravagant, ask her how she started and compare your experiences!
Step 5. Try asking her personal questions
If things are going well, it might be time to get a little more personal. Remember that the goal is to show her that you are interested in her and that you want to get to know her better. Don't ask her anything that might make her uncomfortable.
- Keep it positive! Don't ask her about her biggest nightmare or secret, but talk about her hopes for the future or where she sees herself in 10 years. Let her decide whether to take it seriously or stay on the surface.
- Try asking her about her family, without being intrusive.
- If you want to find out if she is single, simply ask her "Are you seeing anyone now?".
Part 4 of 4: Overall Behavior
Step 1. Make sure you create a sense of security, an essential substrate for any flirtation
Women want the man who feels comfortable in his own skin and who is happy, capable and confident.
- Update your wardrobe. If you feel good about your appearance, you will automatically convey confidence. Invest in good quality suits that fit you well, so you feel elegant and stylish.
- Speak clearly and confidently. Avoid talking to multiple people at the same time or interrupting them, but try to express yourself at a slightly louder volume than you would normally use. Avoid using too much interlayer.
Step 2. Learn to listen
Try not to dominate the conversation. Ask a lot of questions and listen carefully to his answers. This will show that you are interested in her and what she has to say.
Step 3. Engage in the conversation
Make personal confidences so that the girl has reasons to care about you. Answer her questions and make sure she gets to know you a little bit: the goal is to get her involved and intrigue her, but don't overdo it, because you might get bored.
Step 4. Maintain eye contact
It will make you look more trustworthy and attractive. Looking someone in the eye becomes natural when you feel comfortable and confident. Be sure to look her directly in the eye every time she speaks, but to look away during the pauses in your conversation - staring at someone can be creepy!
Step 5. Smile
Looking happy and helpful makes you more attractive. This is the kind of guy girls prefer to hang out with, so smile!
Step 6. Avoid closed questions to answer "yes" or "no"
Such questions are not engaging for conversation, while open questions require longer, more thoughtful answers.
Step 7. Avoid controversial topics
Putting them into the conversation can make her feel out of place, uncomfortable, or just plain angry. Avoid seeking his views on topics like politics and religion during your first conversation, or your relationship is in danger of being turned upside down before it has even begun.
Advice
- You need to look interested, but not too enthusiastic. If someone else is competing with you to get their attention, be prepared to leave the field so you don't look desperate. Most girls love the challenge, so your willingness to walk away from the conversation can make them even more interested in you.
- If she seems interested in you, go for it and ask for her phone number. The next day, text her, saying you enjoyed talking to her.
- Text her within two hours of meeting her, telling her that you enjoyed talking to her and would like to see her again. That way she'll know you're interested in her.
- If you know her well enough, try asking her out without being too abrupt.
- Comment on something you are both doing. If you are on the bus together, bring the driver or traffic talk. If you both find yourself in the queue for coffee, joke about the length of the wait or ask her what she'll get.
