Many girls have a friend of some kind! Calling a friend to say let's go see a movie isn't as easy as asking one of yours friends. Part of him might be thinking, Did he just ask me on a date?. There is a fine line between a appointment and an outing with friends; I hope this article will help you keep your exit strictly platonic… in other words, a date with friends!
Steps
Step 1. Eliminate any discomfort or tension
First of all, you need to make sure you are friends with this guy enough so that it doesn't seem like a date. If you know him in a couple of weeks, he'll probably think he is. But, if you've been friends for a couple of years, that shouldn't be a problem. If your friend isn't single (or you aren't) you need to be sure his girlfriend or boyfriend knows it's platonic.
Step 2. Plan something
Don't call your friend at the last minute, asking him out after an hour. Call him when you know you can find him at home or that he can answer the phone and at least a couple of days in advance. If you know he can't come with you, then don't ask! When you call, you need to have an idea of what you want to do. Don't organize everything without him, though, agree on the details, such as the time, place, and so on.
Step 3. How to stick to schedules
Sticking to schedules with a guy is sometimes difficult, but you need to be flexible. Try to have a backup plan or two ready, you never know. And remember this Not it's a date, so if it blows you up, don't take it too hard! Be open to the idea of other people joining. Don't schedule a double date and don't try to balance out. If two of his friends come and you're the only girl, don't make a fuss of it. You are friends and you should be comfortable with them, without feeling the need to call for backup.
Step 4. Remember to pay your share, or agree on who pays what first
It's not a date, so don't expect him to pay for everything! Even if that were the case, you asked him out. In dating, people who ask out pay everything, so expecting them to do it would not be fair anyway. But since it's not a date, everyone should pay for themselves, unless there is a prior arrangement.
Step 5. Tell him why you asked him out:
Your friend was busy and he was the only one available? Haven't you seen each other for a while? Did he owe you an exit? Make sure she knows this is not a date.
Step 6. Let him know you have a life
I'm sure you have a life, but make sure he knows it too! Don't be rude, but it's not a date so you don't have to call him to thank him. You don't even have to send him an email! Next time you meet, just say, YES, THANK YOU, I had a lot of fun OR ANYTHING ELSE. But don't say, We have to do it again!, he might think you're trying. Yes, you are friends and will probably hang out again, but needless to say - get organized!
Step 7. How to maintain your platonic relationship
A relationship doesn't have to be sexual, passionate, or romantic. Don't spend too much time with him, and don't hang out too often. Try to make time for your other friends too! Avoid too close contact. You don't have to call, text, email, or private social media messages too often. He probably doesn't want to talk to you that often! All things are beautiful if done in moderation …
Advice
- Make sure, in case either or both of you are having an affair, that your partners know that you are just friends and that yours is NOT a date!
- Don't expect things to change somehow, go out with him because you are ONLY FRIENDS, not to get a date or to ask him out. Repeat with me… PLA-TO-NI-CO. Platonic.
- Avoid telling too many people that you are dating a friend. People can and will talk, so if you keep a low profile you won't have too many problems to deal with. Don't make it a bigger question than it is it should to be!
- Pretend he's one of your friends, but don't treat him like a girl or he'll think you think he's gay (guys are weird). Have fun with him, but if you have a boyfriend try not to have too much fun.
- Tell mom and dad that kids can also just be good friends! They do not object if Laura or Cristina go to the cinema with you, so why should they do it if you go with Marco?
- Have fun… but not too much!
