Would you like your relationship to go beyond just friendship? If you feel a certain feeling with a friend that you would like to get to know a little better, you can learn to change the nature of your relationship slightly, so that she looks at you in a different light. Learn to put distance into your relationship before bringing it back closer than it ever was.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Changing the Relationship
Step 1. Start spending less time with her
You understood well; if you want to change the relationship that unites you and go from "friend" to "lover", then you must immediately step in a little distance. If you spend all your time with her, she probably no longer thinks of you "that way". Some people call this a "friend zone", a deadlock in which one of the two is always and only "a good friend", but nothing more. If you want to get her attention, stop dating her so much.
You certainly don't have to behave meanly towards her, let alone ignore her, but stop giving her the kind of attention you gave her before. Be friendly, but don't change your way just to talk to her, don't chat with her, and don't run to meet her in the hallways of the school. Just behave more "casually"
Step 2. Flirt with other girls
He should note that you use your charm with other people, so that he can reconsider how he thinks about you. If you want to turn her on, she needs to understand that you are a possible partner and a person who loves to flirt. You need to start acting differently than you normally do with her.
- Make sure she can see you! Try to show your changes in public places, such as school hallways during recess. Make an effort to sit next to her at the school cafeteria, but ignore her for a moment while chatting with her friends or the people she is hanging out with. You have to give the impression that you are looking around.
- Flirt a bit on Facebook too, as that's another way to do it in public anyway. Start exchanging funny comments with some of the girls in your class. Make sure they're mutual friends, so the girl you really care about will also read your lines between notifications.
- Do you have any doubts about your abilities to flirt with a girl? It's not that difficult; just have a cheerful, fun and light conversation. Even gentle teasing could be seen as an attempt at flirting. Don't be rude, just tease your partner a little bit.
Step 3. Reassure her, if necessary
If your behavior towards her starts to change, the girl you are interested in may think something is wrong and so you will need to work a little to keep her from getting mad at you. Always remember that she is your friend. You don't have to try to hurt her. When you are together, be nice to her, but make sure you pay more attention to the other girls in your social circle.
If he asks you questions like, "What's wrong? Are you angry with me?" he tries to answer in a very casual way, like: "Of course not! We're friends!". However, keep acting like nothing has happened and don't change your habits to hang out with her more often
Step 4. Wait a bit
If you're looking to grab this girl's attention, you need to slow things down a bit. When you've stopped dating and started flirting with others, wait at least a week or two, depending on how close your relationship was previously. Make sure you wait long enough for her to "get the hint".
- If you used to hang out every day, it won't take long for you to notice that things have changed. However, if you only dated her from time to time, you will have to wait a little longer before she notices any differences. Let things go as they should and learn to read his reactions.
- Don't wait too long. If she gets the impression that you are no longer friends, she may walk away completely and date another guy, losing interest in you.
Step 5. Contact her again
After some time, you can start the "active" phase of your plan by calling it and arranging an outing. After a period of not showing up, you will have to trick her into believing that she will have to make some effort to regain your attention, since you have been so distant. Text or text her asking if she wants to go out with you.
In theory, she'd better be the one to ask you out. In this case, you would definitely have an advantage. If he's been asking you out for a couple of weeks while you were laying the groundwork for your plan, don't give in at first. Now you know she is interested in you
Step 6. Find an excuse to go out alone together
Once you have reconnected and are together, arrange a meeting so that you can have some intimacy. Ask her if she would like to have coffee together or do something that feels like a date. This gives her a chance to think about you differently than before.
You should avoid an informal activity, such as the ones you used to do previously. If you've always met at either one's house to watch TV, then go out for a bite to eat. You have to make things happen differently now
Part 2 of 2: Turn her on
Step 1. Prepare to look your best
Make some changes in your look, so that you will be amazed when you meet to go out. Put on some new clothes, cut your hair and take care of your appearance. Remember to smell good so she can look at you with different eyes. Your goal is to look like a potential partner and not your usual old friend.
There is no particular dress or look that can catch a girl's attention. Wear what makes you feel comfortable, but at the same time you believe it suits you. Maybe you can consider being a little elegant, avoid worn basketball shorts and t-shirts with funny writing. Wear a shirt that makes you look good
Step 2. Be open
When you are together, don't act as if you are in the company of an old friend. Do something different than what you used to normally do with her. If you used to tease each other and make some crude jokes, try to have a more serious conversation this time. Ask her some intelligent questions and open up to her.
Try complaining to her about your previous relationships. If you want her to think of you in a new and different way, try bringing the topic to dating and try to understand how she reacts. For example, you could tell her how sad and dissatisfied you are with the girls you've dated in the past and that you would like someone who makes you feel good, just like her
Step 3. Pick up and interpret the signals it sends you
You need to figure out if she's interested in you or not. If she was, the off period you previously took from her dating should have shaken her up considerably. She should be excited when you are around, just like you are when she is around. If you feel these "vibrations" from her, then you can step forward and try to excite her a little more. If this doesn't happen, you can put an end to your attempts. Your plan didn't work, forget it.
- If he frowns and looks confused or keeps tapping your arm lightly, as if you were always his good old friend, then something went wrong. His behavior and body language are telling you that you are just friends. There's nothing wrong with that, but stop and don't embarrass yourself.
- If she looks beaming at you and reciprocates your flirtation, then she may be interested and you should try to go a little further to figure out if she likes you enough to kiss you. Move slowly, but don't stop.
Step 4. Start giving her a look of complicity
Look at it. Once you've allowed her to calm down for a while, start looking at her with different eyes. Adopt the same look she saw you use with other girls when you pretended to ignore her. Smile at them and keep eye contact from time to time and then look away as if you are embarrassed. If she asks what you are thinking, answer "nothing".
Don't scare her by staring at her all the time, act exactly in the most natural way possible. If you feel attracted to her then look at her, if you like
Step 5. Make light physical contact
A gentle touch on your hand or arm can go electric when you flirt with someone. It is also a quick and easy way to evaluate their reactions and understand what they are thinking. If you stroke her hand as you speak, try to point out something funny she said and see how she behaves. If he gives a big smile and looks happy, you can continue. If you have the impression that it recoils, stop.
- If you've made it this far and everything goes as hoped, try touching her hair or shoulder. Just quick caresses, you don't have to give her the impression that it's a "serious" physical contact and scare her. Try to be casual.
- Again, you might look creepy, especially if she isn't prepared or doesn't reciprocate your interest. For this stage you will need to do careful preparation work.
Step 6. Communicate your feelings to her
It's always nice to know someone likes you. If you want to turn this girl on, tell her. There is something chemical between you, you feel something and you think the same is true for her. You don't have to do anything different that you would do with another girl who has never been your friend. Just tell her you've been thinking a lot about her lately and not just a friend.
If you feel confident enough to do this, tell her that you would like to kiss her and ask her permission. He might say no, but maybe even agree. Either way, you will know how things really are
Step 7. Know when to stop
Sometimes two people just aren't meant for each other. This is not due to the fact that you are trapped in the "friend zone" and there is nothing you can do. Unfortunately she doesn't like you "that way" and there's nothing wrong with that. Things, in the future, may or may not change. However, if you force your hand right now, then you risk losing a good friend and falling into ridicule. For this reason it is important to know when to stop if you are not meant to be together.
