Have you ever found yourself in the awkward situation where your boyfriend wanted to kiss you but you weren't ready yet? You may both feel so pressured that he may try even if he isn't ready for it either. Here are some simple steps to make him understand that the time is not yet right.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Make it clear that you are not interested
Step 1. Try not to give the wrong signals if you don't want to be kissed
If so, don't flirt mischievously and don't talk about kissing.
Part 2 of 3: Avoid Being Kissed
Step 1. If you are out or on a date, and your partner is about to kiss you, don't push him away and don't scare him
Just move your head. If you push him away, he may feel rejected. It may be helpful to casually turn away or take your attention away from your partner for a few seconds.
Step 2. Smile after saying no so he won't feel rejected
Otherwise he may think you don't like him at all.
Step 3. Turn your cheek
Do this by tilting your head slightly. It will understand the signal.
Step 4. Try to distract your partner
For example, take his hand or rest his head on his shoulder. Show him that you can enjoy physical contact even without kissing.
Step 5. Eat a lollipop all the time you spend with your partner
Having something in his mouth, he will not be able to kiss you.
Step 6. Tell your partner that you have bad breath or are recovering from a virus
Add that it would be better to wait another moment for a kiss.
The problem with this approach is that it's just a tactic to postpone the fateful moment. If you don't want to kiss this person at all, or at least don't want to kiss this person for a long time, you will have to "face the conversation" sooner or later (see next passage)
Part 3 of 3: Face the Speech
Step 1. Tell your partner that you are not ready for a kiss yet
If he is truly interested in you, he will respect you and wait until you feel ready.
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This step will be necessary if your partner is too insistent. In this case, it's best to say right away that you don't want to be kissed.
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Step 2. Tell the person you are dating that you don't want to be kissed right away
That way he won't try to kiss you, and if he does, then you'll know it's not worth dating again.
Step 3. If you still don't understand, and are complaining, try changing the subject
And forget about this uncomfortable discussion.
Advice
- If you don't feel like being kissed, tell your partner that you are not well or that you are not in the mood. This will prevent them from feeling rejected.
- If you are kissing your partner and want to break away but he doesn't want to, push him away. If it continues, turn away.
- If you understand that he is approaching to kiss you, you can move to hug him. Turn your head away and hug him, smile and then walk away.
- Sometimes, it can happen that your partner puts their hands on your face. It might be a romantic gesture, but if you don't want him to do it, don't let him do it. A simple "no thanks" or head movement is preferable to pushing him away and scaring him.
- If you push him away but still try to kiss you, take a step back and try to explain the situation to him; if you try again then it's not worth wasting your time.
- Look him in the eye for 3 seconds after rejecting him. He should understand the signal and stop.
Warnings
- If someone has this attitude, they usually turn out to be a little bossy or violent in relationships. Not always, but it's best to be careful.
- Don't dismiss it unless it is forcing you inappropriately.
- Don't chew the gum in the hope that he won't kiss you, because the gum is in your mouth. Your partner may ask you to spit it out or they may kiss you anyway.
