So, you want a new pair of sneakers, but the answer is “No, what do you need them for! Why, the ones you have are not good? How many times have they given you this answer? Too many? Then read here and you will see that getting what you want will be much easier!
Steps
Step 1. Think about what you really want and why you want it. Always ask yourself "why"
Why do you want that thing? Why should your parents do this? If you don't find a valid answer, then don't make requests. If you don't know the reason for your desires, why should they please you? What you need is to find good reasons that justify your desire. This will make your parents think and lead them to consider your request.
Step 2. Don't make them think that any of your friends or cousins already have what you want
They certainly won't meet your requests.
Step 3. If you crave something, tell your parents once or twice, or they will think you do it for special needs
If you have siblings, you may notice that not all of their wishes are granted.
Step 4. Prepare to receive a "no"
If you keep your expectations low, you won't be so annoyed after receiving a no. Also, you will be happier if their answer is "yes". However, if they comply, don't get excited right away, as they may change their minds.
Step 5. Save your money only if they tell you that they will pay half of what you want, because in this case you will have some money to spare
If you prefer to go somewhere in particular, offer to pay for gas.
Step 6. Go to your parents and ask politely
Don't beg them. If they say no the first time, offer to pay half or gas. Run this offer after a first refusal.
Step 7. Smile
Make eye contact. Don't cross your arms, because you are growing up and you need to give your parents one more reason to get what you want.
Step 8. Do your research
If you want something branded, check if you can buy it on eBay or second hand. Calculate how long you will need to set aside the money you need. BUT - and this is a big but - don't waste computer time looking for a plane flight. Go back to your project for which you proposed to use the computer! If you know it's something you can't have, go for it, but also accept that it's not possible to get it. If this happens, you see that you will feel much more satisfied!
Step 9. Be nice to them
A request made politely, but without kindness, will not lead to a yes. So do well, studying and getting good grades in school and that way you have a chance that things will go your way.
Step 10. Make your parents trust you
Do the chores around the house and open the door for them! They will appreciate it very much, and when you make your requests, you will be much more likely to receive a yes!
Step 11. Don't yell, slam doors, insult them or complain
This is one of the worst mistakes children can make, as it often results in punishment and rejection. So, remember that!
Step 12. Finally, if you are not satisfied, there will be a good reason for it
So, shrug your shoulders and set aside your money to buy what you want, or try making your request after a few weeks. If your parents tell you another "no", save what is left to buy that battery that you will put in the anteroom of their bedroom. If paying full bills doesn't work, offer to do other chores around the house. Be willing to wait for what you are looking for. Even if you have a good reason and they say no, forget it. Whatever you want is not worth it if it makes your relationship with your parents conflicted.
Step 13. Write a letter telling your parents how much you want that particular thing and how you would feel if you couldn't have it
Or send them an e-mail. They will feel more involved in your situation.
Advice
- Do not give up. You may lose what you want most.
- The more you ask, the more the idea creeps into their thoughts. However, don't stand there and pretend all the time. You can make the request for your birthday, Easter, Christmas or some other holiday. Don't casually ask when it happens.
- If you have misbehaved, then don't make requests immediately after it happened, because they will be in a bad mood for some time. Don't even say sorry if you go back to soliciting them every day afterwards, because they'll think you're apologizing just to get what you want.
- The key to discussing what you want is to get them to think that you know what you are doing. If you want a new mobile phone, for example, and your parents tell you "borrow it from your friends", you have to wittily answer "If you trust me when I use my friend's, why don't you trust me to give my one?" they probably won't know what to tell you. This is a GOOD thing. Try to surprise them and they will have no reason to say no. Try to put them in a position to give you explanations - this will surprise them. Don't scoff at them if they are surprised by an answer. Act in the most irreproachable way.
- Believe in yourself. You will probably be nervous when you make some requests. Do not worry. Life goes on.
- Do your research. Take a tour of the internet shops. Your parents may be a little unsure of eBay and Amazon, but finding a bargain for the item you want at a retailer or specialist internet shop can help remove those doubts. Don't bother them because you can be sure it won't make them settle for you.
- This almost always works and is the right way: help your parents around the house. You could clean up in the living room, do the dishes, do the washing machine, take the dog for a walk or even cook dinner for them!
- Be responsible. If you want a new computer, make sure the old one doesn't catch a virus as soon as your parents said no. That sounds like a good idea, but it's not. Act wisely.
- Give a valid reason why they make the purchase you want and act with maturity while explaining your reasons.
- If you can, show the educational side of the thing you want. Playing football relieves stress. Kids who play do better at math (most of the time). “Pirate of the Caribbean 3” shows all the trials and difficulties that pirates face for the seas of Europe and Asia.
- Don't beg them.
- Try to act wisely and your parents will be much more likely to be understanding if you don't raise a wall with immature behaviors and responses with them.
Warnings
- Don't lose your cool.
- Do not be naughty. Your parents won't please you anymore.
- Praying them is useless. Most parents say no to the pathetic attempts of a pleading child.
- Don't be impatient.
- Don't ask why, if they tell you no. You will only put them in a position to lose their reason.
