Most parents do not easily allow their children to have piercings, especially if more than one. If you approach the topic correctly, however, you have a better chance of convincing them.
Steps
Step 1. Introduce the topic randomly
Try to introduce him into a spontaneous conversation, for example while you are having dinner together you might say something like “Mom can you pass the side dish? Are your earrings new? By the way, what do you say if I pierced my ears a second time? If you start talking casually your parents will deal with the subject better.
Step 2. Be prepared for their rejection
Be prepared for the possibility of them saying no, making an annoyed expression, and flatly refusing to consider the idea. If you are mentally prepared for this situation, you can immediately switch to plan B. If they say yes, you can be happy, and pleasantly surprised.
Step 3. Tell parents why you would like a piercing
Just telling your folks "I want a piercing" won't get you what you want. Instead, try to explain to them the reason, pointing out that you are young and that it is the right time to experiment and discover yourself. You say how much you appreciate what you see on other people, and that piercings are all the rage. Ask your parents for a chance to try something new now that you are a teenager and not constrained by the demands of work or the dress rules of your profession. Let your parents know that a piercing for you is a form of expression and a way to show your personality.
Step 4. Talk to one parent at a time
If your parents are wary, try to address them one at a time and discuss the topic that is so close to your heart. Start with the one who is generally more permissive, if he can consider your point of view there is a good chance he will then convince the other more severe one.
Step 5. Use phrases that your parents are unlikely to try to question
For instance:
- "I want to be myself, I don't care about the judgment of others".
- “I'm growing up and I feel the need to express myself”.
- "A piercing for me is a reward for my good behavior and my achievements".
- “If you don't want to see it, I won't wear it at home”. Obviously, only follow this advice if you can take it off, and after it is healed.
Step 6. Look for the right words
Think about phrases that might be more convincing for your parents. Use words like: please help me, myself, me, personality, adornment, express yourself, who I am, etc. But be careful not to repeat them too often. Don't always use the same phrases.
Step 7. Convince your parents that piercing is an art form
Don't use words like "get a piercing" or "earrings" too often, instead prefer terms like ornaments, decorate. Don't just say you like them, but rather that you love them; talk about it as if you were talking about your favorite hobby.
Step 8. Don't put your friends in the way
One of the most immature and counterproductive things is to say "but if my friend has a piercing why can't I do it?"
Step 9. Avoid getting too angry with your parents
If you lose your temper and start screaming, you won't be able to get what you want, and you will show yourself to be an immature person.
Step 10. Talk to your parents
Let your parents understand why you would like to have a piercing, or more than one, and prepare to have a ready answer to questions like "but what do you need it for?" Find compelling reasons.
Step 11. Practice
Before starting the speech, try to practice and think about everything you will say. If you want, take notes and memorize them, but don't sit in front of your parents reading your script, it won't seem like a spontaneous request. Try to get an idea of what you are going to say, avoid getting distracted and stick to the topic.
Step 12. Do your research
The more knowledge you have about the world of piercing the better. If you know what you are talking about your parents will understand that you are a mature person and you are convinced of your choices. Plus, doing research will also help you figure out if you really want a piercing and which one is right for you.
Step 13. Use your money
Find out the price of the piercing you would like, save some money and offer to pay for it yourself.
Step 14. Go for safety
One of the biggest fears of parents is related to safety, so look for a professional piercer who works in compliance with the law and hygiene regulations. Look for specialized laboratories in your area and decide which is the best. The cheapest place is usually the least recommended.
Step 15. Be available to discuss this with your parents and accept any compromises
If the parents say no, ask them to tell you the reason for their disagreement. Make yourself available to compromise; for example, if they prevent you from having a nose piercing ask to be able to pierce a second ear hole. If you show yourself to a mature person and show that you are considering their point of view, your parents will be less hostile in addressing the subject of piercing with you.
Step 16. Ask your mother at what age she put the earrings on
But be careful what you say, don't overdo it and don't be too petulant. If you push too hard, your parents may say no.
Advice
- Parents are often not in favor of piercing because in their day it may not have been considered something respectable by people. Make them understand that times have changed now.
- It is a good idea to talk to one parent at a time, for example during a car ride or breakfast; when you finish talking he will probably think about it during the day.
- If they say no because they don't like to see piercings, tell them that you will wear invisible designs to stay indoors, and that you will only replace them with jewelry when you go out with friends.
- If you understand that your parents don't want to, don't insist. But say a sentence that emphasizes that they don't think the same way you do.
- If one of your relatives has a piercing, try to get him to talk to your parents.
- If they say no, ask them to think about it for a little while.
- Ask for a piercing in exchange for a good grade in school, doing housework, or as a gift for your birthday or Christmas.
- Try to understand your parents' personality, and their mood swings.
- If your parents are unfamiliar with piercing and are scared, ask them to come with you to the lab to see that everything is legal or tell them they can visit the shop before accepting.
- It's a good idea to start with piercings that are less conspicuous than others, such as the ear, nostril or navel. Don't ask for a septum, tongue or eyebrow piercing right away. Take it one step at a time.
Warnings
- Never try to get a piercing without your parents' consent, do not have it done by a friend or an unprofessional person. You could face many complications, including infections, scars, ugly or crooked piercings, not to mention the pain you may experience and poor hygiene enforcement! It is better to wait and try again to convince parents that to suffer unnecessarily from an unsightly and dangerous piercing done by inexperienced hands.
- If your parents get very angry with you, avoid the conversation for a while. Pass some time and try again to ask kindly.
- Make sure you really want to. There is no point in having one made if it is just a momentary trend.
- Be prepared for rejection.
- Don't make your parents too angry or their point of view will never change.
- Many parents may be against it.
