Between the ages of 13 and 16, boys go through puberty and often want to change something about their appearance. Piercings allow them to express themselves, add a unique element to their outfit and change their style. To get one at such a young age, however, parental permission is required. It may seem difficult to convince them, but thanks to this article it won't be. You will have their permission in no time!
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Prepare for Confrontation with Parents
Step 1. Do research on piercings
To get your parents to let you have a piercing, the first step is to understand exactly what it is. The body parts most commonly chosen for the hole are the ears, navel, lips and tongue. All earrings have different sizes, shapes and colors. You can find information on the internet or at a local piercing shop.
- For example, if you wanted to get an ear piercing, you could choose between 10-15 different positions. These include the upper lobe, the temporal lobe, the concha, etc. Decide on the specific type of piercing you want and its location.
- The most common shapes for piercings are barbell, ring, open circle, retractor etc.
Step 2. Find a high quality piercing shop
Use the phone book or search online. Look for the services with the best reviews from customers. You shouldn't even consider shops that have received some unfavorable comments. Once you've found an establishment that meets your quality standards, visit the place in person. Evaluate the cleanliness of the room and the attitude of those who work there. Ask customers questions about their past experiences and write notes.
Step 3. Ask your friends questions about their experiences with piercings
Some of them probably have earrings or have tried to persuade their parents to buy one. They will be able to give you first-hand information about the pain caused by the procedure, their preferences in jewelry and the shops where they have had a piercing.
Make sure you write this information on paper. You can later add parts of their responses to your speech
Step 4. Write down why a piercing is important to you
In clear, concise language, make a list of the most important reasons why you feel you need an earring and why you want one. They can be trivial or very serious. Recognize both practical ("Jewelry is beautiful") and emotional ("It makes me feel good") reasons. Once you have made the list, cross out any items that might upset your parents and the less important ones. Expose your thoughts with complete sentences, with nouns, adjectives and verbs.
For example: "I want a black retractor on the temporal lobe of my ear. Such a piercing is beautiful and would make me feel more independent."
Step 5. Practice delivering the speech
You can do it in front of the mirror or with friends. Try to memorize as many parts of what you are going to say as possible to make it sound more convincing to your parents. Use a firm but not aggressive tone to emphasize some words or concepts. Avoid memorizing a script and add new phrases during rehearsal. Write a very convincing speech and try it at least 3-4 times.
Step 6. Get the material to present to your parents
You should find an image that exactly depicts the piercing you want to do. Add photos of the shop where you will undergo the procedure, brochures and brochures on piercings, medical statistics that mention the percentage of infections of those who have their skin pierced. You will need to be well prepared, so if your parents ask you a question, you will have the answer in your head or at your fingertips.
Note that you shouldn't present medical statistics that discredit your argument. If you find that your medical history is bad for a particular piercing, you may need to choose another one
Step 7. Wait for the right time
Your parents should be in a good mood when you decide to talk to them, and you will need some time to think. Think about the research you have done. Impulsive and ill-advised decisions are almost never right. By waiting a week, a month or a year you will have time to prepare and think about what you are doing.
If you notice your parents yelling a lot, don't confront them right away. If they have personal problems, you shouldn't burden them with another difficult decision
Part 2 of 3: Talk to Your Parents
Step 1. Let your parents know that you want to talk about something serious
They'll need to know right away that you're not joking, so use firm, assertive language. Leaving a ticket does not have the same effect as making a direct request. Set a day and time when you will speak. You shouldn't bombard them with information, but rather set aside a specific moment for a serious discussion.
You can say, "I want to talk to you about something serious. It's nothing serious, but it's important and I want you to listen to me."
Step 2. Sit with them in a comfortable place, such as the living room or bedroom
Dim the lights so they don't distract you too much. You should also make sure that all phones are turned off, as well as the television. Sit close to your parents so it is easy to talk.
You could use pillows to make yourself more comfortable. You must all be comfortable
Step 3. Start by describing your personal successes
You can list your academic achievements, events you've volunteered at, or family members you've helped. It's a great way to break the ice and remind your parents that you are a trustworthy person. This will allow you to get closer to a controversial topic like piercing. Once you remind your parents of your good deeds, they may be happier to accommodate your requests.
- Name all 7s and 8s you took in school recently. Remind your parents about the reports you wrote and how you help other kids with their homework.
- Volunteer activities, such as donating blood or cleaning a neighborhood street, show your parents that you have become a responsible young adult.
Step 4. State your reasons
Read the speech you have prepared or quote it by heart. Gesture to show your emotion and involvement. Speak clear and sensible sentences, remember not to go off topic and do not touch on other topics. If your parents interrupt you, remind them that they will have a chance to ask questions later. Present your argument, propose evidence in your favor, then repeat your reasons.
Step 5. Avoid irrational behaviors and emotions
By crying, complaining, and sulking you would show your parents that you are unable to handle emotions and, consequently, that you are not mature enough for a piercing. You will need to be calm and calm. Speak from the heart, but don't get too involved. Prove that you are a rational, logical thinking adult who has a lot of evidence to back up your thesis.
Step 6. Present the material to your parents
Give them the pictures and brochures you found. You can use them to support your arguments during the discussion or deliver them all at the end of the speech. Describe what each object represents so as not to confuse your parents. Later they will have to refer to those materials and get to know them well.
If you want, you can read the brochures with them, or answer their questions when they have consulted them
Step 7. Ask your parents to ask you questions
The conversation doesn't have to be one-sided and your parents need to be involved in the dialogue. Whenever they ask you a question, answer them clearly. If they were to feel insecure or unprepared, they would have big doubts about your maturity. When you don't know how to answer a question, suggest that your parents visit specific websites that contain the information they are looking for. Leave no room for doubt.
Part 3 of 3: Make a Compelling Argument for Your Piercing
Step 1. Accompany your parents to the piercing shop
Words will often not be enough to convince them that you are ready. Take them to the store, let them in, and introduce them to the person who will blow the hole. Show them pictures of the piercings that have been sold by the store and how clean the environment is. You can even let your parents talk to the customers present, so that they get an idea of the level of professionalism of the business.
Step 2. Enter into a contract or agreement
Your parents may consent to your piercing if you agree to their terms. You may need to improve your grades in school, do more chores around the house, or treat your siblings better. Write down the terms of the agreement and deadlines together in black and white. If you reach the required goals, you will have deserved the piercing.
Step 3. Always remind your parents that the piercing is very important to you
In some cases, just one speech is not enough. Some parents are stubborn and others don't know how to listen to their children. Don't let this get you down. Keep pointing out the value of the piercing in the days and weeks to come. Write cards that can better explain your motives. You may even plan other serious conversations in the future and still talk openly with your parents.
Step 4. Invite your parents to be there when you get the piercing
Instead of making them worry about the "dangers" of the procedure, ask them to accompany you. They will feel safer if they are by your side during the operation. They may even decide to buy an earring too, creating an occasion for the family to bond.
Step 5. Save to buy the piercing
Taking responsibility for some expenses is a sign of maturity. Many parents struggle to make ends meet and have no money to "waste" on a piercing. Find a job and set aside some savings. Make sure you have enough cash to cover the surgery and earring you want. You can tell your parents that you are willing to pay for all or part of the procedure out of your own pocket.
Step 6. Do more housework
You don't need to talk to your parents to prove your maturity. Do your laundry or do the dishes without being asked to. Offer to take out the trash or pick up your brother after football practice. Spend more time with your family on game nights or go out for dinner with relatives. Become an integral part of the family and show that you know how to take responsibility. Your parents may decide to reward your efforts and indulge in the piercing.
Advice
- Speak clearly with your parents. Stay focused on the goal.
- Do some thorough research. You should know the type of piercing and earring you want, as well as the store where you will undergo the procedure. Also inquire about the possible medical consequences.
- After the first discussion, wait some time. Return to the topic after a month to give your parents time to think.
- Purchase clip-on earrings to try out the piercing look before moving on to the permanent solution.
Warnings
- Be prepared for rejection. Some parents are stubborn and will not give in.
- Watch out for infections. Freshly made piercings need to be well cared for, so always clean and disinfect the pierced area.
- Don't bother your parents. While insisting can serve to demonstrate your belief, being pedantic will only make them more hostile towards you. Don't give them an excuse to deny you the piercing.
- Piercings, depending on the type, can cause a lot of pain. Better to consult a doctor and a professional in the field to know how much pain to expect.
