You've known for some time that you like someone you know, but you don't want to make them think the interest is reciprocated, or maybe you're busy and don't want to give the idea of considering cheating. Whatever the reason, sometimes it is necessary to avoid any behavior that makes it seem like you are flirting, and that requires some self-awareness and self-control, so be prepared!
Steps
Step 1. Don't talk too much about yourself with this person
Don't tell her about your personal or home problems. Usually we confide in our closest friends.
Step 2. If this person starts flirting, block their attempt in the bud
Don't take the hook. Ignore it and talk about a generic topic.
Step 3. Don't look her in the eye
Focus on something else while talking to her. If your eyes do meet, don't overdo the eye contact, but you don't want to look nervous, scared, or rude either - give the impression that you are bored.
Step 4. Encourage a friend to join you
If someone you trust realizes that you are uncomfortable, they will often step in to help you.
Step 5. Go away
Politely explain that you have a commitment elsewhere or that you need to talk to someone else.
Step 6. Tell her about your significant other or other people you like
Make sure you spontaneously mention someone else in the conversation, as this tactic can be very offensive if not done carefully.
Step 7. Use your body language to your advantage
Cross your arms and don't lean towards this person.
Step 8. Ignore emails, messages and phone calls that have nothing to do with work
Step 9. Watch out who might see you together:
an outsider might get the wrong idea.
Advice
- Don't hug her in a friendly way and avoid any other gesture of affection. He must remember that you are just friends and that you have no sentimental interest in him.
- If you can tactfully do this, explain to this person that they are like a brother / sister to you. Nobody likes to hear such a thing, but it sends a very clear signal: you care about her, but you are not interested from a sentimental point of view.
- Don't be unpleasant towards him. If you care about his friendship, reiterate it.
- If she annoys you day and night, explain that you are not interested in her.
Warnings
- Pay attention when you imagine someone likes you or you think they are flirting with you. It is quite offensive to use these methods to deal with someone who is just trying to be nice.
- Don't ask too many questions, or you risk appearing interested.
- Don't ask her too many personal questions: you can talk about superficial topics, like the food of a restaurant or the coffee of a bar, strictly visited with your partner.
- Don't touch this person: physical contact is one of the main ingredients of flirting!
- Avoid complimenting her at all costs.
