It's not always easy to know what's going on in an 11-year-old boy's head. It can be difficult to tell if he likes you, because he may make fun of you or send you confusing signals. Either way, if you make an effort to get his attention by showing him how friendly, confident, and kind you are, then you'll be able to see his true feelings in no time. Ultimately, a guy just wants to be with a self-satisfied, interesting, and loving girl.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Get Noticed
Step 1. Don't be afraid to talk to him
Many of your peers still don't have much experience with guys, so you can just stand out by cheering up and chatting with the one you like. You don't have to go to him and have an intense conversation, especially if you've never talked before, but just make a small move (say hello or wave your hand), or ask him for homework to deliver. They are good ideas for starting a dialogue. He will be impressed with your confidence and will want to get to know you better.
- At first, you can just say hello when you are in the company of other people, or even introducing yourself. Gradually, you can work your way up and find an excuse to strike up a conversation.
- If you're shy, you can think ahead of something to tell him, like asking him if he likes a certain subject or how the football match went.
Step 2. Smile at him
You don't have to hide under the counter or ignore it every time you meet. Just give him a nice smile to make him wonder who you are and make him curious. Guys also like sociable girls, because they make them feel comfortable and don't intimidate them. You may think they actually prefer girls who are aloof and quiet, but that's just a myth. Just smiling at a guy will make you notice and push him and want to get to know you better.
Smile at him when your eyes meet. You don't have to go looking for him just to smile at him, though
Step 3. Show him that you are sunny
Another way to get a guy to notice you is to make sure he sees you while you're having fun. Whether you talk to your friends, play outside with neighbors, or are waiting for school to open, she should realize that you are a person full of positive energy, who generally enjoys herself wherever she goes. Realizing that you are a sunny and cheerful girl, a girl who loves what she does, she will feel attracted to you and will want to meet you. On the other hand, if she always sees you angry or struggling with your cell phone, she won't think it's pleasant to be around you.
This doesn't mean pretending to be cheerful. If it's a bad day, you don't have to laugh out loud to get his attention. In general, though, you should strive to become a cheerful and pleasant person to hang out with. Seeing you smile and laugh, he will want to spend more time in your company to at least partially absorb your positivity
Step 4. Try to have confident body language
If you move decisively, then this guy will think you have self-esteem. You should maintain good posture both when standing and sitting, avoiding hunching over. Don't cross your arms across your chest, or you will look unfriendly or insecure. Instead, keep them at your sides, and sometimes use them to gesticulate when you speak. As you walk or talk to others, look straight ahead instead of staring at the floor.
Another way to communicate your self-esteem is to direct your body towards your interlocutor. When you talk to the guy you like, turn to him to show him that you feel comfortable in his presence
Step 5. Hit it with your self-esteem
Guys love confident girls, happy with who they are and what they look like. Of course, at 11 it is normal to have some insecurity: bodies and ideas about the world change. However, you can strive to become a confident person, despite the changes you are going through. Speak loud enough without being annoying and hateful, and avoid monopolizing the conversation. You certainly don't have to look like someone who thinks she's the best of all, but in general, you should give the impression that you appreciate yourself for hitting this guy.
- To sound confident, first, don't talk bad about yourself, unless you're doing it to make a little joke. But make it clear that you are joking.
- Talk about what you really care about or what you are good at. This shows that you are satisfied.
- You don't have to be perfect to be sure of yourself. However, you should be aware of your shortcomings, and want to improve yourself.
Step 6. Be friendly to everyone
Don't even think that a guy will only consider you if you're popular and unsympathetic to a lot of people. If you behave rudely to people you think are "less cool" than you just to impress, a nice guy will not look favorably upon him. You can work to create a positive image by behaving sweetly and sympathetically to anyone who deserves it, without being selectively unpleasant or nice. If you're friendly to pretty much everyone at school, then this guy will want to get to know you better: he'll think you're cool considering you get along well with so many people.
- Guys usually hate the queens of melodrama. It is much easier to get along with a social girl than with one who always fights with everyone.
- If there is a new girl in school, try to approach her and take her under your wing.
- If you're throwing a party, try to include and invite everyone you like instead of excluding someone just to be unpleasant.
Step 7. Try to emerge
If you want to get noticed by a guy, then you have to find a way to stand out. This doesn't mean dyeing your hair pink or playing the banjo to get her attention. Instead, it means you have to have something different in his eyes. It could be a quirky sense of humor, or an original clothing style. It could be your ability to strike up a conversation with just about anyone. Find the one that makes you special and make sure you notice it.
- It can be anything from your love of singing and dancing to accessories you create for your girlfriends. It is important to have a passion for something, no matter what.
- Of course, you should stand out for something positive, not for being obnoxious with professors or melodramatic.
Part 2 of 3: Keeping His Interest Alive
Step 1. Make him laugh
Don't be afraid to show off your sense of humor, however much you think it's a little too weird or quirky for his liking. Girls are sometimes afraid to joke around in the presence of the opposite sex because they think it's not cute. The truth is, many are looking for a girl who can make them laugh. You can playfully tease him, even dare a little more and make cheesy jokes, funny remarks about professors, TV shows or mutual friends. He will feel even more attracted to you when he realizes that you make him double over with laughter.
We mean it: a conversation with a guy isn't all that different from one with your girlfriends. Don't try to censor your sense of humor, and use it as you would in any other situation
Step 2. Give him a little compliment
Another way to get a guy's attention is to praise him. For example, you can tell him that you like his shirt or hat with his favorite team's logo, adding that you are a fan yourself. Alternatively, go to a game of hers with a few friends and, at the end, compliment her on how she played. You don't have to mention anything too personal - telling him he has beautiful eyes would make him blush a little more than expected. However, complimenting him on an activity he does well or a piece he wears will help you get noticed.
Do not overdo it. Just say something like “You played really well today” or “I like your new shoes” to get his attention
Step 3. Don't take yourself too seriously
Another way to keep a guy's interest alive is to show him that you don't take life too seriously, and that you can laugh at yourself and others. You can make a little self-mockery without sounding insecure, or just say you enjoy playing volleyball, even if you're not particularly good at it. You don't need to get too stressed out about school, friendships, or afternoon activities. You should show that you can give the right weight to things. Guys love girls who are motivated but who don't care too much, because it's more fun to let go and feel good.
- Don't make him understand that you give too much importance to the judgment of others. Focus on the moment and live it to the fullest. It is much more important to feel good than to have a perfect image.
- Talk about all the positive things you can't wait to do instead of worrying about everything that can go wrong.
Step 4. Ask him questions about his life
To be able to keep his interest alive, you definitely need to show him that you want to know him better. It's not a third degree, but you should make the effort to try to figure it out: ask him about his siblings, his favorite bands or shows. Make sure there is a balance between what you tell about yourself and the questions you ask them. Give it time to open up. Here are some good conversation starters:
- Your favorite TV shows, bands or movies.
- His favorite teams.
- His hobbies or interests.
- His pets.
- The plans for the weekend or the summer.
Step 5. Don't use your friends to text him
If you want this guy to appreciate you for who you are and consider yourself a potential girlfriend, then you shouldn't send your friends on scouting, or expect them to text him or text him. While this exchange is less intimidating, he'll be much more affected if you're mature enough to talk to him in person. Do you have something important to tell him? Then take a deep breath and call upon all your courage to expose yourself.
Your friends may even offer to go talk to him for you. It may tempt you, but you should politely decline their proposal, explaining that you prefer to do it alone
Step 6. Let him know what you like about him
If you want to keep a guy's interest alive, then he should know what makes him so special. This doesn't mean giving him a list of everything you like about him, but it can help to show him that you actually understand why he's unique. You can tell him that you love his sense of humor, that it's easy to talk to him or explain why he's different from other guys you know. Once you have a little more confidence and it becomes quite evident that you like each other, then letting him know how you feel can help him understand that you understand him deeply.
- You can say something like “It's so easy for you to talk to just about everyone. How do you do it?”, Or“You always make me die of laughter”.
- You could also say, “I think you really understand me. It's easy to tell you everything ".
Step 7. Find out if you have anything in common
While surprising a guy with your charm and self-esteem allows you to go a long way, you still need to look for something in common to talk about so as not to bore him. You don't have to share everything, but it would be ideal if you enjoyed the same bands, TV shows, teams, celebrities, or outdoor activities. Try to figure out what he prefers to do and try to indulge in this passion together, such as going to a game, watching a movie or even reading the same book and then discussing it. Here are some preferences you might share:
- Favorite bands.
- Favorite TV Shows.
- Favorite movies.
- Past similar.
- Brothers or sisters.
- Favorite foods or restaurants.
- Similar sense of humor.
Part 3 of 3: Making the Relationship Last
Step 1. Be sociable with his friends
It can be a little difficult to make friends with your peers, but it's important to try to be nice to your boyfriend's group to make your relationship last. You don't have to be their best friend, but try to be friendly and courteous so that they always have something nice to say about you. With a hateful or detestable attitude, they will try to dissuade their friend from going out with you - some kids of this age tend to get swayed by their group.
- When you see his friends, say hello and ask how they are doing. Get to know them a little better to show that you actually care about their friend.
- If you don't like one of his friends, don't tell him. It would only cause trouble between you.
Step 2. Show him your affection
Since you're only 11, you don't have to think about deepening the relationship from an intimate point of view. However, some affectionate gestures can favor a good relationship. You can hold hands, both when walking and when watching a movie. You can hug him when you see each other, or even let him hold you when you are together. These small demonstrations are enough to strengthen the bond.
Just remember that many 11-year-olds feel uncomfortable showing their affection in public, even with their girls. Start making these manifestations gradually and observe how he reacts
Step 3. Don't be stuffy
You'll also see hearts, rainbows, and butterflies every time you encounter it, but best to keep it to yourself, at least in most cases. You should let him know that you like him without telling him that you think you want to marry him and that you are crazy about him. Otherwise, you risk scaring him a lot. Remember that, at 11, it's important to have light and fun romantic relationships, don't take them too seriously. And indeed, this is good advice for starting a relationship at any age.
You can write him some notes to say hello and tell him you think so. However, you don't have to feel obligated to list the 50 things you like most about him
Step 4. Don't expect too much from the relationship
You should have fun when you are with him and live in the moment instead of thinking too much about the future. You simply have to appreciate your relationship for what it is instead of worrying about what's going to happen in a year, in the summer or on Valentine's Day. Instead, try to get to know him better and get on well together, and you'll see that you can have fun without having to think about it obsessively.
At first, avoid asking him what he thinks about your future together, what will happen in the summer or when you go to high school (quite a distant time). You will worry about all of this in due course
Step 5. Always make time for your friends
If you want the relationship to really last, then you need to make sure you strike a balance between the time you spend with your new boyfriend and time with old friends. They will always be there for you, and you don't have to start ignoring them just because you have a new love interest in your life. Balancing your relationship with friendships in a healthy way will enhance your relationship, which will strengthen and become more meaningful.
- If instead of always being with your boyfriend you spend time with your friends, you will miss each other, and that is good in small doses.
- Balancing your relationship with friends is a skill that takes years to perfect, so why not start early? Having time for the people you love is important to your happiness.
Step 6. Find new experiences to share
For a lasting relationship, you should avoid getting caught up in the routine. While your options are limited since you're 11, try to make the relationship interesting by trying new places to eat, hanging out for people your age or watching games together. It will do you good to cultivate experiences that both of you enjoy, and this will allow the relationship to always be fresh, full of new and exciting activities.
- Go to the pool, the lake or the beach together; also invite some friends.
- Take a ride together in a comic store.
- Relive your childhood by spending an afternoon in the public gardens.
- Play football with a group of friends.
- Invite a few friends over for a pizza and watch a movie.
- Sometimes, taking a walk together and talking about life is enough to have fun like never before.
Advice
- Never get possessive - she won't appreciate it. Give it space, but don't neglect it.
- You need to understand what it's like before you reveal your interest. For some guys, just step forward and be direct, for others, a more gradual approach is preferable.
- Above all, give him a chance to get to know you. Try to hang out with him and share something with him.
- A Nice Guy will appreciate your interest and won't make fun of you for being shy. Do not be nervous.
- There must be a reason why you like it: you probably have something in common. If you don't know him and are afraid to step forward, you can approach him with the excuse of asking him questions for a research you have been assigned at school.
- Don't get jealous if you see him with other girls.
- Don't always look at him - he will feel uncomfortable.
- Not all guys are the same. Some like skaters, others like nerds, still others like shy girls, or maybe a mix of all of this. Be yourself, period. If he doesn't like you for who you are, better find another guy.
- Find the right time to tell him you like him. Also, don't make fun of him too often - it will make him uncomfortable. However, be nice and smiley.
Warnings
- Don't be upset if you find he likes someone else, and don't tell him anything. She would think you're jealous and start drifting away from you, dating other girls more often. You can cry, but don't cry in his presence or when other people are around.
- Don't play at being unattainable, or he'll lose interest or dislike you.
- Be careful.
