Have you tried hard to get rid of someone you dislike, but it didn't work? This could be an annoying person who thinks they're your friend, a guy who has a crush on you but doesn't care, or a girl you just met who's hanging on to you all day. If you want to get someone you can't stand out of your way, the most direct way is to deal with them or avoid them until you get over it. However, if there is really no way that he understands it himself, try to annoy him until he distances himself. If you want to get rid of someone you don't like, keep reading the article.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Deal with it
Step 1. Think about what to say
If you want to confront this person by explaining that you don't want to see them anymore, you need to think about what you are going to tell them. If you blurt out and don't choose your words carefully, they may think you're not serious or don't really think what you're saying. You're about to let her know that you don't want to hang out with her anymore, so ask yourself what's the clearest way to explain your reasons.
- If she bothers you but you don't have the courage to tell her, you can simply tell her that you don't like your relationship, that your friendship is harmful, or that you prefer to permanently distance yourself from her.
- If there is more than one concrete reason (for example, it makes you feel uncomfortable, monopolizes every speech, and doesn't listen to anyone or treats you badly), let them know.
- It's not a problem if you don't want to be totally honest, especially if you think being honest would make the situation worse. Tell her that you don't have time to spend with friends, that you are having a hard time and prefer to be alone or that you just want to focus on studying.
Step 2. Tell her you want to end the friendship
Choose a place and a time when you can talk face-to-face and empty the bag. Maintain some physical distance and cross your arms to show closeness to him. Don't give her a chance to convince you, promise you that she will change, or even touch or hug you.
- Be short and concise. Don't give her time to react.
- Maintain eye contact. Show her you mean it.
Step 3. Find her a new friend
If you want to be nice after clearing up the situation, recommend a club, business, or place where she might make new friends. It will be good not only for her, but also for you. However, only propose this alternative if you feel a little guilty about excluding it from your life.
If he finds new friends, he will quickly forget about you
Step 4. Be consistent
If you have decided to cut all ties with this person (and have pointed them in a new direction), stick with your decision. Don't let her beg you, accidentally show up or follow you to the bar and force you to have a coffee. No means no, in any case. If it continues to annoy you, don't act hostile, but stay confident and firm in your decision.
Method 2 of 3: Avoid it
Step 1. Ignore his phone calls
Regardless of how often they call or text you, don't reply; not even phone calls or messages that seem desperate. If she's always on you, let her know that you answer everyone but her calls. If he asks you, "Did you see my phone call?", Look confused as if you don't understand what he's talking about. That way he should get the message.
Step 2. Ignore it on social networks
Regardless of how many things he may post on your Facebook wall, how many comments he writes at the bottom of your photos, or how many times he replies to your tweets, ignore it. If he has commented on your status with other people, like all comments except his own. Make it clear that you don't want to have anything to do with her, both in real and virtual life.
Step 3. Avoid the places he frequents
If you know that the girl you're trying to avoid always goes to a certain coffee shop, a mutual friend's party, or a movie on Friday nights, avoid these contexts. You will find it harder if you don't go to the same places. However, if he's always around you, this tip won't change the situation much.
Step 4. Change your habits
Never stop in the same spot for lunch and forget about the usual bar or restaurant. If the person you want to avoid knows exactly where to find you, you won't get rid of them easily. Even if you don't have to upset your life to escape its clutches, changing something in your daily habits won't hurt you, in fact it will allow you to get rid of an unwanted person.
- If he always sits next to you at lunchtime, try changing tables and choosing one away from the one you usually occupy so that he or she has a harder time finding you.
- If you and your friends always go out to dine in the same place on a Friday night, pick another one across town without getting the news to his ears.
- If he's always following you around the halls, change your route to go to class.
Step 5. Make new friends
If your friends like this person or are too kind to ignore them completely, you may want to change party. You're less likely to get annoyed if you hang out with other people and make new friends, and either way you may start hanging out in different places where they won't come looking for you.
Method 3 of 3: Annoy her
Step 1. You almost always cry
Try crying or being visibly low every time you are together. Tell her that you are experiencing a severe emotional breakdown, that the world is sad and unfair, and that you can't stop crying because you have a deep sense of sadness. At first, she will be honored to be able to help you, but if you go on like this for a couple of weeks, she may be walking away of her own free will.
Step 2. Brag about your skills
Who doesn't love narcissists? Talk all the time about how sexy and irresistible you are and how you will soon be rich and famous. Check yourself in the mirror all the time, fix your makeup, keep repeating how fabulous you are, and spin on yourself that your taste in clothing is the best ever.
- He often uses the words "mine" and "I" and changes the subject every time he starts talking about himself and monopolizes the conversation.
- When he draws attention to himself, look puzzled as if you don't understand what connection what he is saying has to you.
Step 3. Punch
Missing appointments is the best strategy. Plan to meet her, making sure you will be on time. When the time comes, don't introduce yourself and don't answer her calls. The next day, you can tell her: "I completely forgot!". You can even come up with a ridiculous excuse, like, "I had to wash my hair!" or "I couldn't get away from television. I was watching Grey's Anatomy!".
That way, the person themselves will avoid you in no time
Advice
- Don't be bribed to be friends with her and don't let her threaten you.
- Before cutting ties with someone, get all your personal belongings that may still be in their possession.
- Don't push it for too long. The sooner you end a relationship you don't like, the better. The alternative would be to live an unhappy life by making her think you like her.
- Explain that your friendship is not healthy and is not good for either of you.
- If you're going to deal with it directly, try the mirror talk.
- If you feel harassed or threatened, contact the authorities.
- Try to be gentle. Put yourself in his shoes. This person may feel lonely and seek a friend. She may not know how to be herself in your company and, as a result, can be misinterpreted.
- Don't be too bad. Humiliating people is bullying and, if done by friends, it is even more despicable. Don't mortify her. Just tell her there's no feeling and you don't like her presence.
- If he says or does something that upsets or annoys you, act as if nothing has happened. Don't react on instinct. Instead, by showing disinterest, he'll get angry that you're not bothered and, as a result, stop.
- If you feel guilty about telling someone to walk away, try to think about the reasons that led you to this. The angrier you are, the more motivated you will be.
- Speak to her kindly and explain your state of mind. He will most likely understand and leave you alone.
- The person you want to get rid of is most likely going through a bad time. Before avoiding her, try talking to her about the situation. It may be helpful to explain what is bothering you. Sometimes, all you need to do is have a friend around who can make you feel special and the only one you can count on. Try to be polite before expressing yourself bluntly.
Warnings
- Be careful what you say. Rumors are running and other people may not talk to you if they think you are rude or mean. Choose your words carefully.
- If it's someone who has a crush on you, you want to be clear and firm that they don't reciprocate. That way, you'll avoid the classic accusation of "playing with his feelings".
- Try to figure out if getting rid of this person could affect other friendships. Is it the friend of someone you love? If you try to rule it out, the other relationship could also fall apart.
- Don't underestimate the theory of the six degrees of separation. Don't get scorched around. Life is long and the world is small.
