A fit of anger in a child is terrible, but it can even be frightening in adults or the elderly. If your partner regularly loses his temper, here's a good way to deal with it.
Steps
Step 1. When he starts screaming, tell him:
"You are angry." The simple fact of recognizing and becoming aware of one's state of mind can calm it down and bring things back into perspective.
Step 2. If he starts directing his anger at you (with verbal and personal attacks for no reason at all) look him firmly in the eye and say:
"I don't tolerate this thing."
Step 3. If you insist, get out of the house for at least half an hour
So he can dull the fury and take the time to think, that way the tension doesn't build up to explode.
Step 4. Alternatively, you can leave your partner in his anger and ignore him, as it is his own decision
Just because he's angry doesn't mean he has to involve you or respond to him with the same temperament or that you have to bother and leave him alone. Just give him some space, finish what you were doing (maybe that was what infuriated him) and move on to another activity. You don't have to walk on tiptoe when you are close to him and not allow him to influence your actions. Do not interrupt what you were doing and when he calms down you can discuss what led him to the explosion of anger. It could also happen another day. Do not forget or ignore the episode, the important thing is to talk about it again when he is calm again and able to discuss the issues that made him angry.
Advice
- If you say that you are unwilling to endure a constant abusive relationship, it is important to get out of the situation you are in. His behavior will never change if you remain submissive. Be very careful not to react with the same anger, even if it would be tempting. If you get too angry, your partner has already achieved their goal.
- Decide in advance how to move to reach safe places so that you don't get stuck in dangerous areas.
- Rather than confront him when he's angry, use your actions to show him that you don't accept this behavior when he's around you. Retire to a safe room, talk to a friend, make arrangements not to be around when he is so angry, or other similar measures to communicate your feelings.
- If you are in a public place like a stadium or park, go somewhere else out of sight.
