Finding good friends and meaningful relationships as an adult can be difficult. Due to all the commitments that force us to be in a hurry, friendships are not only difficult to establish, but also to maintain. A good friendship is based on mutual respect, appreciation of the time spent together and a passion for common interests.
Steps
Step 1. Think about the hobbies, interests and activities you enjoy the most
There are special clubs dedicated to modeling, gardening or the arts that bring people together at regular intervals and, thanks to the common interest, it is possible to lay the foundations for lasting friendships.
Step 2. Spend time as a group in the social circles you frequent, for example at church, community service organizations, or a coffee shop where you stop often
Talk to people you meet.
Step 3. Devote a few minutes of your time each day to the people you work with
Going on with your work in a frantic way will make your coworkers think that you are weird, too busy, or not interested in them. You may be surprised at the friendships you can make with your colleagues.
Step 4. Join social clubs in your community such as Rotary or Lion's, or seek out amateur bowling or other sports teams if you like them
Step 5. Read the announcements in local newspapers to find out if there are evening classes that interest you in libraries or schools
By attending them you will have the opportunity to meet a group of people for a period of time and you may find friends through group projects or by studying with other people.
Step 6. Take the time to call, visit, or email new people you've met so they know you think about them and are interested in their businesses
Step 7. Be willing to listen if your new friends have problems
Also, offer your help if needed. Skills that can be shared are often important for making friends.
Step 8. Talk to people you see in sporting goods stores to share fishing tips or suggest which golf course is better
In places like these you can find people who share a passion for your favorite pastimes.
Step 9. Look for other businesses in your area on craigslist.org
Many of these are free and can give you the opportunity to meet adults who share the same interests as you.
Advice
- Smile, pay attention and be friendly.
- Talk to your neighbors, because there is no better place to find a friend than close to home.
- Try to ignore the quirks and flaws, as these are often only superficial things.
