Guys can be hard to keep in check, they are often reluctant to talk about how they feel and when they do, it can be hard to determine if they are really saying it all. Men often tend to be cautious with feelings. Unfortunately this can pose a problem when you really care about a guy. It's really hard to know how to make a guy feel good if he's not willing to tell you exactly what he needs. Fortunately, there are some things that almost all guys like; read Step 1 below to find out more.
Steps
Step 1. Make him feel wanted
Human beings are social animals. No matter the level of satisfaction we can get from our individual activities, we need to interact with others to feel truly "complete". People want to be wanted. They need to be needed. If you want to make your boyfriend feel good, start here. Depend on him. Get help from him in times of trouble. When he does, let him know how much you appreciate him. Your relationship should be balanced: as you rely on him, he should rely on you.
Step 2. Struggle for frankness, honesty and equality
Because guys are so used to being cautious, most of them will seriously appreciate a relationship that allows them to express themselves with total sincerity. It can take some time for a guy to "open up," so if yours hasn't done so yet, be sure to let him know that if he wanted to, he could talk to you about anything that worries him. She may not accept your offer right away, but when she does, she will truly appreciate that she can come straight to you to fully open up.
- It is easier to be open and honest with someone we consider to be equal to us. Try to share experiences, responsibilities and conversations with your partner; when you trust each other, your level of communication will naturally become deeper.
- Even in the closest and most intimate relationships, boys and girls don't constantly talk about their inner demons and emotional problems; can you imagine what terrible relationships would be established if we did? A common mistake is to insist with your partner asking him for details about the source of his concerns; While every couple should try to have open communication, it doesn't necessarily mean that both partners always want to talk about serious topics.
Step 3. Listen
Guys want to know they're being taken seriously. Because many guys have a hard time talking about their emotions with friends and even family, they want to feel that when they open up to you, you know it. During a normal conversation, you obviously don't have to dwell on every single word your boyfriend says, but when he talks to you about something serious, give him your full attention. Stand next to him and look him in the eye as he talks; he will no doubt appreciate your respect for him and will behave in the same way when you need someone to open up to.
Listening does not simply mean sitting quietly; give your boyfriend time to express his thoughts, but when there is a pause in the conversation, introduce your thoughts, questions and suggestions. This will show that you are really listening and your boyfriend will feel appreciated
Step 4. Be positive
Inner happiness manifests itself externally. If you and your boyfriend should feel more than comfortable talking about your concerns, most of the time you will simply want to be as happy with each other as possible. Try to build a full and fulfilling life, indulge in your hobbies, sleep a lot and do a lot of physical activity and keep an optimistic attitude. When you go out with your boyfriend, you will probably find that you have more fun if you are not stressed and if you are in a good mood.
There is a sexist stereotype that women should automatically be nice to men and smile. Do not do it; living with a positive attitude will make you and those around you happier, but pretending to be happy if you are not is not only disrespectful to yourself, it is also not at all what a Nice Guy wants from his girlfriend
Step 5. Be loving
One surefire way to make your boyfriend feel great about himself (and with you) is to give him affection (within reasonable limits). Think of affection as a way to show how much you care about someone: a healthy dose of affection makes you appear grateful, while a ton of affection can make you appear a little obsessive, so be reasonable. Your affection doesn't have to be pompous or attention-seeking; for example, you might just touch him gently by "mistake" as you walk beside him.
Step 6. Flirt
Most guys love gestures of affection, but displays of affection accompanied by some light teasing are doubly fun (for both). Try one of the oldest tricks: make yourself want. When it comes to giving him affection, keep him on the alert. Doing so will make him lose control and he will be totally into you.
Be ambiguous about your intentions, but if you are being precious make sure you are not too ambiguous or you will never be "hooked". You don't always have to hide your true intentions, sometimes it's good to be openly affectionate
Step 7. Be romantic
We all know the stereotype, boys are gruff, they leave no room for nonsense, they are lovers who do not get carried away by feelings, while girls are emotional, capricious and romantic. Real life is anything but simple. A lot of guys are openly romantic, while even more guys are basically romantic but embarrassed to open up about their feelings. Guys usually tend to engage in romantic gestures like buying chocolates, flowers, etc. Disrupt this old custom with a romantic gesture that comes from you; you may be surprised how touched your boyfriend is.
Step 8. Know it well
This is the key. Finally, to make your boyfriend feel good, you need to know what makes him truly happy and satisfied, which is impossible if you don't open up to one another. You know your boyfriend's quirks, the oddities that make him laugh, his little obsessions, his crazy fears. Create jokes between yourselves that no one else will understand. Understand how he feels with a look. You will learn these aspects naturally as you spend time together, and better than anything else, your boyfriend will learn about you.
Remember, the more you know about a person, the easier it will be to hurt them. As you learn more about your boyfriend, be sure to use this knowledge to do good, not harm. It's all too easy, in a moment of anger, to mention something very personal in a short-sighted attempt to hurt him
Warnings
- He may not be willing to talk at first, but you must not only show him but also show him that you will always be there for him.
- If you're trying to attract a guy, don't overdo it by flirting, touching, and smiling. Small gestures will convey the message you want.
