All people have one thing in common: they want to please others. We are a strongly ego-driven race, yet we feel an extreme need to receive the approval of others. To make people feel good, you don't have to do anything out of the ordinary, and you don't even have to really like them. This article outlines some steps you can use to make a person feel good.
Steps
Step 1. Use the name of your interlocutor
People tend to feel good when they hear their name. Sometimes, they even love friendly nicknames; for example, if someone loves football, you could emphasize this by calling him the "King of Football". Unless you already know he wouldn't appreciate these kinds of pet names; in this case, simply call it by name.
Step 2. Ask him to teach you something
People always feel satisfied when they can teach others something (and when the other person learns it's even better!).
Step 3. Give compliments
Even if you hate that person, you can always find something about them that you like. It could be his car or his watch.
Step 4. Listen and respond using something of what he said
This will let him know that you really listened. We all want people to listen to us. Even more often it happens that we want to impose our opinion, or we pretend to tell a person what he should have done in a given situation, or what we would have done. If you listen instead (and I mean really listen, don't nod and think of an answer), people will feel good because they will understand that someone is paying attention.
Step 5. Understand
Try to put yourself in their place and really understand what they mean. People feel good when they understand that someone understands them.
Step 6. Smile (sounds simple enough)
If you smile at someone, they will immediately feel comfortable.
Step 7. Remember the names of their husbands or wives, or even their interests
So when you meet them you can say "How are you, Linda?", Or "Are you still building the model of the boat?". If you remember some important details about people, you will make them feel special.
Step 8. Offer your help
This is quite simple; if a person needs help and you intervene, you will make them understand that there is someone they care about.
Step 9. Give fraternal hugs, kisses, or other friendly forms of physical contact
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Step 10. Buy a gift that makes the recipient feel loved
Step 11. Make an effort to absorb the negative energy that surrounds you and to re-transmit it positively
Advice
- Remember, you always have the power to make someone feel good.
- Always greet people warmly.
- People and situations are always different from each other, so adapt these tips accordingly.
Warnings
- Try to do what comes naturally to you, and be as honest as possible.
- This is not a guide to being a "licker". If you're not genuine, most people will notice.
