If you've met a girl you really like, you'll be naturally predisposed to wanting to spend more time with her. The easiest way to make sure you see her again so you know her better is to get her phone number. In a nervous attempt to handle this difficult situation, your confidence may fail. But don't worry - if you want to get a girl's phone number, all you have to do is follow these simple steps.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Become Friends First
Step 1. Take it easy
You need to relax before you approach the girl. Even if you are dying to get her number, you won't succeed unless you calm down first. She will be able to sense your nervousness from a kilometer away, and she may also fidget or risk frightening her.
- While it is normal to be nervous when feeling scared or shy, the girl may wonder what is happening to you. He may think that you are a weird one, even if it is a simple case of nervousness.
- Try to calm down by thinking about the worst case scenario. The worst thing that can happen: you ask her for her number and she doesn't want to give it to you. Can you survive this eventuality? Probably.
Step 2. Meet the girl
After you've calmed down, it's time to get busy. Look her in the eye, smile, and lean over to show her what kind of guy you are. If you want the conversation to proceed, you need to impress her as quickly as possible. Here's how to do it:
- Be sure of yourself. Show her that you like yourself just the way you are, that you are happy with what you do and that you enjoy meeting new people. If she understands that you are happy with who you are, she will be well disposed towards you. Maybe she is happy to know that you are interested in her.
- Give her your full attention. This doesn't mean you should look creepily into her eyes. Instead, it means you should turn your body in her direction, put away your cell phone, and let her know that you care what she says.
- Make her laugh. The easiest way to impress her is to charm her with your wit.
Step 3. Raise the conversation level
After the usual foreplay, like swapping names and where they come from, you should start conversing with the girl on a deeper level. It does not mean that you should ask her about her philosophy of life or the most significant experience of her childhood, but that you should move the subject beyond the usual phrases of circumstance. Here's how to do it:
- Ask her about her. Not like it was an interview. Just ask her if she has any siblings, what movie she likes or what she thinks about her work. Show her that you care about her opinion.
- Open up a little. Make sure the conversation stays balanced. You don't have to pressure her by asking too many questions without revealing anything about you, but you shouldn't monopolize the conversation either.
- Make fun of it. Once you've built a good relationship, start joking around a bit. For example, if she's wearing a necklace that looks like solid gold, pick it up and ask her if it's real gold.
- Give her some compliments. Don't tell her she's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen. Just tell her she has a great laugh or a dazzling look. Do not overdo it! Stay rational.
Step 4. Make her like you
After the introductions and captivating her, it's time to try to please her enough to want to spend more time with you. He must not think that you are the man who has been waiting for a lifetime; his reflection should simply be: "This guy is nice. I want to see him again!". Here's how to make that happen:
- Make a few jokes. Show her that you like to tease her and that she does the same to you, too, by carrying on an intriguing conversation. If he makes a funny joke, respond in kind instead of laughing. You will let her know that you can keep up with her.
- Tell her something a little more personal, without making her feel uncomfortable. Tell her something that makes her feel tender to show her that you are not only funny, but that you also have a softer side.
- She also needs to open up to you. Come closer and encourage her to tell you something about herself that she doesn't confide in anyone. Start building a strong relationship.
- Relate something about the initial stage of the conversation. Women love this kind of attention, if you do it right. If you can repeat something that came up at the beginning of your discussion, you may be impressed by her simply by remembering everything she says.
Step 5. Ask her for her number at the peak of the conversation
Don't wait any longer or you will miss the opportunity. You need to ask her exactly when you're having the most fun talking to her or when you're laughing out loud. Just when you think you're having so much fun that you don't want to interrupt to ask her for the number… ask her immediately. Here are two ways to do it:
- Ask her out. Instead of getting her phone number, ask her out together. During a nice conversation, just say, "I have to go, but I want to continue the conversation over a dinner or an aperitif next week. Would you like that?". If the answer is yes, you should ask her for her number to agree.
- Ask her for her phone number directly. When the conversation goes smoothly, simply tell her, "I really enjoy talking to you. Can I have your mobile number to keep chatting?". Make it clear that you ask her because you are okay with her, not because you want to bombard her with text messages or because you collect girls' phone numbers.
- React appropriately. Avoid jumping by waving your fist in the air as if you were winning a trophy. Just thank her, adding that you will call her soon. Say hello and walk away with your head held high. If she says no, shrug and tell her it's okay - it was nice to meet her anyway.
Part 2 of 3: The two minute technique
Step 1. Find the girl that's right for you
If you see a girl who is absolutely gorgeous or someone so pretty that you want to get to know her better, then you might want to quickly ask her for her mobile number. To do this in two minutes, you need to make every second matter. First of all, you need to make sure she is receptive.
Once you've found the perfect girl, approach her with a big smile and strong eye contact
Step 2. Charm her with your approach
Approach the girl as if you were on a mission. After all, you are! Turn to her and tell her your name. Ask her for hers. Whatever name it is, tell her it's beautiful.
- Make her laugh.
- Explain that you're not usually that cheeky, but that from the first moment you saw her you couldn't help but get closer to get to know her better at all costs.
Step 3. Ask for her mobile number
Explain that you absolutely must leave, but that you know that if you don't at least try to get her mobile number so you can get to know her better in the future, you will regret it.
- If she gives you her number, thank her and tell her that the idea of getting to know her better makes you happy. Then walk away quickly, as if you really have a commitment.
- If the answer is no, make a joke and tell her that at least you tried. Be proud of yourself for making such an effort.
Part 3 of 3: Things to avoid
Step 1. Don't ask them too soon
While the lightning-fast approach above may be effective, a more protracted conversation may not be. You should take enough time to introduce yourself to the girl, ask her her name, and show her what a nice guy you are, so that she will want to see you again.
- Don't approach a girl just to say, "Hey, I want to see you later. Can I have your number?"
- Don't ask for her mobile number without first telling her your name.
Step 2. Avoid asking for her number if the conversation languishes
If you notice that the dialogue is detached or that the girl keeps looking around, checking her cell phone or trying to keep eye contact with her friends so that they come and rescue her from you, you have missed the opportunity. You will have better luck next time.
- If both of you are having a hard time finding something to say, there's no point asking her for her cell phone number. Why should he give it to you? So that you find yourself in this awkward silence once again?
- If he greets you and walks away, don't ask him. If she had wanted to give it to you, she would have stayed.
Step 3. Don't make your friends ask for you
Unless you're a kid, you need to brace yourself and ask for it yourself. If others do it for you, you will be shy, insecure, and immature.
If a girl thinks you're not assertive enough to ask her for her cell phone number, how can she expect you to impress her?
Step 4. Don't use tricks to get his number:
it's mediocre. She may think you are too cowardly to be able to ask her for her cell phone number normally. There are better ways of getting it.
Advice
- Find out about their interests so you know if you have something to message each other about.
- One method that usually works is to give her your number first. You might find an excuse, explaining that you need to leave but that if she wants to continue the conversation, she can call or text you.
- Always check that you are not wearing a wedding ring. It would be embarrassing to ask a married woman for a cell phone number.
- If she is with a man, it is probably her boyfriend or her husband. This is not always the case, but you have to be careful. Use your head and see how they interact before deciding what to do.
- Don't be afraid to start a conversation with a girl, whether she's alone or with other people, even with a male friend. Get close to her, tell her something and start having a conversation.
- There are girls who don't like to play and prefer frankness. In this case, you can simply ask her for the number.
- Don't be discouraged if the plan doesn't work. The more times you try, the more likely you are to get a positive response.
