Getting the phone number of your crush can be as difficult as calling her directly, but there are several tactics you could use to increase your chances of success. You could make her fall into the trap of asking you for your number first, if you don't have the stomach to make the first move or you might be able to get the information you want from another source.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Have you ask for your number
Step 1. Go to her in person
This method works much better if you are talking to your crush in person. Even if you talk to each other via email or social media, it would be best if you wait to talk to her face to face.
This tactic consists in devising some stratagem to have you send a text message or call directly from her to request some kind of information. If you're talking to her online, your crush will likely ask you for the information right there. Talking to her in person, however, makes it easier to find an excuse to run away and postpone the conversation. As a result, your crush will have no choice but to ask you for your number to make her request
Step 2. Try to plan an event and act as if she already has your number
Invite your crush to an event where your mates are involved. Tell her you'll text her later with all the details and start walking away. Your crush should realize you've never exchanged phone numbers and may be trying to stop you to tell you.
- It is essential that the event in question also involves other people. In this way, the invitation will not sound too demanding or inappropriate, and the girl will be more likely to accept the invitation than there would be if you were to invite her to a private meeting between you.
- Make sure the group is made up of people your crush knows casually, but not too well. If the group is made up of close friends of your crush, the odds are that she will have the number of someone in the group and ask him for the details instead of you.
- Try to take off your heels as soon as you have invited her. If you hold back too long, your crush may be asking you to give her the details out of the blue and your excuse to swap phone numbers would no longer have a reason to be.
- Your crush may respond in three different ways. With any luck, she will try to stop you instantly and ask you to give her your number. If this doesn't happen and she lets you walk away, she may ask you for your number later so she can get it if needed in the future. Of course, there is also a third possibility, which is that your crush isn't trying to get your number at all, in which case you should consider the possibility that she isn't interested in you at all.
Step 3. Alternatively, try to find an excuse
Instead of making plans, you can offer to give your friend the number in "just in case". Think of anything you usually do together and make up an excuse based on that. If you're good enough at trying to find the right excuse, she may even ask you for your number directly, without you even having to offer it.
- If you are in class together, try to take advantage of it. Consider the various options you have. If you are good at math and she is not, you may want to offer to help her whenever she has a problem with this subject. Or, if your crush knows in advance that she needs to skip a class, tell her to call you so you can catch her up and pass her notes.
- If you and she do some extracurricular activities together, try offering her your phone number and tell her to call you in case she needs a ride from home to school or vice versa.
- If you both cheer on the same team, use it as an opportunity to give them your number. Tell her that you will be forced to miss the game this week and ask her to update you on the score with a text message.
Step 4. Get her to call you
This is another tactic you could use to try to trick your crush into giving you her number. When you're out and about with her, mention that your phone's ringtone doesn't seem to work well and ask her to call you to try it out. At this point it should ask you for your number. Better yet, once she calls you on the phone, you'll automatically get her number without even asking.
- It is important that you are alone when making your move, otherwise someone else may offer to call in his place.
- Once your crush has called you try to sound happy that your phone seems to be working, but try not to overdo it or it may understand your true intentions.
Step 5. Try to be casual
Once you and your crush have exchanged phone numbers, try to stay calm. Avoid calling her or texting her immediately. Wait a few days to avoid looking too obsessive.
Since technically your crush was the first to ask for your phone number, you should try to wait for her to call you first instead of making the first move. This may not be easy, however, if you wait, it may pay off for your patience
Part 2 of 3: Ask Him Directly
Step 1. Ask for her number in person or online
If you know your crush well enough and are already exchanging emails or texting each other on social networks, ask her to give you her number while you chat online. Asking in person would do just as well, of course.
Step 2. Avoid typical pickup phrases
It might be tempting to use a few honeyed pick-ups to get your crush's number, but this tactic isn't advisable. By using pick-up phrases, your true intentions would become obvious and you would risk putting the girl into question under pressure. It would be advisable for you to try to hide your feelings to avoid making her uncomfortable.
The only case in which a direct approach might work is when you and your crush are already on good terms with each other. Under these circumstances, some honeyed pickup lines might sound like a joke, and you might even have a laugh together. If your crush doesn't take you seriously and doesn't give you her number, forget about this approach and try another one without insisting further
Step 3. Find a good excuse
If you seem to have a good reason to ask your crush for the phone number, she'll be more likely to give it to you and reveal those mysterious numbers to you. Make excuses in your daily life by focusing on those things you share with her to make it much more convincing.
- Being in class together is a great place to start if you intend to ask the girl to give you her number. If you have an assignment to do together, ask her to give you her number so that you can arrange your meetings to work on the assignment outside the classroom. Similarly, if you have problems with a particular subject in which your crush excels, ask if she is willing to help you with homework over the phone.
- If you and your crush are cheering on the same team and your crush happens to say they can't watch the next game, offer to update it via text message. This would be a perfect excuse to ask her to give you her number.
Step 4. Ask her to exchange numbers
If you are feeling brave and confident enough that your crush can reciprocate your feelings, you may want to offer to give her your number without making an apology. Doing so could lead her to do the same and give you her number.
- Be confident and stay calm. There is no need to complicate things. Just give her your number and tell her to call you if she feels the urge to do so. If she reciprocates your feelings, she should offer you her number in exchange, with a similar set of conditions.
- If you two have already started flirting with each other, you can ask her to give you the number while you are flirting with her. Say it simply and directly like: "I'll give you my number, if you give me yours too." Try to keep the tone of the conversation light-hearted enough to avoid putting too much pressure on her or making her feel uncomfortable.
Step 5. Wait some time
As mentioned earlier, avoid calling your crush right after she gives you the number. If you are too zealous in sending that first text message or making your first phone call, you could scare the shining out of your eyes.
- If you used a specific excuse to get her number, try to keep in mind the excuse you used when you first called her.
- If you didn't use an excuse when you asked her, however, you can also call or text her whenever you have something to say.
Part 3 of 3: Obtaining his Number Indirectly
Step 1. Get a business card
If you and your crush are both adults and work in business, instead of asking her to give you the number directly, you may want to ask her to give you her business card.
It should be noted, however, that through this tactic you could end up with his job number, rather than his personal one. Make sure one of the phone numbers on the business card is listed as a mobile phone number before using it for personal purposes
Step 2. Ask a friend of hers for the number
Asking for help from another person could be the decisive move, especially if the person in question is a friend of both. The ideal would be that this person already has your crush's number. Otherwise, he may still ask him without feeling uncomfortable.
The downside is that your mutual friend may guess your intentions, so be careful when choosing which friend to ask. If you are not comfortable with the idea of your crush learning about your feelings through word of mouth, try to choose a person who is able to keep a secret
Step 3. Do research on social networks
Nowadays, you can find out a lot about a person by browsing a little online. The easiest way to find someone's phone number is to check the person's Facebook profile. If you are friends on Facebook, there is a good chance that you have entered your mobile number in your personal data.
Step 4. Search for his number
While there are no free, reliable services to find someone's mobile number, you can simply check the phone book to find their home number. It's always better than nothing.
- This tactic only works if your crush has a landline phone, and if that number is publicly listed.
- Remember that if your crush is a minor or otherwise lives with her parents, you will need to know their names before you can look up the number in the phone book.
Step 5. Try to find a good reason to call or text her
Since you got her phone number from a third person, she might not like it if you call or text her without warning and for no reason. When you call, make sure you have a more than credible excuse to do so. Admit that you got her number from a third party, and tell her why you needed it.
