Getting the number from a person you're interested in isn't difficult if you plan a proper approach. Here are some tips on how to do it.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Prepare to Ask Him
Step 1. Cultivate your self-esteem
A self-confident person is very attractive to the opposite sex.
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Feel good wearing your favorite outfit, grooming your hair and listening to your favorite music. Always do this so as not to neglect yourself and be sure of yourself at all times, especially the day you intend to ask this person for the number.
Make Your Cousin Jealous Step 01 - If you don't feel confident, act like you are. Others, if they don't know you, won't notice the fiction and, over time, you may become convinced that you really are.
Step 2. Don't do too many tests
If you practice and replay the scene in your mind by thinking and rethinking how you are going to ask her for the number, your words may seem fake once you say them. Furthermore, the course of these situations can hardly be predicted, so the practice risks being useless.
Step 3. Be aware of your intentions
Will you ask her for her number for fun? To see you again the next day? To invite her out with you? Decide what to do with the number before asking.
Step 4. Prepare for the conversation
While nervousness can get in your way and make you think of the actual conversation as if it were the scariest experience in the world, on the other hand you need to sell your charm in exchange for the number.
- Don't expect that you won't have to do anything other than approach this person, ask for their number, and leave. You will need to chat with her for at least a little while before and after the actual "transaction".
- Be open and honest. You may ask yourself some questions, which you may want to answer concisely and truthfully.
- Don't monopolize the conversation. As easy as you find it to talk about yourself, ask this person questions and give them time to answer. Be a good listener, which is always attractive.
- End the conversation at the right time. As pleasant as it is, lingering can get boring. Make sure you don't steal this person's time by chatting too much.
Step 5. Don't stalk the person in question
While you have been wanting her number since time immemorial, this is not a valid reason to follow her. If he finds you, he will find it shady and that certainly won't put you in a good light.
Method 2 of 4: Ask for the Number
Step 1. Try to be direct
This is the simplest option. Approach this person, start talking and, in between topics, make a comment like: “You know, it's really fun to chat with you. Can you give me your number to hear from us every now and then?.
- If you are asking a stranger, don't be afraid to have to give her a few more details about you. This person probably already knows that you have some interest in him.
- If you already know her, make sure your intentions are crystal clear. You don't want to sound like a platonic friend looking for support when you're actually romantically interested in her.
Step 2. Ask her for something to borrow, like a pen, and ask her for the number to tell her you will call her to return it
This approach is both provocative and direct, a perfect combination to impress.
Step 3. Ask her by placing her in front of a choice
Instead of asking her dryly "Will you give me your number?", Offer her two options: "Can you give me your phone number or your email?". Thus, you will have a better chance of getting at least one way to contact her.
Step 4. Swap your business card for his
Although this tool is no longer popular among young people, it is a great way to get someone's contact details and to check if the number is real, not a fake one given for lack of interest and to smuggle a person.
Method 3 of 4: What to Do Next
Step 1. Go away without rushing
Once he has given you the number, don't delay. Walk to the door calmly. Leave the scene or go to a different area of your current location.
Step 2. Wait patiently
Even though you have her number, don't call her two seconds later. Let them pass at least 24 hours before making a move.
Step 3. Call her, don't text her
Sure, texting is safer and lessens anxiety, but it can also be more distant and impersonal. For a much more personal conversation, call. Whether it's the first or the fortieth time you get in touch with her, calling is always preferable to texting.
Step 4. Don't get nervous
He is a person like many others, okay? Don't get overwhelmed by anxiety or worry the first time you use her number. Keep calm: he will feel your peace of mind and find you even more charming.
Method 4 of 4: Get Someone's Number Without Asking
Step 1. If you are with this person, take their phone out of sight and hide it or grab it in an obvious and flirtatious way
- Text yourself from his cell phone and add your number to his address book.
- Look for his number in the phone settings.
Step 2. Ask someone else for their number, such as a mutual friend
This way, you will get it without having to be direct.
Step 3. Look up his number in the phone book or address book of a mutual friend or colleague
Use any method available to achieve it.
Advice
- Don't make her think you approached her just to get her number. Be interested in the conversation.
- If you are given a fake number, don't take it personally. Surely that person was not for you!
- Don't insist if he doesn't want to give you his number.
- Look at the relationship you have with this person before asking for their number. Acting impulsively with someone you barely know can cause discomfort.
