In almost all relationships, there are times when everything gets more complicated. Long-distance relationships can be characterized by these moments of difficulty with greater frequency. Not seeing your partner every day or even every week could put a strain on the relationship and give you some doubts. However, your chances of long-distance relationships may increase if you set some ground rules, keep in regular contact, and focus on the little things.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Establishing the Ground Rules
Step 1. Explain what you find acceptable and unacceptable in a report
Long distance relationships come with a number of challenges. One of the most difficult is temptation. At the beginning of your story, agree with the other person what the limits of your tolerance are in order to avoid problems in the future.
- For example, decide whether to give yourself the opportunity to go out or have a romantic date with other people. Make it clear on this point if you intend to pursue a long-distance relationship. Otherwise, the risk of suffering will always be around the corner.
- Remember it's not all or nothing. You may find it advantageous to hang out with other people for a period and then establish a proper engagement, after which the relationship becomes exclusive.
Step 2. Discuss the frequency of contacts
If you think like most people, it is plausible to assume that the lack of communication with the person you love can create some friction, especially if it lasts a few weeks. However, feeling constantly throughout the day can give the impression that there is a lack of trust in the relationship. Decide at the outset how often you would like to keep in touch and stick to the commitment.
For example, you may decide to send me text messages every day to exchange greetings and tell a few episodes of everyday life, but to talk on the phone a couple of times a week. If you establish these rules from the start, you will avoid feeling pain and hurting the other person by giving them the impression that it is not a priority
Step 3. Trust each other
Long-distance relationships are built on trust. If you want your story to work, you need to be able to trust your partner. If you find yourself always on the defensive or questioning his intentions, or vice versa, the relationship isn't going to last long.
Make it a rule to trust each other 100%. Decide to believe each other and have no doubts about the feeling that binds you. If you can't get into this, you may not be ready to be in a long distance relationship
Step 4. Set a plausible deadline
Chances are you won't want to be in a long distance relationship for the rest of your life. So, decide at the outset how long you will be apart. With the idea of getting closer as your ultimate goal, you will be more optimistic when the sense of insecurity takes over.
For example, you can decide to move in with your partner after a year or think about moving in if things are still going well after six months
Part 2 of 3: Stay in Touch Regularly
Step 1. Use technology to see yourself more often
There are many other solutions besides text messages and phone calls. It is normal for two people who are together to want to see each other and, if they do not have the opportunity, they may forget why they have chosen to establish a romantic relationship. Fortunately, you can resort to technological devices to see your partner whenever you want.
Some applications, such as Skype and Facebook Messenger, allow you to communicate via video conference on your mobile or computer. Use them more often to keep in touch
Step 2. Use the network to share what you do
If, thanks to the use of the Internet, you involve the other person in your activities, you will shorten the distance and you can have fun together. What you choose to do depends largely on your respective interests. There are games and playful activities that adapt to the peculiarities of any couple.
- For example, connect to the web and play together on your computer or use a video game console and challenge yourself. You can also play against each other on mobile.
- You also have the opportunity to simultaneously watch movies or TV shows or learn a new skill together, such as a computer language.
Step 3. Plan to see each other as often as possible
Couples need to interact physically and cannot do so unless they see each other in person. Simply holding hands or eating together can make a big difference in the relationship and keep interest alive. Therefore, try to see each other as often as you can.
For example, give yourself "appointments", be it every weekend, every two weeks, or once a month. A long-distance relationship could fall apart if you are unable to meet regularly. You will likely have to reconsider your respective situations if you fail to meet the needs of the couple
Step 4. Do similar things together
To be a couple, you need to share and cultivate some interests together. This way, you will have something to talk about and you will get to know each other better.
For example, you can read the same book and eventually exchange views, start exercising with the same exercise program, go on a diet, or watch a movie while on the phone
Part 3 of 3: Focus on the Little Things
Step 1. Forget what a "standard" relationship should be like
If you fear that your story does not fall within the canons of life as a couple, stop. If you think it won't work, the relationship will run into a lot of trouble right from the start. Don't worry about what's going on and do what you think is right.
If friends and family systematically question your relationship, you should tell them not to interfere. Kindly reply: "I understand that you worry about me, but your constant criticism of my relationship doesn't help me. I would appreciate it if we didn't talk about my love life."
Step 2. Send yourself gifts for no special reason
To keep the relationship exciting, each partner must do something for the other in a selfless manner. So, don't lose sight of this just because you are in a long-distance relationship. You can send signals of affection to the person you love even if you don't live close by.
- For example, you can send her flowers, have a bottle of wine arrive at the restaurant table where you know she's going to eat, and write a letter stating how you feel about her. These small gestures can have a very positive effect on the relationship.
- Long distance relationships can come with challenges, but there are also rewards. It is possible to develop a strong sensitivity in building relationships and learn to be understanding in the life of a couple.
Step 3. Don't miss the opportunities that matter
Avoid using distance as an excuse for not being present in the most important situations. By being next to your partner when they need you or giving them a surprise, you will let them know how involved you are and love them.
