If you're a girl, the idea of becoming friends with a man may scare you, but it's easier than it sounds. Get to know him little by little and create a solid friendship that lasts over time. Start by becoming his acquaintance, then move on to friendship. At that point, you can work hard to make the relationship last for a long time.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Becoming Acquainted
Step 1. Find out his interests
Ask a mutual friend about the guy's favorite hobbies or pastimes you want to meet. Investigate social media to find out what his favorite songs, movies, and TV shows are. See if you play sports at school or with friends.
For example, you can ask a mutual friend, "What does he like to do when he's not at school?" or "Can you tell me what his favorite TV show is?"
Step 2. Follow him on social networks
Search her profile on platforms such as Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter and Facebook. Follow him, so you can get to know him better via the internet. If he follows you in turn, you can begin to develop your friendship.
You can use social networks to learn more about their interests and use them as a direct line of communication. This can make you feel more comfortable talking to him and help build your friendship
Step 3. Focus on the interests you have in common
People are usually drawn to people with similar backgrounds, so it will be easier for the guy to bond with you if he notices similarities. Think of common interests, like a TV show or sport, then use them to break the ice in your first few conversations.
- For example, you may find that you both love action movies or video games.
- Don't pretend you have the same interests as a guy to be friends with him. There will probably be at least one thing you both like, so you don't need to pretend.
Step 4. Approach him when he is in a group
If you've never spoken, meeting him in a group can make you more comfortable. If you have mutual friends, ask if they can give introductions when you are all together.
If you don't have mutual friends, you can join a group or club he attends. This way you will not only have the opportunity to interact with him more often, but you will also create a common interest in a natural way
Step 5. Keep your body language open when you are with him
When you're with the guy you want to be friends with, try to be open and friendly. Avoid aggressive gestures, such as clenching your hands into fists and crossing your arms. Instead, keep your arms relaxed at your sides, smile and nod.
When you talk to him, you should make eye contact with him so that he understands that you care what he has to say
Part 2 of 3: Developing Friendship
Step 1. Invite him to do something with you
While it can make you very nervous, spending time together alone is a great way to make friends. Think of an activity that both of you enjoy and invite him to do it with you. When making your proposal, try to be specific but open to other possibilities.
For example, if you know he likes bowling, ask him if he would like to play a game with you. By not setting a specific date already, your proposal is more flexible, while by specifying an activity you make him understand that you have noticed his interests and discharging the responsibility of planning
Step 2. Keep your interactions positive
Our brains associate positive experiences with pleasant feelings, so try to make your storage and the activities you do together cheerful and fun. In a short time he will learn to associate time spent with you with fun and he will ask you to see you.
Step 3. Show yourself trustworthy
Do what you can to keep your promises. When planning something, choose a date and time when you know you are free. Stay in touch and communicate with him constantly. If you don't, you will seem untrustworthy and he may think you don't care about your relationship.
Part 3 of 3: Developing a Relationship That Lasts Over Time
Step 1. Open up with him
When you start to feel comfortable, ask him for advice on a personal problem or talk to him about your experiences. Trusting him about personal affairs can bring your relationship to the level of intimacy that only close friends have.
For example, when you are alone you can talk to him about your problems at home or at school. For example, tell him that you don't get along with your parents, or that you do poorly at math
Step 2. Learn to listen
Another way to develop a strong bond with a guy is to listen to him. Be careful when he talks to you and ask him smart questions to show that you care what he says. Look him in the eye and nod.
- Try not to interrupt him when he speaks and encourage him to continue with phrases like "Tell me more" or "I really care what you have to say."
- You can also ask questions like "How did you feel?" or "Why do you think you reacted that way?".
Step 3. Behave with him reliably and honestly
Show him that you are a good friend by letting him know he can trust you and telling him what you think. If he tells you a secret or confides in you, promise you won't tell anyone. Keep the personal information he confesses to you secret, unless he specifically tells you that you can share it with others. Trust is difficult to earn and above all to maintain, but it really is the basis of all friendships that work.
You should also try to be honest with him, so that he understands that you are not pretending or telling lies. Tell him how you feel and what you think honestly and openly
Step 4. Do new activities together
Trying something new can be scary, but consider inviting him to join in too. This not only serves to alleviate the anxiety associated with the unknown, but can also prevent the friendship from stagnating.
For example, if you've never been camping, you can invite him to go with you, so that we can have a new experience together
Advice
- Be yourself! You shouldn't have to change to make a new friendship.
- Remember that guys are normal people. They too often feel nervous when they meet a girl.
