Everyone likes to make friends, right? Well, sometimes it's hard to tell if someone is really your friend or if they're just using you. Read below to understand it.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Part 1: He wants to be a friend
Step 1. Think about this:
- How did you meet? Did you meet by chance or did the other person approach to say "Hi"? Was he friendly?
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Did he say hello to you or did he come over to have a chat?
If he hasn't opened up and introduced himself in a nice way, he probably considers you a "hello and goodbye" friend, meaning he doesn't really want to befriend you
Step 2. Consider these other aspects:
- Did he start talking to you just for the pleasure of having a chat?
- Can you trust him / her? Do you feel him / her near?
Step 3. Think about who makes plans
It's always you? Does the other person always welcome your invitations? If he appreciates you, he is also pleased to accompany you and meet you. don't justify the other person with "he'll be very busy" excuses because if he or she has turned down your invitations more than once and keeps adding commitments upon commitments to not show up, then most likely he is just letting you know that he doesn't take it seriously your friendship, or at least not as serious as you are.
Step 4. Consider how he behaves when you need help
When you have a problem, does he help you and stay close to you? A true friend is sad when you are and he offers you help. If you have a problem, he also considers it his and helps you, instead of just standing there saying "bad luck" or "poor you".
Method 2 of 2: Part 2: He's Using Me
Step 1. Consider the possibility that he is using you
There are people who only use you, but who don't want to be your friends. Think about these things:
- Does this person only want to meet you when you are doing or have something that interests him? For example, if you are going to an event and want to come?
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Does he only want to meet you when you are out shopping with your parents and knows that they will pay for everyone?
If you answered yes to both of them, this person is definitely using you and has absolutely no desire to befriend you
Advice
- Remember, true friends always listen to what you have to say.
- Friends care what you say.
- True friends are on your side no matter what the problem is. They will be there for you when you need them.
- A true friend is always with you and supports you in everything.
- Pay attention to when you chat. If he doesn't let you talk and keeps complaining, he's probably just using you.
- True friends are by your side. But it doesn't mean anything to just be there: what matters is to be there and help you both mentally and emotionally.
- True friends don't get mad for no reason and don't make up silly excuses to avoid you.
- If he invites you somewhere, accept whenever you can!
- If he calls you his best friend, but doesn't actually support you at all, then it's not true friendship.
- If they really don't like you as a person, forgive and forget! Go ahead. The world is full of people.
- True friendship grows spontaneously. Nobody suddenly decides to be "best friends".
- If the person is using you, don't break the friendship suddenly. Explain that you don't like his behavior, that he is doing something wrong, but that you really want to continue being friends and helping you.
- If he doesn't love hanging out with you a lot, it's probably not true friendship.
- If you are true friends, you do almost everything together and have fun.
