You cannot change your genetic heritage or your physical conformation, but you can use what nature has given you. Charm is a combination of multiple factors, including caring for one's appearance, personality and style. If you just want to improve your sex appeal or are so disoriented that you don't know where to start, a few simple changes will be enough to become more attractive.
Steps
Part 1 of 5: Taking Care of Your Appearance
The simplest thing to do to increase your charm is to take care of personal hygiene. If you are clean and fragrant, you will entice people to be around you without them realizing it. Read the steps below and use them to develop a daily routine.
Step 1. Use the deodorant
When you have found a product that suits your needs and with the right fragrance, apply it after each shower. If you find yourself sweating or smelling bad during the day, take it with you, in your backpack and briefcase, to apply it again.
- If you forget to put it on before you leave the house, get a hand sanitizer and pass it under your armpits: it will kill the bacteria responsible for bad odors. You will likely need to apply it several times throughout the day.
- The odorless deodorant reduces the risk of developing allergies.
Step 2. Take a shower every day
Wash your hair thoroughly and use a shower gel or soap that smells fresh and clean.
If you usually shower in the morning, get an anti-fog mirror so you can wash your face and shave under the water
Step 3. Don't overdo the aftershave or body spray
The odor produced by the body during the day can increase or destroy a person's charm: if you smell, people will automatically approach you, while if you give off a bad smell, you will get the opposite effect and drive people away. Here are some pointers to follow:
- Don't overdo the perfume. This is the main rule to follow if you want to smell good: since we can abuse the things we like, don't forget that too much cripples. Even a rose fragrance can be nauseating if you apply too much. Two or three sprays of aftershave or perfume are enough. The nose gets used to it right away and stops feeling it, but others can always sense it.
- Find a fragrance that fits your natural smell. Everyone has a body that works differently from a chemical point of view and, consequently, not all essences are suitable for everyone. There are fragrances that are good for some, but that are unpleasant on others. If you can, get a sample of the perfume before you buy it. Wear it for a day and a few hours after applying it, ask a friend for his opinion.
- Try pairing the bubble bath with aftershave or perfume. It is not necessary that they have the same essence, but the important thing is that they are similar so that they do not create a strong contrast.
- Spray it on the places where the blood pulses the most, i.e. the hottest areas where the blood flows near the surface (wrists, throat and neck). The venous areas of the body in fact enhance the fragrance.
Step 4. Wash your face morning and evening
Prevent pimples and rashes by taking care of your face and keeping it clean.
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Find products suitable for your skin type. Here are the most common:
- Sensitive and dry skin. If your face tends to be dry and cracked or gets red and irritated easily, use a very mild cleanser. Avoid tonic and use a light moisturizer.
- Combination skin and T-zone. If your forehead, nose and chin (the so-called "T-zone") are oily unlike your cheeks, it means you have "combination" skin, like most people. Then, use a cleanser for normal or combination skin. Then choose a gentle toner for the T-zone and finish by applying a moisturizer.
- Oily skin. If you tend to be evenly oily, buy a clay-based or oily cleanser. Then apply a gentle toner all over the complexion, then finish the treatment with a light moisturizer. If you feel that it gets greasy again during the day, dab it with some mattifying face wipes in the afternoon.
- If you suffer from acne, use a salicylic acid-based facial cleanser or apply benzoyl peroxide cream to pimples. If you don't see any results, consult a dermatologist.
Step 5. Shave or shorten your beard
Whether you choose to grow it or not, it is your duty to take care of it every day.
- If you want to be perfectly clean-shaven, you need to shave every morning before going to school or work. Start by wetting your face, then use the shaving cream and a sharp razor. If you add the counter hair (i.e. you shave in the opposite direction to the growth of the hair, from the jaw to the cheeks), the shave will be deeper, but it is not excluded that it will irritate the skin. If you have ingrown hair problems, use the blade only in the direction of hair growth.
- Care for your beard, mustache, or goatee. Make sure the edges are neat and trim all the hairs so that they are even. When you wash your face, clean the areas covered by your beard more thoroughly.
Step 6. Care for the eyebrows (optional)
You don't have to thin them out, but this would make you look neater. Here are some basic tips:
- Buy a good quality pair of tweezers. The two ends must match perfectly if you want the hair extraction to be less painful and more effective. Alternatively, if you don't want to feel pain, you can buy an inexpensive hair clipper. It may also be used to shorten nose or ear hair.
- Adjusted to your face. Get a pencil and place it vertically on the outside of one nostril so that it crosses the eyebrow. Remove the hairs that go beyond this line and that create a "unibrow" above the nose. Do the same on the other side.
- Define the brow ridges. If the eyebrows still look like two small bushes despite the hair removal from the area above the nose, try pulling the hairs scattered under the arches. However, remember to only take off the ones below the eyebrows, not the ones above.
Step 7. Cut and clean your nails
Every two or three days, after a shower, take a minute to shorten and clean all your nails, hands and feet. They will be softer and easier to manage after contact with water. You should keep both your toenails and fingernails short, leaving only a thin white line protruding from the nail bed.
Step 8. Brush your teeth and floss
Fight bad breath and protect the whiteness of your smile by taking care of your teeth.
- Change your toothbrush. You should replace it every three months or as soon as you recover from a cold or infectious disease. If the bristles start to open, you need a new one.
- Floss every day before bed. Not only will you get rid of plaque and food debris from your mouth, but you will also prevent heart disease.
- Brush your tongue. Your teeth may be very white, but you will continue to have bad breath if your tongue is dirty. So, do a few light strokes with the toothbrush while brushing your teeth (do not brush vigorously, otherwise you will damage the gums).
- Finish with mouthwash. Gargle for 20 seconds, then spit.
Part 2 of 5: Fixing the Hair
Step 1. Check them regularly
Even if you are growing them, you need to shorten them a bit on a regular basis if you want to prevent split ends. You can go to a professional barber or cut them yourself. Whichever option you choose, remember that:
- If you prefer to wear them short, cut them every 2-3 weeks. Make sure the barber removes the hair that grows on the nape of the neck.
- If you want to grow them, trim them every 4-6 weeks. Remember to cut the fluff on the nape of the neck even if it is covered by the hair.
Step 2. Wash them often
Most guys shampoo every day. However, you can also wash your hair every other day if it is dry.
- Buy a shampoo and conditioner suitable for your hair. They can be dry, oily, with dandruff, etc.
- Purchase separate shampoo and conditioner. 2-in-1 products (combining shampoo and conditioner) are not as effective.
- Ask your barber for an opinion, he is an expert! If you buy shampoo and conditioner from him, they may be more expensive than store-bought, but they will likely be of higher quality.
Step 3. Use hair products (optional)
You don't have to use hair styling products, but keep in mind that many men use them because they give their hair a healthier, shinier look as well as give their hair more hold and malleability. Here are the most used products to style men's hair:
- Serums and creams. They help tame unruly hair or eliminate frizz without making it stiff and immobile.
- Foam. Use it to add volume and shine to your hair. For best results, apply it to damp hair and let it dry.
- Hair pomade, wax or clay. Use these products if you want a particular hairstyle, for example a pompadour hairstyle or curls (especially if you have straight hair). Be careful as it may take more than one shampoo to get rid of all the residue, so use them sparingly. An amount equal to one walnut should be more than enough if you have short, medium or thin hair. Use pomade or wax for a shiny, wet effect, while clay for a natural, matte effect.
- Gel. Unlike the pomade, the gel is alcohol based, so it dries the hair giving the hairstyle a stronger hold. If you want it even more sustained, apply it to wet hair.
- Hair glue. Have you ever wondered how some men get a stiff, non-deformable crest? They use a special strong hold glue. Be careful not to overdo it and wash your hair thoroughly after use.
- Ask your barber for an opinion! He will be able to tell you which products and treatments are wrong.
Step 4. Find a hairstyle that fits your style
Consult your friends for their opinion. The next time you go to the barber, ask him for advice too and above all ask him if you just use the comb or if you should use the hairdryer. Probably, you will have to do various experiments before finding out which hairstyle suits you best, but in the end you will find the right one for every day. Consider these possibilities:
- Make the row. You can do it in the center, on the side or not have it at all. Try all the variations and see which one suits you best.
- Comb your hair in one direction. Instead of the parting, you can try to comb them from one side only. If they are very short, bring them forward. If they are long, you can comb them back or sideways. In short, try various hairstyles.
- If they are long, you can make the ponytail or style it so that it falls towards the face or tie only the upper strands of the head.
Step 5. Deal with baldness (optional)
If you are losing your hair, you may want to trim or shave it completely to mask the growth difference. Shampoo as soon as you finish exercising, otherwise you risk accelerating the loss. Massage your scalp every time you shower.
Part 3 of 5: Get dressed
The dress makes the monk! You don't need to wear expensive clothes to look attractive. However, the way you dress says a lot about you.
Step 1. Always dress well
Yes every day! Even when you don't have any special events scheduled, don't wear the first thing you find. Match your clothes correctly and choose them according to your commitments.
Step 2. Go shopping with a friend
It may happen that when you want to modernize your wardrobe, you don't know which garments fit you well, also because the mirrors in the dressing rooms don't always help us in the choice. Furthermore, it is not certain that the clothes seen in the photograph of a famous person or a male model are also suitable for you! So, pick a friend who has a taste in clothing and knows fashion and ask him if he can accompany you on a shopping spree.
Step 3. Wear clothes that fit you perfectly
It is better to bring inexpensive, but fit, clothes rather than handsomely paid clothes that do not look good at all!
- Try on each garment before you buy it and ask your friend to carefully check how it fits! Do not rely on the sizes shown on the label because they are often only indicative.
- Typically, the hem of the pants should touch the shoes, the sleeves of the shirts should cover the wrists, and the waist part should rest on the hips. Underwear must also be comfortable!
- Try on the garments several times before deciding. If a store doesn't have anything that suits you, go elsewhere. Don't be satisfied if you don't find anything that strikes you.
- Do not buy clothes on the Internet: first of all you cannot try them on, so there is a risk that you will go wrong. Also, without the chance to try them on, you can't know if they look good on you (even if they look good in the picture!).
- Don't try to hide the body. Despite the embarrassment caused by extra pounds or excessive thinness, it will only make it worse if you try to cover your figure by wearing loose clothing. You don't necessarily have to choose tight-fitting clothing, but not too loose and drooping either.
- If you can't find your size, look for a cheap tailor. Maybe you have narrow hips and long legs and can't find a pair of jeans that fit your build. Buy clothes that are slightly looser and ask someone who can adapt them to your size. Most clothing stores offer a modifying service at moderate prices.
- Get rid of old clothes. While you like an old high school shirt, it doesn't mean it still fits. The body changes over time, but the lines of clothing also change. While some clothes still fit you, they can look old and out of date if they are over two or three years old.
Step 4. Learn to showcase your best physical features
Here is a basic rule to follow when dressing: light colors stand out, while dark ones thin. For example, if you love your shoulders but don't like your legs, try wearing dark jeans and light-colored shirts.
Step 5. Find out which colors look best on you
The right shades brighten you up, while a wrong color makes you look dull and insignificant. Here are some experiments to do:
- Decide if white or cream suits you best. Bring a white shirt to your face, then a cream color. It is the most used system to understand which one suits you best. Once established, opt for dresses in that shade.
- Determine if black or brown suits you best. It is a little more complicated than white. However, in some people it is obvious: brown is more suitable than black or vice versa. Once you have established which of the two shades suits you best, do not mix them. For example, don't wear brown shoes and a belt over black pants. Choose a total-black or total-brown style.
- Ask yourself if you prefer "warm" or "cold" colors. Cool colors are blue, purple, dark green and red-blue combinations, while warm colors are yellow, orange, brown and red-yellow combinations. To decide which ones look best on you, bring a red-blue or yellow-red garment close to your face. Which of the two is best suited to your skin tone? If you still need help choosing, search the Internet for a color wheel to get a better idea.
Step 6. Enrich your wardrobe with timeless garments
They do not go out of fashion easily and are made with quality fabrics that last over time. For example, buy some plain colored polo shirts, plain colored or plaid shirts, dark blue jeans, white or black T-shirts (no designs or writings), a plain colored blazer, dark pants, dark and tight jackets, shoes evening with laces and white sneakers. With these items of clothing you will always be able to compose a presentable outfit.
Step 7. Do your laundry regularly
Some clothes can be worn more than once before they get dirty (like jeans and jackets). However, t-shirts, underwear and socks should be washed after each use. Establish a schedule for doing laundry so you don't waste time looking for clean clothes in the morning.
- Shirts and pants should be taken out of the dryer when they are still slightly damp and then hung until dry. This way wrinkles are reduced.
- Preferably iron the clothes before they are completely dry. Even jeans are better ironed this way.
- Hang items in the closet (except underwear) or fold them neatly so that they don't wrinkle.
Part 4 of 5: Being Attractive
Step 1. Try to maintain good posture
You may think it's unimportant, but if you stand straight, you seem more confident and determined and it's an attitude that people find fascinating. Proper posture can also make you appear taller. Keep your shoulders and back straight, trying to center your hips on both feet. Walk casually, don't drag your feet and, above all, avoid looking at the ground and putting your hands in your pockets, otherwise you will seem shy or nervous.
Step 2. Smile
Giving a sincere smile is one of the easiest things to immediately attract the interest of others. So, practice and get it into your head that you have all the qualities to put on a beautiful smile.
Don't underestimate the humor. See the fun and bright side in life's bizarre events and don't be afraid to point it out to others. Avoid jokes about the physiological functions of the body, sexual or discriminatory
Step 3. Look people in the eye
When you talk to someone (especially if you like them), show them that you are interested and attentive to what they say by looking them in the eye.
Use your gaze to flirt. He glances several times at the person sitting next to or in front of him until he notices. Maintain eye contact for a few seconds, smile and look away again
Step 4. Be a gentleman
You don't have to act like a balloon to show interest and consideration for someone. Don't forget to say "please", "thank you" and "sorry" and show that you are courteous by holding the door to the person who enters after you.
- Respect others. Do not discredit the beliefs of others and do not be strict when not needed. If someone wants to argue with you, just walk away. This way, you will demonstrate that you are not stooping to his level.
- Don't swear or make vulgar comments in public. It's okay to let yourself go a little bit with friends and family (men), but avoid talking like this in front of people you don't know well.
Step 5. Learn to lead a conversation
If you are a brilliant speaker, you can put people at ease and make them relax. Ask your interlocutor naturally how he is, then move the conversation to other topics. Ask open-ended questions (for example, instead of saying, "Do you have any plans for the weekend?", Which they could answer with a simple yes or no, ask, "What are you doing this weekend?") And stay away from sensitive topics such as politics and religion.
To refine your dialectic, strike up a conversation with strangers when you wait for the bus at the bus stop or queue at the supermarket. If you can get a sincere smile and a few words from those in front of you, you are on the right path
Step 6. Express yourself clearly and precisely
Avoid mumbling or bursts of speech during a conversation. Formulate sentences with complete meaning and do not open your mouth without first reflecting on what you have to say. This way, you will save yourself a lot of embarrassing moments.
Part 5 of 5: Taking Care of Your Body
Step 1. Eat well
By following a healthy diet, you can fight bad breath and unpleasant body odors, as well as keep yourself healthy and slim. Consider these dietary guidelines:
- Avoid junk food and sugar-rich foods as they can cause skin problems and make you look older. The world does not fall if you indulge in them once in a while, but not every day. Limit your consumption of fizzy drinks, beer, chocolate, chips, or other unhealthy foods to one day per week.
- Eat lots of fruits and vegetables. You have heard it a thousand times, but fruit and vegetables are very important for a healthy diet. Try eating fresh fruit (such as apples, pears, and oranges) as a snack and a side of vegetables for lunch and dinner.
- Learn to cook. Start with the simplest dishes: hard-boiled eggs, sandwiches, salads, steaks and burgers, frozen vegetables, rice and pasta. You will save money, improve your health and impress your guests!
Step 2. Play sports
Practiced regularly, physical activity makes people more attractive, puts them in a good mood and strengthens the immune system. Work out a schedule that suits your physical condition and stick to it. Here are some tips to start with:
- Do daily stretches, sit-ups, pushups, and other exercises based on the number of repetitions you set. Later, as your muscle mass grows, increase it and you will see results.
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Try various muscle strengthening programs. Diversify your training, but don't overdo it. Rest your muscles so they can recover and develop. Playing sports every day could be counterproductive. Either way, don't be afraid of getting too muscular. Bodybuilders in magazines are huge because lifting weights is their job. It won't happen to you.
Major weightlifting exercises include the bench press, squats, shoulder press, and deadlifts. If you want to strengthen your chest, practice on the incline bench. If you want a more vigorous workout, consider the power clean and push press. If you're a gym member, start with the barbell and dumbbells, then integrate with machine exercises, such as lat pulldown
- Walk, jog, bike, run for half an hour or 2-3km (walking to school or work, cycling, jogging and running is equivalent to exercise and works your abs, legs and back). In this way, you will have a more elastic and handsome physique.
- Consider working out in the morning. It is recommended to keep skin younger and more beautiful all day long. Always remember to take a shower when you are done because sport makes you sweat. So, washing yourself will eliminate the bad smell.
Step 3. Improve your brainpower
According to some, nothing is more attractive than an intelligent person. Study and work hard to get good grades. Read every day, even the newspaper to be updated on what is happening in the world.
Advice
- Self-confidence makes people very charming!
- Don't spit on the ground when you walk.
- Sleep 8 hours! When you get a good night's sleep, your eyes are neither swollen nor prone to dark circles and your skin doesn't turn gray. Plus, you're less likely to get sick (and have pimples!) Because your immune system is working properly.
- Be positive. Positivity can improve your mood and make you more attractive. Negativity is bad for some people.
- Don't suddenly change your clothes, or you might look frivolous and superficial. Try to make a gradual transition (within a month) and make sure this change doesn't contradict your friendships and character.
- Blow your nose. Nobody likes sniffling kids, and most of them are disgusted by the runny mucus. So, to avoid this inconvenience, always carry a packet of tissues so you can use them when needed.
- Don't worry if any pimples pop up. It typically lasts a few days, unless the skin is irritated or an infection is in progress.
- Don't bend your back when you sit down. Stand up straight and try to have a presentable attitude.
- Try on different garments and accessories. Maybe it suits you a hat or a watch, maybe a sleeveless jacket is perfect for fall. Consider the accessories and choose the ones that seem most useful and suitable for you. For example, a wide-brimmed hat protects you from the summer sun, and some classic items, like a winter coat, can make a difference. In addition, chukka boots seem to be very fashionable and lend themselves to a variety of uses.
- Try not to spend too much time in front of the television, otherwise the blinking (which distributes the tears on the ocular surface) decreases and the eyes become dry and circled by dark circles! Additionally, a sedentary lifestyle can promote weight gain or even encourage bad habits (such as eating ready meals or spending little time on exercise).
- If you have a big nose or ears, consider that long hair hides these flaws.
- Among the hats, avoid the borsalino (and its trilby cousin). Recently these models have become a very negative symbol in youth culture. There is an idea of sexism, homophobia, racism, misogyny and bad taste provocation on the Internet linked to some boys who wear the borsalino. Many of them especially blame women for a variety of reasons, presumably associated with failures with the opposite sex. The borsalino is ironically considered by these individuals as a supreme symbol of masculinity. However, you can wear it if you dress well and are of a more mature age. Plus, a true gentleman knows that the hat is taken off indoors.
- Apply the deodorant at least 3 times by pressing on the dispenser. Don't spray too much, especially if it has a strong scent.
- Try wearing a button-down shirt and rolling the sleeves up to the elbows.
