Contrary to popular belief, a pretty face and a screaming body are not enough to impress a man. Several studies have shown that physical attraction is certainly important, especially to conquer a person who doesn't already know you, but once you start talking and learning more, many other factors come into play. Simply put, personality is much more important than physical appearance.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Having a Beautiful Personality
Step 1. Believe in yourself
Easier said than done for many women. Believing in yourself means being sure of your identity and your abilities. If you can't, you can definitely improve your self-esteem.
- For example, if you tend to have negative inner dialogues (voices in your head telling you that you are a loser, useless, stupid, and so on), struggle to counter them with positive affirmations, such as "I am a caring person" or "I am a good person. friend".
- If you believe in yourself, then you don't blame yourself for your mistakes and you don't despise yourself. Confident people know how to celebrate the successes of others without feeling envious or at fault with themselves.
Step 2. Relax and live in the moment
When the mind is always on the past or the future, it is difficult to enjoy life. Instead of worrying about what you said a moment ago or what might happen, savor the present.
- If you are nervous during a conversation and don't know what to say, you can ask your interlocutor questions to melt the ice. In particular, asking him for advice or encouraging him to talk about himself is ideal for impressing.
- If you have a relaxed disposition and live in the present when you are with others, they will appreciate your company much more and will want to see you again.
Step 3. Learn to practice active listening
When you're talking to a guy who attracts you (or anyone else), actively listening to him is a surefire way to please him (at least as a friend). This technique involves the following steps:
- Don't interrupt or judge your interlocutor.
- Nod your head or verbally ("Yes", "Sure") to let him know that you are following the thread.
- Paraphrase his words to show him that you understand.
- Ask questions to show that you pay attention and are interested.
Step 4. Be honest, but respectful
When you're with a guy, don't give in to the temptation to tell him what he wants to hear, at the expense of what you really think. Just make sure you are respectful when expressing an opinion. There is no need to insult him or his ideas.
- You have to like you for who you are, not for what you think he might like. He may even appreciate that you have independent ideas and the courage to express them.
- For example, if a guy asks you what you think about a movie you didn't like, tell him the truth, don't pretend you have a positive opinion just because you assume he liked it. If nothing else, this will stimulate an interesting debate.
Step 5. Share passions and interests
When a person talks about his passions, he is immediately full of life and interesting. Enthusiasm is contagious, so it's fun and stimulating to surround yourself with people like that.
- When you talk to a guy you like, don't be afraid to reveal some information about what you are passionate about.
- Don't forget to ask him questions about his interests. This will show him that you want to get to know him better and can make him feel closer to you.
Step 6. Engage in activities that will enrich you
Volunteer for a cause you believe in, learn to play an instrument, take dance lessons, train for a marathon, or try team sports at an amateur level. Being happy and fulfilled will make you more attractive to men.
Also, having hobbies will give you more conversation points and more opportunities to bond with the guy you like if he shares your interests. You may even get to know someone through your passions
Step 7. Let your interest shine through
Make small gestures to show him that you are interested in him and that you care. If you're at a party, ask him if he wants something to drink or eat. If you've recently talked about his problem, call him to ask how he's doing.
According to some studies, loving, empathetic, and emotionally stable people are more likely to be considered good candidates for a relationship, so take the opportunity to demonstrate that you have all of these characteristics
Step 8. Don't lie about your identity
Countless romantic comedies have this plot: a person lies about his identity, only the lie ends up turning against his sand castles. Prevent that from happening.
- If your idea of a perfect night out is eating a pizza while watching a movie, don't lie to the guy you like and tell him you have a party mood. All this will end up being exhausting and sad because you will inevitably break: he will not want you to go out, while you will prefer to relax in your pajamas.
- If you like math and want to teach, don't tell us that you dream of becoming a snowboard instructor at a ski resort just because the guy you like is the adventurous type.
Step 9. Don't change for anyone
Getting out of your comfort zone (for example by trying new hobbies or socializing more) is sometimes fun, even healthy, but you always need to be clear about who you are and the life you want. Be consistent with your views and goals.
- There is only one valid reason to change: you are dissatisfied with who you are and you want to be different in order to live better with yourself.
- If being with a certain guy would force you to be completely different, having a relationship with this person will be a waste of time and energy.
Part 2 of 4: Improving the Physical Appearance
Step 1. Remember that physical appearance is a very small part of your attractiveness
Research shows that although physical attributes play a vital role in stimulating initial attraction to a woman, other factors also matter, such as a sense of humor, opinions and personality.
Men generally like women who look young and healthy (beautiful skin, childlike features, slim bodies) because they unconsciously value their fertility
Step 2. Recognize your beauty
It doesn't matter what body you have, the color of your skin, your size or the length of your hair: you are beautiful just the way you are.
- Some studies show that others see you as 20% more attractive than you consider yourself. Many women tend to judge themselves too harshly, unable to see their own beauty.
- Maybe you don't conform to conventional beauty standards, but on the other hand, what does it matter? Aesthetic standards today are different from those of the past and will continue to change over time.
Step 3. Find your personal style
It should express your personality, not be a bad copy of people considered beautiful and charming. Wear clothes that fit you, enhance your body type, and learn how to use clothing to feel confident.
- If you can't clearly identify your style, be inspired by fashion icons and people you admire. You can experiment with different looks - this certainly doesn't mean copying. It's a matter of trying to figure out how to best express yourself.
- Play with accessories, patterns and colors that you wouldn't normally choose. If they make you feel good, go ahead and use them. If, on the other hand, you feel like you're wearing a mask, keep experimenting.
Step 4. Make your favorite features stand out
What are the parts of you that you like most? Maybe you love your deep brown eyes, your manicured hair, or your delicate chin. Whatever your favorite part is, surely others will find it beautiful too.
- Try to highlight your most beautiful parts by choosing clothes, accessories and makeup that enhance them.
- For example, if you have beautiful dark eyes, gold hoop earrings can enhance them. If you like your neck, long and elegant, wear V-neck tops or go for a cut at shoulder height to draw attention to this area.
Step 5. Try wearing makeup
According to some studies, men find that women are more beautiful when they wear makeup. On the other hand, according to other research, men prefer women who wear less makeup (although to tell the truth sometimes men think that women with natural make-up do not even have a trace of make-up).
- If you are not keen on makeup but would like to try it, you can start with a natural look. First, light up your face, then apply a veil of mascara and clear lip gloss.
- Ultimately, what really matters is feeling good about yourself. If you don't want to wear makeup, don't.
Step 6. Makeup can help you look younger and healthier
Male attraction is largely linked to a primal instinct: unconsciously men think that certain characteristics are indicative of greater fertility. The symmetrical and youthful faces are an indication of fertility and health.
- Studies have shown that men prefer women with a childlike face: big eyes, small noses, plump lips and a delicate chin. You can use mascara and a lip plumper to make your eyes look bigger and your mouth plumper.
- If you want more elaborate makeup, try using a bronzer and contouring - your face will look younger and symmetrical.
Step 7. Enhance the lips
According to research, on average, men are more attracted to the lips than to any other part of the female body. If you apply lipstick, especially red, your mouth will be even more attractive.
According to a widespread belief, red and plump lips are reminiscent of the dilation of blood vessels that occurs during arousal, so they have a sexual connotation for men
Step 8. Pay attention to your tone of voice
According to some studies, men generally find high-voiced women more attractive than low-voiced women. Researchers believe this preference is due to the fact that the faintest voices theoretically belong to smaller bodies.
In any case, you have to be yourself. Men feel a greater attraction to women who are confident and who are comfortable with themselves (voice included). However, this fact is interesting. For the record, the same study showed that women prefer deep-voiced men
Step 9. Dress in red
According to some studies, wearing red can make a woman look more attractive and sexually desirable in the eyes of men (curiously, this color doesn't have the same effect on other women).
There are many shades of red. Make sure you choose one that suits your complexion
Step 10. Try to have an hourglass physique
Research shows that on average men feel more attracted to this body type: wasp waist and wide hips, which suggest health and fertility. The hourglass physique is the rarest, so don't be discouraged if you don't have it naturally.
- You can shape your body thanks to targeted exercises to enlarge buttocks and hips, but also to slim the waist. You can also wear certain models of clothes and / or use a special corset to slim the waist.
- Remember that in some countries the most robust and plump physique are considered to be symbols of beauty as they indicate access to food and money.
Step 11. Date other girls
When men see a group of women, they generally consider the single members more attractive than they actually are.
It may seem counterproductive to you because you think dating girls that are prettier than you will make you look bad, but in reality it will have the opposite effect: you will all look prettier
Part 3 of 4: Taking Care of Yourself
Step 1. Treat yourself well
This suggestion takes up what has been said about self-esteem. You may find it difficult to attract a man, but remember that one of the secrets to succeeding is to consider yourself more beautiful. Take care of yourself: eat healthy, exercise, get enough sleep. If you're having bad days or don't look like a supermodel, don't get discouraged.
- If you are trying to look more attractive to the opposite sex, you are probably reading numerous articles to understand what men like, but it is impossible to be perfect or to satisfy everyone.
- Research has shown that personality is more important than physical appearance, which is why it is essential to be happy and feel good about yourself.
Step 2. Exercise regularly
Specific workouts can change, but in general, to stay fit, you should try to move for at least 30 minutes a day, every day. You can simply go for a walk or spread out three 10-minute exercise sessions throughout the day.
Physical activity is not only good for the body, it is also good for the mind
Step 3. Drink lots of water
Divide your weight (in pounds) in half: the result will tell you the amount of liquid ounces you should drink each day (you can convert the measurements on Google). If you live in a warm place and / or exercise regularly, you should drink more.
A 68-pound woman should drink 2.2-4.4 liters of water per day, depending on the physical activity she does and where she lives
Step 4. Get enough sleep
According to some studies, people who don't sleep as much as they should are less attractive than those who are well rested.
- If you slept badly, hide imperfections with a good concealer. Choose one that suits your complexion and use it to correct dark circles. But first apply an eye contour to deflate the bags.
- If you don't get enough sleep on a regular basis, try to see a doctor to figure out what the problem is.
Step 5. Eat healthy:
consume lots of fruits, vegetables, whole grains and lean proteins. Avoid processed and packaged foods, don't overdo it with sugar or salt. All of this will help you maintain a healthy weight, a stable mood, healthy skin and shiny hair.
Step 6. Try to have healthy skin
Wash your face twice a day with a suitable cleanser (in general the skin can be normal, combination, oily, dry or sensitive). Then, apply a good moisturizer containing SPF.
When you get out of the shower, apply a moisturizing body lotion for smooth and soft skin
Step 7. Try to have a great smile
In addition to smooth, plump lips, white teeth are an important aesthetic attribute for both men and women. Drink plenty of water, moisturize your lips regularly to keep them smooth and brush your teeth.
- Straight, white teeth reveal good genetic quality and instinctively attract men.
- Don't worry if you don't have white teeth. This is perfectly normal. If they are healthy, only slightly stained, whiten them with a special toothpaste or see a dentist for a whitening treatment.
Step 8. Take care of your hair
Studies have shown that long, full-bodied, shiny hair is more attractive to men because it symbolizes health and fertility. On average, men find women with long hair more attractive than women with short hair, even if they have the same features.
- Before changing your hairstyle (or any other feature) to get a guy, try to choose a cut that flatters the shape of your face and fits your style. Your appearance must satisfy yourself first and foremost.
- If you want to experiment with wearing longer hair, try wearing clip extensions, which are available at your hairdresser or specialty stores. Do you have very short hair? You can wear a wig instead.
- Avoid aggressively dyeing, straightening or modifying your hair: if it is frizzy and damaged, it will be unsightly.
Part 4 of 4: Flirting with Men
Step 1. Go to places where you usually have a lot of fun
It is in these places that you are most carefree, relaxed and happy, so you will look and feel more attractive.
- You will also be more likely to meet men who share your interests and have fun with them.
- For example, if you enjoy playing softball, try joining a mixed team. When you relax and have fun, you are more beautiful than ever. Whatever activity you choose, give it your all. However, avoid taking it too seriously, or you risk getting angry or behaving in an unpleasant manner.
Step 2. Look men in the eye
This is probably the most effective flirting technique there is. Looking men in the eye transmits self-esteem, shows interest and makes them melt.
- A classic: look the guy you like in the eye, then hint a smile and look away. Do this several times over a period of about 20 minutes - if he's interested, he'll likely come forward.
- If you're already talking to him, make eye contact at highlights of the conversation, like when you compliment him. Every now and then, holding his gaze for a little longer than normal suggests a greater interest and the emergence of a deeper attraction.
- Don't linger too long, or you risk looking pushy and weird. At first try to be discreet.
Step 3. Smile
According to research, happy women, especially smiling ones, are generally considered more attractive by men. Make sure your smile is genuine: involve your eyes as well as your mouth, otherwise it can look fake.
- If he makes a joke and you find it funny, laugh, but make sure you don't force it.
- Smiling and looking in the eye at the same time is a very powerful technique for flirting.
- You can adapt your smile to the occasion: to attract his attention, hint at a shy smile; when you talk, try a bigger and more mischievous smile, so you will let him know that you care.
Step 4. Start a conversation
You don't have to wait for him to talk to you first. If you are interested in someone, introduce yourself and start talking friendly so you can get to know each other better.
- Interactions should be light-hearted. If you went to the cinema or to a concert, talk about it. If you are taking the same course, ask him what he thinks.
- When you talk, try to figure out if you can measure his interest. If he looks into your eyes, asks you questions and seems involved, keep the conversation going and see how it goes.
- If he doesn't seem interested, it's pointless to insist. Tell him it was nice to meet him, apologize politely, and start talking to a friend or someone else.
Step 5. Compliment him
This is a surefire way to show you're interested and attract them. According to some studies, even less sincere compliments can be effective, although it would be better to be honest.
If the shirt he's wearing fits, tell him. If he has changed his hairstyle, let him know that you have noticed it with a compliment. He will find it pleasant to receive praise, and he will also understand that you like it
Step 6. Try to learn more
If the conversation is going pretty well and you think he likes you, you can ask him for his phone number. You don't have to wait for him to make the first move.
- Offer to go out together a few days later - both of you will have time to think about it and get ready.
- If you're not ready for a date, you can just ask him for his number or give him yours.
Step 7. Imitate her body language
When a man talks to you, reproduce the positions and movements he makes, but don't make it manifest. This tactic will send a message to his subconscious (meaning that you like it) and make him more likely to reciprocate your interest.
For example, if you run your right hand through your hair, casually repeat the same gesture with your left hand a few minutes later. The gesture must feel spontaneous, otherwise it will appear that you are copying it (which you are in a sense doing!) And this could make him uncomfortable
Advice
- During a date, set your mobile phone to silent mode and keep it in your purse or pocket. If you read messages, search for witty images, and post photos of your plate on Instagram, the guy will doubt your interest and wonder why you went out with him.
- Disgraceful but true: If you are interested in a casual relationship of a purely physical nature, you should know that according to one study, men are more attracted to immature, superficial, or drunk women. The opposite is true for men looking for a long-term relationship: intelligence stimulates attraction.
- According to reports, many men prefer a woman they know and trust to one of canonical beauty (and therefore may only initially appeal).
Warnings
- Don't try to change for a guy. You have probably heard this a million times and it no longer makes sense to you, but it's true: to become more beautiful, it is essential to think that you are. Believe in yourself, remember that you are beautiful inside and out.
- Do not think that all men reflect a certain stereotype (for example, do not believe that everyone wants young, slim women with an hourglass physique and a high-pitched voice). Studies suggesting these variables describe an average trend, so they are not accurate for understanding what each individual man is like.
