You have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with and you want to ask them to marry you. Falling in love is scary sometimes, but now, every time you think about your proposal, your hands are shaking. Don't worry - making a marriage proposal is simple once you have a plan. Follow these steps and you will walk to the altar in no time.
Steps
Step 1. Make sure you are both ready for marriage
Before you take the plunge, you need to be really ready to spend a lot of time with your significant other. A marriage proposal will change your life forever and you need to be sure you are doing it for the right reasons. Here's how to find out:
- Ask yourself if you really can't live without the girl you want to marry. If you can't imagine your life without her, and if it makes everything more beautiful and sensible, then it's time to make your proposal.
- Ask yourself if your relationship has lasted long enough and if you really understand your other half. If you've been together for a few months, marriage may be a hasty choice. Of course, every relationship has its own times, but make sure you have had enough good and difficult times with her so that you have at least an idea of what it might be like to live with this person for a long time.
- If you can't wait to see what awaits you, like traveling together, buying a house or even having children, and if that's what you both want, then it may be time to make your proposal.
- Don't make the proposal because you feel pressured, maybe because you've been together for a long time and you feel compelled to do something, or because all your friends are getting married. You have to propose marriage when the time is right for you two.
- Make sure your other half has the same idea about marriage as you. If you have been together for a long time and you want to make a serious commitment, then most likely it is time to get married and you will understand that your love is ready to take this step too.
- Even if you haven't asked her "officially" yet, you should be pretty sure that she too is ready to settle down and is on the same wavelength as you.
Step 2. Choose the ring
Before making the proposal, you must choose the right ring. This depends on what kind of person your girlfriend is. Some girls have dreamed of the moment of the marriage proposal all their lives and have in mind the ring they want, while others do not even know that there are different sizes. Here's how to make sure you choose the right ring for the right girl:
- Try to find out which ring he wants. If your girlfriend likes to tell you about rings she likes, casually ask her for her opinion. For example, if you have a friend who just got engaged, you could look at her ring and ask your girlfriend what she thinks about it. Was it too small, too big, too bright or was it perfect?
- If your girlfriend has very specific tastes in jewelry and you don't want to ruin your proposal with the wrong ring, ask her to show you what she likes on the internet. Or if you want to be slimmer, take a ride downtown; passing in front of a jewelry store you could stop in front of the window and ask her which rings she prefers, just out of curiosity. This way your plan will seem less premeditated.
- If your girlfriend talks about her dreams about marriage, then her closest friends will know exactly what she wants. If you really trust one of her friends and you know she will keep it a secret, and you want the engagement to be a surprise, then you can ask and her.
- Don't go too crazy looking for the perfect ring. Most girls don't continually dream of the perfect ring - seriously!
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If you have a family heirloom, such as a grandmother's ring, then making your proposal with this ring will be a wonderful gesture because you will invite your girlfriend to be part of your family. Giving her grandma's ring is a more serious gesture than giving her something you bought - no matter how expensive it is.
However, check that the grandmother's ring is still in fashion. You don't want to put yourself in the situation where your girlfriend can't stand her grandmother's ring but doesn't want to hurt your feelings or offend the family by admitting it
Step 3. Choose the right time
To make a perfect proposal, you have to choose the right time to ask the big question. You need to find a balance between surprising your girlfriend without completely throwing her off. He may sense something in the next few months, without knowing exactly the day and time. Here are some tips on how to choose the right time:
- Surprise her. Your proposal will be much more romantic if she doesn't know when you're going to make it. If you have just talked about ring sizes, let some time pass before kneeling. You can surprise her by being vague or changing the subject when it comes to marriage. You don't have to be aloof, and she needs to know that you love her, but try to mislead her into believing that she doesn't think about marriage until the moment you intend to propose to her.
- Surprise her - but up to a certain point. Let your girlfriend know that you are about to get engaged. If you've never talked about it and she never got a chance to tell if she's ready, you may find yourself in an awkward situation when you get down on your knees.
- Choose a quiet time. Enjoy your engagement by choosing a relatively quiet time in your life. If she is at university, do not ask her to marry you a month before graduation. If he works, don't ask him during a particularly stressful time. Pick a time when both of you are quite calm and maybe you could even take a trip to celebrate the engagement.
- If you can avoid this, don't ask her to marry you if she has to be a best man at three or four other marriages. She'll be too worried about the details of the other nuptials to focus on hers.
- If you want to surprise her, don't propose on obvious days, like Valentine's Day or when you bring her home for Christmas.
- Remember that timing is everything. If you really want your girlfriend to be your wife, then don't waste your time. Don't spend your life waiting for the perfect time to ask him. We are always busy, with a thousand things to do, and you might get the impression that neither of us has the material time to organize the wedding. If you want to get married, make your proposal, you will think about the rest later.
Step 4. Choose the right place
Once you have decided when you want to propose, you need the perfect venue. To make a good impression, choose a romantic, intimate and special place for the two of you. Here are some things to consider:
- Choose a romantic place. Make your proposal in a rose garden, on the beach, or if you both love climbing, kneel on the top of a mountain.
- Choose a secluded spot. Don't embarrass your girlfriend by making your proposal in a public place, such as a sporting event, party, or on the street. If you want to do this in your favorite restaurant, book a secluded table. It's okay if someone is around, but your girlfriend must feel special, and not under pressure and forced to say yes.
- Personalize the place. A special place for both of you will be more beautiful than the most romantic place in the world. If you take it to your restaurant, rather than the most elegant one in the city, or where you met for the first time or in love, your proposal will be much more special than a romantic destination chosen from a catalog.
- Make your proposal while on the go. If you've booked a special vacation, then she'll be expecting the offer. Take it to a special place for both of you, like a place you have always wanted to visit together, or where you went for your first vacation.
- You can always surprise her by acting as if you have no intention of making your proposal on vacation. For example, go for a long walk to the beach without taking her with you, and she might think you're just there for fun. But if you can't wait to ask him and then enjoy your holiday, then kneel as soon as you arrive and enjoy!
Step 5. Ask it right
Now that you know where and when to kneel, it's time to take action. You want to ask her to marry you in an unforgettable way. That's how:
- Be simple. Tell her how lucky you are to have met her and that you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Then tell her, Will you marry me?.
- Be creative. Ask her to marry you by writing Do you want to marry me? on his favorite cake. You can also write Do you want to marry me? on a shirt under a shirt, if you think she looks good on a fun proposition.
- Be honest. Don't just ask her to marry you, but take the time to tell her how special she is. You can also write her a letter and watch her read it.
- Do not overdo it. You don't need fireworks, a gang or a celebrity to tell her how special she is. Don't forget that you are taking a very important step in your life together.
Advice
- Make sure your girlfriend has her phone with her. She'll probably want to call her parents or best friend right away.
- If you're proposing in a restaurant, choose a place where you don't usually overeat, only to be too full and tired to celebrate.
- Don't propose when you're completely drunk. Engagement is something you will remember for the rest of your lives.
- Try to make your proposal at a time when you are both dressed up and looking good.
- Remember to tell all relatives and friends about your engagement before announcing it on Facebook. Someone might be offended.
- Make sure she is ready to get married. If it isn't, don't rush things, you have all the time in the world.
