If you want to have class, you don't have to show presumption but respect, both towards others and towards yourself. Make an effort to be polite and show genuine interest in people. Trust yourself, choose the clothing you prefer and act accordingly. If you want to be classy, follow the steps in this article.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Dress with Class
Step 1. Avoid being dependent on trends
There's nothing wrong with enjoying fashion or buying clothes you like, but avoid clothes that don't fit your body, complexion, and so on.
Don't become a fashion slave, because you would seem like a superficial fool interested only in appearance. The clothes you wear should enhance your personality, not alter it or be the focus of it. This advice can be applied to many aspects of life in which you feel the obligation to integrate
Step 2. Show who you are by sporting a clean and elegant look
With a great presentation you are already half the battle. Choose clothes and accessories that flatter your body and don't wear something you're not comfortable with. You don't have to wear the most expensive clothes on the market, but you don't have to wear the cheapest clothes either. Personal style is better.
Adopt perfect personal hygiene. Take a shower every day and show yourself fresh anytime, anywhere
Step 3. Don't dress too little
If you have to go to a formal event, you need to pay attention. It is always better to dress a little more rather than too little and it is not good to show up at a social event with jeans if a dress is required. It's not even fun to wear sneakers instead of dress shoes.
Make sure you know the required clothing and, if necessary, ask the guest or other guests for clarification
Step 4. Don't look like you came from a party the night before
Avoid showing unmistakable signs like disco stencils on your hands or unpleasant personal odors. Remove old makeup from your face, take a shower and avoid walking around, even just to a branch, without looking fresh and ready for a new day.
Even if you've had a bad night, don't say, "I'm in a daze after a hangover." It is not the end
Step 5. Prepare yourself perfectly before you leave the house
Don't put on your makeup or do your hair in public, don't button your shirt, don't tie your shoes, don't put your dress in place, and don't do anything that proves you didn't look good before going out. Put your shirt in place, apply mascara and lip gloss, and do whatever it takes to make yourself presentable.
Avoid exposing your undergarments. A real lady shouldn't show off her bra straps and a gentleman shouldn't show boxers
Step 6. Don't wear clothes that are too provocative
Leave something to the imagination. When you have to choose your dress, try to distinguish between being sexy and being vulgar. Don't make your neckline the main attraction of the dress. You can show some skin, but don't show everything you have to offer other you have the wrong impression. Show your legs, but make sure your butt stays well covered.
Step 7. Maintain a royal posture
It is essential to show that you have class. Stay upright, look forward but off the ground, and avoid slouching as much as possible. Keep your arms at your sides to help open your chest. Keeping your head up will make you look more elegant. While sitting, you should avoid sagging posture.
Method 2 of 3: Express yourself with Class
Step 1. Avoid bad words, because they are not elegant
If they really escape you, go to the bathroom and turn on the tap while you let off steam. But don't let people see you in this state. You would appear vulgar and, if you are cursing because you are angry, you will demonstrate that you cannot control your temper, a clear sign of lack of class.
Swearing in general should be avoided, all the more so if addressed to specific people
Step 2. Compliment people in their absence
You understood well. Instead of talking badly about it, take the time to say something nice about an absent person. This behavior will show that you can be trusted and that you have class because you can gauge the strengths of others.
- If you praise people in their absence, you will seem positive and in control of yourself, instead of someone who is always looking for trouble.
- If you gossip, people will think that you are not elegant because you do not respect the privacy and limits of others.
Step 3. Don't be the loudest person in the room
Has anyone ever said to you, "I knew I was in the right place the moment I heard your voice from the street"? If so, then you'd better turn the volume down. Everyone can hear you without needing you to scream. Speaking evenly, even if you are with a lot of people, is a sign of class, because it means that you are so confident that you don't have to shout to get other people's attention.
If you know you're worried about this, ask your friends to rate you on the loudness scale. If you are at maximum values, then it's time to turn the volume down
Step 4. Don't brag about how elegant you are
For whatever reason, people who think they are fine love to talk about how much class they show, especially compared to a person who doesn't have any. If you find yourself saying “I have class…” or “I'm an elegant girl…”, you're not really being finicky. Let the people judge your elegance!
Truth be told, if you're fine and elegant, you shouldn't never use the word "class".
Step 5. Avoid burping in public, as it is not fun
If you like to joke, you better stop. If it happens accidentally, just put a hand to your mouth and apologize.
Step 6. Be polite when using your cell phone
If you are elegant, do not touch your mobile phone every five seconds: take a look every now and then, leave it vibrating, even when you are at school, and avoid taking it out in the middle of a crowded cafe to chat about your personal problems. Talk to your cell phone only when you are alone and you are not interrupting anyone, unless it is an emergency.
It's rude to have your cell phone ring every two seconds in a public place. If you need to be silent, there is a reason
Step 7. Stay calm even if you are angry
If you're in public and your partner, best friend, or complete stranger has made you mad, you need to take a few deep breaths. Close your eyes, speak slowly, and keep calm. Don't let anyone yell at you, insult you, or throw objects at you in public. And try to avoid it even in private.
Remember that you can often get great results easier if you don't scream
Step 8. Don't talk about money
It is not elegant to talk about how much money you make, how much you have, how much your car costs or to say that you just got another € 10,000 raise. Don't even talk about how rich your parents are or how rich your boyfriend is. Not really classy.
Don't even ask others how much they earn
Method 3 of 3: Behave with Class
Step 1. Be genuine
If you have class, live to be proud of yourself. If you are forced to have a self-righteous and deceptive attitude, you should ask yourself why. A person of honor, with great integrity, never needs to hide behind a mask. If you can't show yourself for who you really are, people will never know you. Stop pretending.
You don't have to always be 100% yourself in every single situation. You will have to adapt to your interlocutor, but always remaining essentially true to yourself
Step 2. Be independent
You need to be courteous, but don't bend down to please others. If so, someone might take advantage of you. Limit the time you spend with others and your availability, so that others understand the line not to cross. Spend time on your things and yourself to understand who you really are, instead of being obsessed with the idea that it is classy to have many commitments.
People will consider you as a special soul and will respect you even more
Step 3. Be firm
Avoid carrying in a passive-aggressive way; such an attitude will put you in trouble sooner or later. Instead, assertive behavior will show that you are mature, kind, and confident. The class requires a certain balance and decision is key in this.
Step 4. Don't pretend you have knowledge you don't have
When you find yourself talking about a topic you don't know or understand, you may want to admit your ignorance or, if you want to keep the conversation going, ask for more information. In doing so, you will show not only that you are mature, but also that you have an open mind.
People will respect you even more if you can admit when you don't know something
Step 5. Treat others the same way you would like to be treated
This is a golden rule that must be applied to both adults and children if you want to show that you have class. For example, warn well in advance if you decide to cancel a dinner, stand up for those who are not present, call your parents and friends to update them on the news. Simple gestures like these show that you are a genuine and classy person.
- Make sure you choose friends who share your values.
- You should treat everyone as your equal until they prove to be inferior. Give people the benefit of the doubt.
- Always respect the elderly. Being rude to older people is a sure sign of a lack of style.
Step 6. Be willing to change for the better
Don't blame yourself, but be receptive to constructive changes. In this world, changes are inevitable. Try a positive and flexible approach to showing others how to cope with new things. Face life with courage instead of putting your head in the sand and, in the end, others will take your opinion highly.
- Take lessons to help you improve yourself and learn new skills.
- Remember that the learning process is never finished. It is not elegant to think that you know everything.
Step 7. Keep up to date
Being informed about the current political, cultural and religious landscape demonstrates wisdom. Even the most basic notions can save a person from embarrassment and discomfort. If you know in advance that you need to spend time with someone with a very different background to yours, it would be useful to do some thorough research to avoid embarrassing missteps.
Be cultured. Being able to hold a conversation in an elegant way is essential to being classy
Step 8. Know when to ask for help to avoid desperate behavior
It would be the end of a classy person. Desperate times call for desperate measures! Take a deep breath, be strong and face the situation with grace and elegance. You will be the winner at any price. If things get out of hand and you feel completely overwhelmed, ask a close friend or family member for help.
You demonstrate style when you admit that you have a problem and try to solve it. Denying it is not elegant
Step 9. Be responsible
Classy people leave an environment in the condition in which they found it, unless they are in a restaurant where the waiters take care of everything. They take charge of their own garbage and luggage, without expecting others to move for them. When they receive a favor, they notice it immediately, expressing appreciation and gratitude, while the presumptuous and the spoiled take for granted and ignore the help obtained. Avoid getting drunk at parties.
- If you are the guest and dirty, try to clean. If you have borrowed a friend's car, fill up with gas before returning it to him.
- If you were wrong, take responsibility for it instead of blaming someone else for it.
Step 10. Be courteous
People who really have class are horrified at the thought of disturbing, offending, getting in the way, or annoying someone. They think about their own business if they are among strangers, but they put people at ease at social events. They are personable and friendly to anyone, no matter whether they are in the company of a CEO, postman or caretaker.
Classy people remember names and use them to greet people they see regularly, such as the doorman, security guard, or the boss's wife. They treat everyone equally, with courtesy and respect
Step 11. Keep promiscuity to a minimum
If you want to be classy, you can't just randomly hook up with a different person every night. And if you do, at least don't talk about it and don't brag about it. Do not divulge the details of your meetings. Don't let people see you kissing someone on the dance floor, because that's not the end of it.
You can also experiment and have different sexual partners. But don't brag about it like it's a race, because you risk getting into trouble
Step 12. Use good manners
Answer "Yes, ma'am" or "No, sir" and "Thank you" whenever you can. Be polite to older people. If you need to sneeze, use a tissue and don't wipe your nose on your sleeve. Do not remove food from your teeth in public and, in general, do not put your finger in your mouth and nose. At least acquire good table manners. Put the napkin on your lap before the meal. In public, avoid ironing, brushing your hair, wearing makeup, and constantly touching your clothes. Do these things privately: wait until you've found a bathroom or you're alone. Don't burst into loud laughter.
Take etiquette lessons if you need them
Step 13. Drink in style
Don't get drunk so much that you don't remember what happened the previous night. Avoid any fog. Stay in Control: People should see you in full possession of your physical and mental faculties. If people see you in a pitiful state mumbling something, then they can never think you are classy.
If you've gotten into trouble multiple times by drinking, then it might be time to stop
Advice
Maintain a straight posture, whether standing or sitting. Act with purpose and think before you speak
Warnings
- To err is human. If you make a mistake, you have to forgive yourself, but make your apologies to anyone who has suffered the consequences. Learn from mistakes and keep improving yourself.
- Changing your attitude can seem unnatural. If so, remember that it's about working on yourself and you can change for the better. Who has class is simply a person who always shows grace and kindness.
