Life can bring with it numerous painful experiences that turn into memories that are not easy to get rid of. How is it possible to get rid of it? Learning how to forget about these experiences can be of great help. Here are some tips for doing this.
Steps
Step 1. Before you get rid of the memories that cause pain in your life, you must first understand their origin
You can't get rid of something you don't know. The "suppressing" of a memory is not the best solution, it is only a palliative. Telling someone about these memories can help you understand the cause. Buy a notebook and start describing on its pages all the painful memories that affect your life; writing is great therapy. It really is: describe the emotions that accompany them.
Step 2. Once this is clear you can begin the process of really forgetting about it
Forgetting means understanding that any past experience, good or bad, is not up to you. You will come to the point of understanding that every experience is a lesson and that you can learn from it. When you learn to forget, getting this point right is crucial.
Step 3. Decide what lessons you can learn from past experience
There is always a lesson for everything.
Step 4. When you understand the lesson to draw from the experience, write a "mantra" on a piece of paper to link to the memory in question
For instance; if your memory is about abuse, it could be structured like this: "Thanks to the memory of being subjected to emotional abuse I have learned to be a stronger person and not to allow anyone else to use me."
Step 5. Take some time, sit down and chant the mantra
Fix the concept of the mantra in your head and make it stronger than the memory itself. If you repeat this often you will reach your goal.
Step 6. Next, take the mantra and keep it in a safe place; when the memories should come back you can pick it up and use it again
Step 7. Allow calm and peace to infuse into your being
If you feel calm and calm has become part of your life it will be difficult for negativity to take hold of you. To forget you must first accept this state of internal peace.
Step 8. Do some breathing exercises; once you are relaxed think of a place where you feel happy and comfortable or focus on something you like:
an ice cream, your favorite dish, anything that is able to erase the memory from your head. If you are feeling stressed, sit down and try to relax by listening to classical music.
Step 9. Forgive
If you feel resentment, forgiving is a very important step in forgetting.
Advice
- Sometimes finding someone you trust who can help you with this process can be downright difficult. Fortunately, the internet is a great place to stay anonymous. Use online forums and talk about your experiences. This way you will get the opinion of other people in a completely anonymous way.
- Thinking rationally can sometimes help relieve pain. Thinking, for example, that what you feel are only emotions and that they are nothing more than a stimulus of the brain, can help you see things more clearly.
- Having a pet can help you take your attention away from the painful memory.
- Surround yourself with friends you trust.
Warnings
- Remember that if you decide to post on an online forum, not only your identity is protected, but also that of the other participants who remain anonymous. Pay attention to the answers given to you; don't let anyone judge what happened to you. If you decide to use this method, keep an open mind as much as possible; remember that the other participants in the forum are not there to judge you but only to express their opinion on the fact that you describe.
- None of these methods will work instantly and by magic. You have to give yourself some time. Being in a hurry will only make the problem worse and make you feel like you are not progressing. Remember that the problem or memory is part of the past and now you have to think about the present and your future.
- Some memories will not be easy to forget and it will not be enough to follow the advice of a "How to" page to get rid of them. If you deem it necessary, ask a professional for advice.
