Is your self-confidence constantly dropping? Maybe you are simply frustrated or tired of waiting for something good to happen. The wait is over. Train yourself to be confident, create opportunities yourself, and learn to get what you want.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Show yourself bold
Step 1. Stop hesitating and take action
Is there something you want or want to achieve, but don't have the courage to act? Whether it's inviting someone for a drink, apologizing to a loved one after a long period of misunderstanding, or just being friendlier to a co-worker, stop thinking about how to act and do something for real.
Boldness is the opposite of hesitation. Whenever you feel hesitant about relating to others or making a decision, learn to put pride aside and take the first step
Step 2. Act unexpectedly
Bold people aren't afraid to have new experiences, and one of the reasons they're so nice to have around them is that they allow you to keep dreaming. Get involved and try something new, like salsa dancing or water skiing. Whatever your choice, it is important that it is based solely on your wishes and not on those of others.
Doing something new and unexpected could make you vulnerable or fearful. Do not give in to such feelings and learn to welcome both discoveries and novelties with open arms, without ever fear of being yourself
Step 3. Rediscover who you really are
Basically, being bold means understanding what your strengths are and what your weaknesses are and then overcoming them. Don't try to hide your problems and failures, instead learn to accept them as a part of you. Only in this way will you be able to progress and appreciate your uniqueness.
Understand that in order to get to know yourself better, it is not necessary to make any unusual or casual gestures. Avoid making weird changes just to impress others. Stay true to yourself
Step 4. Pretend you are already very bold
If you could play someone you admire for their audacity and purposeful demeanor, what would you do? Think about the bold people you know and imagine what their actions might be.
Your source of inspiration doesn't have to be real. You can be inspired by a film or literary character known for his audacity and ardor. Imagine applying his courage in your life
Step 5. Be willing to say no
If someone offers you to do something you don't want, refuse. Saying "no" will strengthen your individuality, help you feel bold, eager to take the field and commit to achieving your goals. Don't think you need to justify yourself or give an explanation. People will have to learn to respect your sincerity and courage.
Understand that when you decide to do something, you must commit to completing what you have started. Your self-love will benefit greatly and others will begin to respect you more
Step 6. Turn your words into action
Stating that you want to do something is not enough, you have to take action so that people don't think you are untrustworthy. By keeping your word and carrying out what you have started, you will ensure the trust of others and the reputation of a bold, reliable and complex person.
When you agree to do something in complete disagreement with your real wishes, it would probably be best to stick to your word. At the next opportunity, remember to amount and decline
Part 2 of 2: Get What You Want
Step 1. Ask for what you want
Instead of waiting for your efforts to be recognized or for someone else to take your needs into account, step forward and ask for what you want. This does not mean that you are free to demand anything, worse if aggressively, but learn to choose words that make you appear courteous and confident.
Don't confuse boldness with aggression. When you are aggressive you tend to impose your point of view and actions on others, but true boldness has nothing to do with the people around you. Being bold means recognizing and overcoming your fears by deciding to act in spite of your fears
Step 2. Learn to negotiate.
In a negotiation, the phrase "How can you meet me?" it is a simple and powerful tool that allows you to return the weight of responsibility to your interlocutor. Even in the event of an initial refusal, keep the window of opportunity open as long as possible to give your interlocutor time to change his mind.
Before starting the negotiation, plan some counter offers. If you think your boss will refuse your vacation request because he has no way to replace you, make a point of doubling your shifts when you return or completing the ongoing project remotely during your free time
Step 3. Offer two possibilities
When faced with a problem, one of the best ways to get what you want is to simplify the number of solutions. By doing this you will be sure to reach your goal.
Even when the solutions to the problem are truly endless, limit them to what you consider favorable to yourself. In this way you will avoid the onset of possible annoyances and you will ensure that you achieve the desired result
Step 4. Take risks and create opportunities
There is a huge difference between being careless and taking risks. What reckless people do is not accept to take risks since they don't even stop to think about it. Conversely, bold people reflect on the possible consequences of their actions and decide to act anyway, ready to gladly accept that things may not go as they hoped.
Often inactivity and hesitation are comparable to real risks because they expose you to the danger of missing important opportunities. These are also risks you must learn to avoid. Your job is to ensure the highest chances of success, certainly not to reduce the number of your opportunities. Once you have made the decision to act, take the first step without fear
Step 5. Ask and it will be given to you
There is nothing brave about getting mixed up in an unfamiliar situation by refusing to ask for help. When something is not clear to you, for example at school or at work, being bold means admitting you have doubts and asking for clarification.
Don't be afraid to take one of the bravest actions: ask for help. If the first answer isn't what you were looking for, ask someone else. Being persistent in seeking the information you need is a real show of courage
Step 6. Accept any results
Diving into a new experience or trying to reach your goals can fill you with energy, but sometimes the results won't be what you hoped for. Rather than treating it as its exact opposite, learn to accept failure as a fundamental component of success. If you don't run the risk of tripping over an obstacle, you won't have the opportunity to cross the finish line.
Do not fear rejection and understand that it is necessary to acquire a certain emotional detachment from the result. Don't let a rejection jeopardize your courage and self-confidence
Advice
- When you decide to embark on a new adventure, don't let the comments of others make you hesitant. Usually those who try to stop you are people who wish to be brave, but cannot find the strength to make the same choices as you.
- To be brave, you don't have to stop feeling fear. Let people know that you are scared, but that nevertheless you have decided to take action and not look back.
