As a teenager, making out with someone can be scary, but it doesn't have to be. If you want to make out with a guy, all you have to do is make sure that both of you are comfortable, take it easy and let yourself go. You don't have to be the biggest kissing expert in the school to win over the dude. If you want to find out how, follow these tips.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Making the Move
Step 1. Try to catch him when he is alone
The first step in hooking one is to find the right place to do it. You don't need a moonlit walk or the most romantic place in the world to kiss, but you should still find one that's isolated enough, suitable, romantic enough so you can get off on the right foot. Don't think too much: Sometimes these encounters are natural and you can't plan everything, or things would go wrong.
- He could be the one trying to catch you alone. If you think this could happen then prepare yourself by keeping your breath fresh.
- You don't have to create an atmosphere that is too sexy. Candles, roses, romantic music - these are all things that a teenage boy doesn't care as much as the girl. He aims more to conquer her, not the scent of candles.
Step 2. Tap it
You can't start kissing a guy without first making some physical contact. Guys like to be touched on the arms, shoulders in the chest area so if you are close or sitting next to each other, start touching him. And make him touch you too - if you stroke his arm and he stays still, you have a problem.
- Take it easy, but not too much. If you are alone and he kisses you, he probably wants to get with you.
- But remember: boys get nervous too, sometimes even more than girls. Males are usually expected to know what to do, while he may actually have no idea and feel pressured. Touching it confidently will put it at ease.
Step 3. Draw him towards you
Once you've been touching each other for a while - and this part can last anywhere from a few seconds to a few minutes - pull it towards you. Maintain eye contact, smile slightly, and show him that you want more. He might brush your hair off your face. If he is more daring, he may in turn draw you to him, but you can pleasantly surprise him by putting your arms around his neck as he approaches you, or by putting a hand on his upper back to move him in your direction.
Some guys like to be in control, others like to be guided
Step 4. Kiss him, with transport
Kissing is obviously the first step in making out. You can start angling your lips slightly so you will both avoid the heads touching and hitting your nose. Start slowly, brushing his lips for a couple of seconds then touch them more firmly, until you feel the passion. As the kiss intensifies, you will be able to tilt your head at a firmer angle.
As you kiss, make sure your hands are engaged in something and are not dangling on the sides of your body like two strings. Kissing is not just a question of lip gymnastics: it is a physical experience
Part 2 of 3: Raising the Temperature
Step 1. French kiss him
Once you've kissed him for a while with closed lips, you can move on to French kissing. Don't be nervous, slowly slide your tongue into his mouth and wait for him to do the same. At first you can play a little, letting the tips touch each other or you can get more aggressive, pushing yourself further in.
- Remember that every couple of minutes you need to breathe. You will need a break.
- If you produce some saliva, this is normal. Clean your mouth, nothing happened.
Step 2. Try some other kissing styles
The French kiss is not the only possible one. There are other varieties that require you to suck your tongue, chew your lip, use your breath more vigorously, or mix a regular kiss with a French one. There is no right way to do this and everyone has their preferences; your type may like one or all of them.
- Keep trying new variations until you find a rhythm that suits both of you. If you repeat the same things for more than a minute, the passion will begin to subside.
- Again: if this is your first time kissing or hooking someone, enjoy the moment without worrying too much about keeping it alive. At 14, 15, 16 or even later, you can still afford to enjoy the novelty.
Step 3. Kiss him on the neck
The neck is a very sensitive area for males, because they love to be kissed there. After kissing, keep touching him and slowly move your head down, giving him small, tender kisses on the sides of his neck. This will turn him on to the max, guaranteed. If you then blow some of your breath on his skin, it will be the best.
If they really like it and you're feeling brave, nibble on it softly. Only do this if you feel comfortable
Step 4. Nibble his ear
Guys like to be touched and kissed on the ears too. Once you've kissed the neck, move up and gently kiss the lobes first. Then, if he responds well, you can go on to nibble them always with extreme delicacy. It is important to be light, otherwise you could hurt him and ruin the moment.
Kissing the neck and ears is easier if you are lying down. But if you're not ready to make out horizontally, that's fine
Step 5. Sit on his lap
If you want to take it to the next level and you've already sat down, exploring your bodies, then you can get even closer by sitting on his lap. You can straddle with your legs on either side if you feel ready or with both legs to one side. Remember that straddling is a sexy position that could lead him to want more.
You can hold your arms around his neck or touch his chest
Step 6. Tease him
If done right, it will turn him on even more. If you want to tease him, first give him a long, passionate kiss, then, as soon as you feel the situation is heating up, walk away for a few seconds, looking him in the eye. Get down and kiss him again. Those few seconds of deprivation will remind him how much he wants you and how good you make him feel.
This move should be used a few times of course. You have to tease him, not provoke him at all
Step 7. Whisper in his ear
Telling him something sexy in his ear will not only turn him on because of your breathing against his earlobe, but also because of the words you say to him. You don't have to say anything shocking, something like, "I like kissing you" or "I like what you're doing to me" and the idea of making out with you will make him even more excited.
- This tactic must also be practiced with the dropper.
- By spending more time together, you will gain a better sense of his style. Maybe he likes to stop every now and then to talk for a while or whisper in your own ears, or maybe he is only interested in making out.
Step 8. Play with her hair
Guys' heads are yet another sensitive part of their body, so don't underestimate the pleasure you could give them by sticking your fingers through their hair. Take his head gently in your hands, run your fingers through his hair from top to bottom or vice versa. The neck area just above the back is particularly sensitive.
You should do this "while" kissing if you are able to coordinate
Step 9. Suck his fingers
This is only for higher-level squeegees. If the situation is getting hotter, grab his index finger, bring it to your mouth and suck it looking him in the eye. Know that it will be a rather suggestive move and you probably shouldn't do it if you don't want to move to the next level.
Step 10. Explore your bodies
Let's face it: we all have a different conception of making out. Some think only of kisses, others of sex. So if it's more to you than kissing, then you can go further. You can let her hands reach under the shirt and touch your breasts. You can take off your shirts. You can touch intimate areas over your pants or start undressing. The important thing is not what you do, but how you feel about doing it.
Part 3 of 3: Getting to Sodo
Step 1. Remember that no means no
If you're young, the guy you're dating will likely have higher expectations than you. It is perfectly natural. Teenagers are renowned for being the most eager creatures on earth. But that doesn't mean you have to do whatever makes you uncomfortable just to make him happy or to avoid looking like a mischievous girl. If you feel like you've gotten to a point you can't handle, whether it's just kissing or oral sex, tell him NO, you don't want to do anything else.
If you are with a nice guy, then he will respect your decision to cut it out. If you're with an idiot, well, he might get pissed or hurt. But who wants to have an affair with someone like that?
Step 2. Find out if you are ready for the next step
Do you think you are ready for oral sex? For the full report? Knowing if you really are is no different from knowing if you are in love: if you know, you know. If you are insecure, then don't. Generally, it's a good idea to get intimate with someone if you know them, if you like them, and if they're your boyfriend. Or maybe you're just a free spirit who likes to hang out with guys - it's not judgmental, but just make sure you don't hurt yourself if that's what you really want.
- If the guy likes you, you should go out with him at least a couple of times to really decide and feel comfortable going further.
- Make sure you are both on the same wave line. If you think that by having sex he will become your boyfriend while he is just trying to have fun, then you have a problem.
- In general, carrying on sexuality doesn't mean you have to become more intimate: if you really like yourself, your relationship should no matter how far you go.
Step 3. Always stay on the safe side
Needless to say, if you "are" sexually active, you should "always" use protection, whatever the cost. Anyone who tells you they don't want to use a condom because they don't feel comfortable is not worth trusting. You want to get some sexually transmitted disease. Do you want a baby? Probably not. So, if you have sex, always use a condom and learn how to use it as well as consider other types of contraception as well.
If you are sexually active, consider taking the pill, in case your doctor thinks it is right for you. The pill is taken daily and should be used "in conjunction" with a condom for added protection
Step 4. Finish positively
Once the evening is over, make sure you have a quiet way out. Tell him you enjoyed yourself, give him a sweet kiss and say goodnight or goodbye. There is no need to feel embarrassed that you have been together: in fact you should be happy. Keep a cool head and make sure you're on the same level as him before trying to date him again.
Stories and relationships between teens can be confusing, unpredictable, and even frustrating. Remember to take it easy to get what you really want out of your story
Advice
- Make sure it's not embarrassing at school or wherever you need to meet him.
- If you don't want things to go too far, try to stay in places where there are people, like the entrances to the cinema.
- Try to get experience kissing.
Warnings
- Make sure he's not one of those who play.
- At least make sure he likes you a little.
- If you are in the same circle, avoid having friends make it embarrassing.
