Not knowing if someone likes you can be stressful. Some people can be direct about their feelings, but more people prefer to let them know what they are feeling more discreetly. We all try to avoid the pains of love, but this can prevent us from clearly understanding a person's intentions. Some of us are better than others at hiding physical attraction, but by looking closely, you will be able to find the answer you are looking for.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Observe Body Language
Step 1. Notice if she looks you in the eye
The exchanges of glances are among the most powerful messages transmitted by non-verbal language. People use their eyes to communicate many emotions; if someone looks at you frequently, it means they are interested in you in some way. If you notice him staring at you for long moments, maybe he likes you.
Try to catch his eye. It is normal to look in the direction of the person we like, especially if we think no one is seeing us. If you are in the same room with a girl and you haven't spoken yet, look at her from time to time, trying to figure out if she is staring at you. If she is shy, she will likely look away. If she is confident, she will usually try to make eye contact with you
Step 2. Notice if he smiles at you
Like looks, smiles can communicate a lot without having to resort to words. Usually, looking someone in the eye is a sign of simple interest, while a smile manifests warmth and affection. Be careful if someone smiles at you when you are together.
- To take a test, try looking her in the eye. If she smiles at you, she's probably interested in you.
- Some people are very shy and feel too embarrassed to smile at someone they are attracted to.
Step 3. Notice if he touches you affectionately
Innocent contact is often an obvious form of seduction, including gentle touches on the arms or at the waist and even prolonged hugs. Some of your friends may touch you often, but you will notice more shyness when a contact is an attempt to flirt.
To get more information, try gently touching the person you like and notice their reaction. If she likes it or seems embarrassed to you, maybe she reciprocates your feelings
Step 4. Notice if he tries to get noticed in your presence
Body language is the primary means by which we demonstrate, on an unconscious level, attraction to someone. Whether they like it or not, people often change their body language based on their feelings. If you suddenly meet the girl you like, try to notice if she changes her way quickly: this can make you understand that she is really interested in you.
- Men and women adopt different body languages to manifest their attraction. Often, men try to look bigger and more confident. They pull the chest out and keep their hands at waist level.
- Women are more sensual in their manifestations. They smile, curl their hair and keep a shy attitude.
Step 5. Ask yourself if they always try to be around you
When we like someone, we have a natural tendency to want their company. Whether you are classmates, office colleagues, or have met in more informal circumstances, people who are attracted to you will often try to approach them in an obvious way, perhaps being convinced that they are behaving discreetly.
Method 2 of 3: Talk to the Person You Like
Step 1. Create opportunities to talk about personal matters
When we are interested in someone, we often make our conversations with them more intense, at least more intense than we normally do. Two people who are attracted to each other often find themselves talking about private details, secret fears, and painful experiences. If you frequently converse with a girl you hope to like, you have plenty of opportunities during your conversations to find out how she feels about you. Try to lead the discussion on more intimate topics and notice his reaction. If she seems interested, that's a sign that she likes you.
Step 2. Flirt
If you're interested in someone who doesn't give you any signs of attraction, you should try flirting with them. "Flirting" is a term that includes a lot of behaviors aimed at showing attraction to someone. If you like a girl, you probably adopt some of these attitudes already, without even realizing it. Smiling in her direction, making eye contact with her, laughing, complimenting her, and gently teasing her are all attempts at flirting.
- If the person you like reacts to your attempts by flirting in turn, they are probably interested in you.
- Of course, if someone is flirting with you, that's an even more obvious sign of attraction. Beware of good-natured teasing and compliments, especially when it comes to qualities considered attractive, such as beauty and charm.
Step 3. Make a joke and evaluate his reaction
Laughter and irony allow you to express interest in someone in a very informal way. If you like to be funny, try to evaluate the reaction to your jokes: those who are attracted to you will laugh a lot more at your attempts to be funny than those who are not interested. Plus, comedy is an attractive quality, so if you want to find a new partner, the fastest way is to make her laugh.
If your joke doesn't elicit even a smile, maybe she's not interested in you. Beware of those who never laugh
Step 4. Consider how long it takes before he replies to your messages
In the age of virtual communication, the way a person behaves with you over the internet can give you important insights into their feelings towards you. If you are speaking via chat or text, note how long you have to wait before receiving a reply. If the wait is short, he may not consider you just a friend. Remember, though, that she may be busy working on the computer and not be able to replicate as fast as you do. Pay attention to the posts she publishes and you will be able to find out if she is currently busy.
Step 5. Ask a direct question to the person you like
After trying everything, you always have the option to ask her directly how she feels about you! In many cases, people communicate their interest in other ways, making this question unnecessary. However, if you are tired of waiting and need confirmation, this is a straightforward and straight to the point solution.
- You don't need too elaborate sentences. Just say, "I have the feeling that you are attracted to me. Is that true?"
- If you are dealing with a very shy or easily embarrassed person, you may not get a clear answer. that's why it's better to ask this question in the course of a conversation than to go straight to her and ask if she abruptly likes you.
Method 3 of 3: Discover the Truth Thanks to Friends
Step 1. Make sure she isn't interested in anyone else
While singles can be attracted to multiple people at once, finding out if someone already has a crush is a clear sign of their availability. Find out this information by asking friends, or by paying attention to how he behaves with people of the opposite sex.
Step 2. Ask for a friend's opinion
We all always observe the behavior of others, voluntarily or not. If any of your friends know the person you like, you should ask them if they think they might be interested in you. Even if you consider yourself to be very attentive to detail, he is able to look at things from a different perspective and may point out to you a detail that you overlooked.
A mutual friend will be of great help to you. He can give you his opinion regarding your compatibility with the person you are interested in
Step 3. Ask his friends if they know anything
When you are attracted to someone, you have probably confessed to friends. If you want a certain answer, but aren't ready to ask a direct question yet, you should ask your friends what they think of you. In some cases, they may reveal to you verbatim what they said about you; in others, they may simply give you their opinion. Either way you will get closer to the truth.
- Be careful, as some friends may go and tell the person you like that you asked for them. If you don't want to make your interest known for the time being, maybe you shouldn't take that risk.
- Generally, girls have a tendency to talk about their love life more often than men. Either way, this advice applies to both genders.
Step 4. Find out what his friends think of you
In some cases, the companies of friends have a tendency to think like a flock. In other words, what the person you care about thinks about you will influence the opinions of their friends. If she seems to like you very much, she probably likes you too. Conversely, if none of her friends thinks you are particularly nice, she may not like you too.
It is not advisable to specifically ask someone what they think of you. Many people would lie and respond politely rather than engage in an unpleasant conversation. Instead, try to gauge their opinion of you by looking at their behavior in your company. Do they try to include you in their conversations? Do they actively listen to the things you say or ask you honest questions about yourself? It's not easy to understand what a person you've just met really thinks of you, but usually, you can get a general idea by noticing their attitude
Step 5. Pay attention to how he treats you in the presence of his friends
Friendship between men and women is quite common, but we all have a tendency to treat people we like differently than normal friends. If a girl seems very interested in introducing you to her friends, maybe try to figure out what a relationship between you would be like.
- If she seems to be ignoring you in front of her friends, that's not a good sign. Some people feel uncomfortable with the idea of showing affection for someone in the company of friends, but they should never come to disrespect you.
- If she tries to involve you in conversations or activities and doesn't mind showing affection for you in the presence of friends, she may be interested in a romantic relationship with you.
Advice
- Consider the character of the person you are interested in. For example, if she is shy, she will demonstrate her attraction more discreetly than if she were very confident.
- Men and women express attraction in different ways. Try to find out if a person is attracted to you by considering their gender.
