Are you one of those people who thinks they can't survive without a girlfriend or boyfriend? Maybe you had a rather long affair, spanning your entire teenage years, with someone who recently broke up with you. Or maybe you've never been in a serious relationship and are worried about what it might entail. Here's the verdict: Being single can be a wonderful experience. So learn to enjoy this moment when you have no romantic bond.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Have fun
Step 1. Cultivate your hobbies
Everyone, single or not, needs to give vent to their creativity to minimize stress, generate positive feelings and stay in touch with others. Relationships can be deleterious when people are so projected into couple relationships that they forget their "ego dimension". Take advantage of being single to do whatever you want, be it manual activity, rowing or writing poetry.
Step 2. Take part in cultural events organized in your city
Being single doesn't mean getting bored. Get out of the house and take advantage of the events offered by the community where you live or in nearby towns. Visit a museum you've never been to. Get together with your best friends to attend a concert or music festival.
It will do you good to go to a dance show, an opera or an art gallery! According to some research, cultural activities improve health conditions
Step 3. Learn to appreciate loneliness
If your relationship has lasted for many years, you may not remember how to be alone, in fact it may be something you hate. Yes, the presence of others is important, but loneliness is a fundamental aspect of one's personal growth. Read, watch a movie or just sit outside on the balcony and enjoy the sunset.
Find 5-10 minutes a day to sit alone and reflect on the thoughts, feelings and ideas that run through your mind. If being alone makes you uncomfortable, put it down on paper. Why is it difficult? Exactly what do you dislike about the condition of not having stable romantic relationships?
Step 4. Appreciate the benefits of being single
Challenge the notion that you feel bad on your own. Not having a boyfriend is a choice like going to live or work in a certain place. You can safely enjoy your single life - be it momentary or lasting. Here's what you gain from not having a relationship:
- The ability to cultivate passions and interests;
- The ability to act autonomously without any need to organize with another person;
- The ability to understand what you want before starting another relationship;
- The freedom to live your own way;
- The possibility of having occasional visits, if you wish.
Part 2 of 3: Fighting Loneliness
Step 1. Build important bonds
You won't have a girlfriend or boyfriend, but you can always improve friendships and family relationships. Love stories can come and go in a short time, especially when you are young. Conversely, friends and relatives may stay with you for life.
You absolutely don't need a romantic relationship to be happy. However, it is also true that, by nature, human beings feel the need to unite and interact. Dedicate your time and energy to the people you have the most intimate relationships with. When you find someone to partner with, your vision and expectations will be more balanced if you have strengthened existing relationships
Step 2. Adopt a pet
Sometimes, loneliness can be difficult if you are single and live alone. Find a balance between the time you spend alone and the time you spend with others so you don't get too bored. According to science, the incidence of death is highest among people who live alone, especially among the elderly.
A tender and affectionate kitten or puppy can be an ideal companion to snuggle with in the evening while watching a movie. In addition, pet owners tend to be healthier and happier
Step 3. Realize that only you can determine what you are worth
Not having a partner doesn't mean being unsociable or unpleasant. Often, people mistakenly believe that romantic relationships determine what they are worth. If you think you are worthless without a boyfriend, you will only reinforce the idea that in one way or another you are worth little as a single. Avoid falling into this mind trap by doing whatever it takes to feel worthy of love and respect and to live a fulfilling life.
- List your strengths. What do you have to offer the world and the people around you? Write down your strengths and stick the paper on a mirror or wall so you can see it every day.
- Do you find it difficult to understand what your best qualities are? Talk to a friend or relative and ask them what they like about your personality.
Step 4. Don't feel the need to bond with someone because your friends are engaged
If you are the only one single in your circle of friends, you may be starting to think that the way to go is to get together with someone. Avoid doing this. Romantic relationships involve commitment, compromise and dedication. They are far from easy. If you're not ready for a relationship, don't let jealousy or fear drive you into getting engaged just to avoid feeling left out.
Step 5. Enrich your social life
If all of your friends are engaged and you are tired of being a third wheel, it might be a great idea to hang out with other singles. This does not mean that you have to abandon your most important friendships. However, you may enjoy spending time with guys who share your situation.
Try breaking the ice with other schoolmates or co-workers. When you are invited to an event that you would never think of attending with your group, accept. By spending time with other singles, you will realize how wonderful it is not to have romantic bonds
Part 3 of 3: Feeding Self-love
Step 1. Log out on your own
When you date a person, you try to get to know his character, his tastes, what he hates, dreams and thinks. As you learn more about her, you know that a love bond could arise. Likewise, go out alone in order to get to know yourself better and start a journey of self-gratification that is not based on the presence of another person.
For example, you might try a new restaurant, go to the movies or start a class on your own, travel on your own, get yourself some gifts, or buy yourself flowers. This will reinforce the idea that you must love yourself before you can give love to someone else
Step 2. Fight the stress
It happens that those who live a couple relationship are so used to taking on the needs of the partner that they neglect their own well-being. This carelessness weighs ten times more once the relationship ends. Living a full and fulfilling single life means taking care of yourself. Identify what are the stressors in your life and put in place a system that allows you to manage them in a healthy way.
To relieve stress, always take care of yourself before it puts your health at risk. Find some relaxing activities to do every day or every week. Calling a friend, getting massages, walking and reading are all great ways to manage the tensions of everyday life
Step 3. Stay active
The goal of this tip is not to encourage you to lose weight to get revenge on an ex or find a boyfriend or girlfriend. If practiced regularly, physical exercise is a fundamental element for physical and mental well-being. Also, when you train, you feel better, you have the opportunity to meet other people and fuel your self-esteem.
To keep yourself healthy and fit, train five times a week for 30 minutes doing aerobic exercise, such as running, cycling, or dancing, and add at least 2 weightlifting sessions
Step 4. Eat right
As you train to take care of your body, so you have to be careful how you feed it. Try to feed your dog in a balanced way by choosing vegetables, fruits, lean proteins, whole grains and low-fat dairy products. Eat 3-5 meals a day.
Step 5. Get enough sleep
Self-care also involves rest. Try not to go to bed too late so that you get 7-9 hours of sound sleep every night.
