We all want to be respected by others, but respect is earned, and by working hard. If you want to be successful and be happy and healthy, learning to earn the respect of others should be an important goal, but you have to work hard to achieve it. By learning to respect others, you act and think by being confident and behaving in a trustworthy way. Only then will you start earning the respect you deserve, in no time. Read on to learn more.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Respect Others
Step 1. Be honest
If people understand that you speak from the heart, that you believe in what you say, and that your actions, words and opinions are consistent, they will know that you deserve their respect. Learn to cultivate sincerity in your group of friends, at work, at school, and in any other area of your life.
When you are with different types of people, behave exactly as you would do alone or with other people. We all feel that social pressure that forces us to behave in a certain way or we have seen a friend suddenly flatter that same business partner he was talking badly about seconds ago. You need to have a consistent personality, regardless of who surrounds you
Step 2. Listen and learn
In a conversation, many people look forward to talking instead of hearing what the other has to say. This can make it clear that you feel at the center of the universe, and it is not pleasant. We all have something to say, but learning to be a good listener ultimately makes people more interested in your speeches. If you want to earn the respect of the people you talk to, learn to listen actively and cultivate a reputation as a good listener.
- Ask lots of questions. Even if you are talking to someone you know well, find out as much as possible about them by asking them questions. Ask her about her activities and also ask her personal questions. People like to feel interesting when they are heard. By showing a genuine interest in what others have to say, you will earn respect. Keep asking specific questions by deepening your knowledge; for example, start with "How many brothers do you have?" and continue from there with questions like "Do they look like you?" to make it clear that you are interested.
- Cultivate various conversations. If someone recommends a book or album, text them after reading a few chapters or listening to a couple of songs to let them know what you think.
Step 3. Compliment others for their work
When a friend or colleague's actions, ideas, or projects stand out for their innovation, praise him and explain why you admire him. Some people feel jealous when others are successful. If you want to be respected, learn to recognize the greatness of others and to appreciate it.
- Be honest in your compliments. Overly enthusiastic praise for anything someone does will not earn you respect, but it may give you a reputation for being a "sucker". Only do this when someone genuinely hits you.
- Try complimenting your actions, plans, and ideas instead of something superficial, like possessions and physical appearance. For example, saying "I like your style" is better than "What a beautiful dress".
Step 4. Try to show empathy towards others
This ability is very important to respect others and make yourself respected in turn. If you can predict someone's emotional needs, you can be respected as a loving, caring person who cares about the needs of those around you.
- Look at people's body language. People don't always communicate what they feel, even though they feel scared or frustrated. If you learn to notice this, you can adapt your behavior appropriately.
- If necessary, try to be available to offer your emotional support. Back off when there is no need. If your friend has just been dumped by their girlfriend after a troubled relationship, consider their needs. Some people let off steam by talking about it incessantly and not neglecting the details; if so, you should offer empathic listening. Others prefer to ignore the problem when they are with others and face it alone. Don't insist. There is no more correct way than another to suffer.
Step 5. Keep in touch with people
Everyone needs a favor sooner or later, but it is a sign of respect to keep in touch with your friends, colleagues and family even when you don't have to ask for anything.
- Call or text your friends just to chat. Label them in funny links on Facebook or other social networks, simply to let them know you have them in mind.
- Update your family of your successes and failures, especially if you live in different places. Talk to your parents and inform them about how college is going or what's going on in your relationship. Let people know more about your life.
- Treat co-workers as if they were real friends. Don't just talk to them when you need to know what time to show up for work or what happened at the last meeting. Ask about their lives and treat them with respect to be respected in return.
Method 2 of 3: Be Reliable
Step 1. Do what you promise
Nobody respects people who are considered fickle or unreliable. If you want to be respected, honor the commitments you make and the promises you make to people. Call when you say you will, deliver projects on time, and be your word.
If you have to cancel or otherwise change your plans with someone, try not to get into the habit of telling lies, however harmless they are, or making excuses to back off. If you make an appointment to go out on a Friday night but then prefer to lie on the sofa with a bucket of popcorn and watch television, you can say "I don't feel like going out for a drink tonight", and propose another date. Always try to warn well in advance
Step 2. Offer to help, even if you don't have to
When one of your friends moves elsewhere and needs help with the move, you can start to feel like a teacher has just asked the whole class to solve a long and complicated equation on the board. Everyone looks around and waits for others to do something. To be respected and trustworthy, offer your talents and effort for projects that require them. Volunteer to do what needs to be done, not just the things you think you will do well.
Alternatively, learn to step back and focus on the talents of others. If you are known to be a reliable person, people may call you to do several things, while other people who are talented will hesitate to intervene. Invite them by asking them for help or suggesting possible candidates for a job. This will earn you respect on both sides
Step 3. Do more than you have to
You can complete the bare minimum or you can put in a little extra effort to perfectly complete a job, assignment or project. In the latter case, you will earn respect.
- If you finish earlier and have extra time, take advantage of it. We often wait until the last moment to write an essay or to start a project, and we find ourselves working on it day and night to finish it. Set false deadlines to finish first and then use the extra time you've earned to correct and refine it.
- Even if you don't respect your goals and run out of ideas and efforts, at least you will know that you have done your best and that you have given your all to prepare a presentation or write an essay, and this will allow you to earn respect.
Step 4. Learn to anticipate the needs of others
If you know your roommate or partner has had a bad day at work, clean the house and cook, or make cocktails before he arrives. Having a little initiative to lighten someone's day will earn you respect.
Method 3 of 3: Knowing How To Behave
Step 1. Be humble
Minimizing your successes and having a balanced perspective on the world will keep you happy and keep you grounded so you can earn the respect of others. Let your actions speak for you and allow people to come to their own conclusions about your abilities and talents. Don't praise your praises, let others do it.
You won't have to prove your skills if your daily actions prove your prowess
Step 2. Talk less
Everyone has an opinion on everything, but that doesn't mean you always have to share it. Step aside and let others do the talking, listen, especially if you tend to talk a lot. Accept the views of others and offer your own if you have something to add to the discussion. If not, don't say anything.
- Stepping aside and letting others do the talking will also give you a certain advantage, since you give them the opportunity to tell each other, and you will have the opportunity to understand them and learn to put yourself in their shoes.
- If you are a quiet person, learn to speak when you have something to say. Don't let humility and a desire to be reserved get in the way when you want to share your point of view. People won't respect you for it.
Step 3. Take responsibility for your actions
Just like you wouldn't say one thing and do another if you want to be respected, you need to be consistent in your behaviors. Finish what you start. We all make mistakes sometimes. In this case, accept it and keep that respect you have cultivated so far.
Don't ask for help with what you can do on your own. If you've been assigned a job and don't need them to help, do it yourself, even if it will be difficult
Step 4. Become assertive
Nobody will respect a doormat. If you don't want to do something, say it. If you have a different opinion and deep down you know you're right, say so. Being assertive in a polite, courteous, and respectful way will earn you respect from others, even when you disagree.
Step 5. Respect yourself
Remember the popular saying "Respect yourself and you will be respected". In short, before demanding respect from others, you must be the first to accept yourself, whoever you are. You need to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses and feel good when you strive to improve as a person. Nothing will change if you don't change yourself first.
