Is your ex boyfriend causing you problems? Are you tired of dealing with it? Find out how to handle the bad situations created by him.
Steps
Step 1. Laugh at any gossip you may try to spread
Make sure everyone knows that you think it's childish and that you don't care at all. Don't show an overreaction: Just tell people it's not true. Ask him why he spread that rumor. If he denies that he did, he is proving that it is not true! If he has naked photos of you that he threatens to disclose, remind him that blackmail is illegal.
Step 2. If he asks your best friend to go out with him, stay calm
He will try to make you angry. If your friend says yes, don't freak out. If she asks what you think, be honest, kindly. Tell her that you are not going to break them or anything like that, but that you think he is using her.
Step 3. Make sure it's clear that it's over between you two
You may be being too friendly. Stop calling or texting him too often. When you tell him it's over, don't laugh and don't look scared. Maintain eye contact and tell him seriously.
Step 4. Most importantly, if he threatens to hurt you or anyone else, you need to call the police
Even if you don't believe he can carry out his threats, watch your back. Stay with a friend who is there to support you and never stay home alone if they know where you live. It doesn't matter what your feelings about him are - keep your distance. Remember that your life is more important than any boyfriend you may have.
Step 5. Stop thinking about him
It might be difficult, and it is, but when you find the perfect person for you, you will feel so much better. Remember that he is only one of the obstacles that life puts in your path. What does not kill you only makes you stronger.
Advice
- Break all ties with your ex. No phone calls, emails or messages. It is evident that he is not your friend and that he is passing the limits.
- Don't bother losing control with him. He's just trying to upset you.
- Later, he'll try to make you jealous by doing things like hitting on other girls or asking your friends to go out with him. Even if it seems difficult, ignore it. If he wants to fight, go away and act like the bigger person of the two; do not throw gasoline on the fire.
- Follow the right path and don't stoop to participate in his dirty games.
- Talk to your family about it, and if he seems dangerous to you, don't let him go too far. If you are physically threatened or if they start harassing you, contact the police and try to get a restraining order.
- Is it stupid or dangerous? Make sure you know this and act accordingly.
Warnings
- If he asks you out again, remember all the things he said about you.
- Never get back with him if you think you should. Even if he begs you, don't.
- Never kiss your ex's best friend. You will look much more evil than him.
