Overcoming a betrayal is a delicate process that requires a lot of strength and commitment. There are many things you can do to move on but you will have to go all out if you want to get results. If you've been in pain and are trying to deal with a betrayal right away, keep reading these tips.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Part 1: Leave it all behind
Step 1. Release your pain but take it away from you
Cry if you feel the need, get rid of all the sadness and anger. It is important to vent tension and negative emotions in order to look forward and turn your back on betrayal. There is no point in prolonging your agony and letting yourself be corroded by pain, let off steam as much as you want but after a while you regain control of your life.
Step 2. Get as far away as you can from the person who betrayed you
Remove any contacts, including virtual ones. Delete his phone number, email and instant messaging address.
Step 3. Think for yourself
Just focus on yourself, at least until you feel better and your resentment has subsided.
Method 2 of 2: Part 2: Move on
Step 1. Find confidence in yourself and in social relationships
At first you may think that it is not worth getting close to others and creating bonds, instead it is important to overcome this negative feeling and try to open yourself to new possibilities. By believing in yourself, and in your worth, you will find the strength you lost. You can also improve some of your qualities and aim for your personal growth, for example:
- Go out more often. Look for the company of friends, go out together for a drink in a club and have a conversation. Go out for lunch or dinner, and so on.
- Broaden your knowledge, make an effort to meet new people.
Step 2. Set goals to achieve
Make a list of everything you want out of life and make sure you accomplish your goals. For example, if you would like to pursue a career, start preparing yourself professionally. By doing so, rather than suffer from the betrayal you have suffered, you will be able to focus your energies on something positive. Turning the page means starting to think about your life and the future.
Step 3. Do everything to improve yourself
Engage in a daily exercise routine to keep fit and release your pent-up tension through movement. Start a new hobby, such as ballroom dancing, hunting, fishing, or hiking. Find yourself and your self-esteem. Even a negative experience can open new doors for you.
Step 4. Overcome the betrayal by finding the right motivation and new inspiration from textbooks and CDs
And above all, surround yourself with positive people who give you the boost you need and who help you regain lost enthusiasm. You will be able to shake off the negative experience and look to the future with optimism.
Step 5. Realize that overcoming a betrayal is a long and challenging process
There may be times when you feel grounded but that doesn't mean you won't make it. Convert your suffering into positive energy and find channels of outlet, for example the company of a friend who loves to listen to you and who knows how to make you smile again. Don't let yourself be worn down by a few moments of weakness and try not to burden your friends' morale too much by always talking about your problems.
Advice
- If you've been cheated on, don't be afraid to face a new romance, but give yourself a break, don't seek out a new flame right away. Spend some time to reflect and distance yourself from the broken relationship. Don't rush but learn to rediscover yourself and better understand what you want. It is a time to forget your suffering but also to prepare yourself in the right way for your next love story.
- Forgive those who hurt you. Forgiveness is the first step to moving on.
- Let it out by talking to the person who cheated on you, he must know how much his behavior has hurt you.
