Being a good husband is important in any marriage. Marriage should be a total partnership, where two united people should always aim to give and not take, fighting to improve themselves for their other half. This is a guide to being a good Muslim husband, something that Islamism places emphasis on and Muhammad himself legislated. To clear your mind of misconceptions and become a respectable husband, read on!
Steps
Step 1. Start with a nice greeting:
when you come back from work or a trip, say hello. "As-salaamu 'alaikum" - means "Peace be with you!". Remember what Muhammad said, may peace be with him: "Let me guide you towards this, in case you have to practice it yourself: will you love one another? Spread the salaam [greeting of peace] among you." [1]
Step 2. Look at it with love
Muhammad, may peace be with him, said, "When a wife and a husband look at each other with love, Allah looks at them both with mercy." [2] When you talk to her, look into her eyes: as a woman she will appreciate it, plus doing it with extreme love is the icing on the cake!
Step 3. Smile at her and consider her
The Prophet, may peace be with him, regarded the smile as a gift of joy, an emotional and non-material gift - something whose substance reached the heart. A companion of the prophet, Jarîr `Abd Allah said," Since I accepted Islam, the Prophet (may peace be upon him) has never forgotten me. Whenever he sees me, he smiles at me. " [3] - and again: "When you smile at your brother (that is, at anyone, not specifically a blood brother), it is charity." [4] If you apply these two principles to your marriage, to a more prominent relationship, think about how much better it will be! Let your wife feel how much you love her by enlightening you when you see her.
Step 4. Tell her you love her
And do it often! Sometimes you have to use your imagination - add something romantic. Draw an example from the Prophet. His wife Ayesha asked him, "How is your love for me?" And he replied: "Like the knot of a rope" that is, firm and strong. Day after day she would ask him: "How is the knot?" and he replied: "Under the same conditions!" [5]
Step 5. Kiss her
It is a simple act but of enormous importance! The Prophet, may peace be with him, kissed his wife before going to pray. [6] A positive character permeates the atmosphere of positivity itself.
Step 6. Play with her:
the Prophet's wife told of when she accompanied him on a certain journey. At the time she was just a young girl, she was neither fat nor massive. The Prophet asked the people to move, then turned to her and invited her: "Come, let's have a run!" Ayesha said she started running and took the lead. The Prophet was quiet for a while. One day, sometime later, when Ayesha had forgotten this and gained weight, she again accompanied the Prophet on a journey. He again asked the people to move. Then he invited her to a new run. This time it passed over the head and she fell behind. The Prophet then laughed and said, "Here is the answer to my previous defeat." [7]
Step 7. Spend time with her, doing what she likes but also what you like
It's the best way to get married and get closer and closer. The Prophet, may peace be upon him, stood beside her waiting while Ayesha rested with her head leaning against him or as she watched a spectacle with Abyssinian swords and spears. Only when she was tired did he ask her: "Are you satisfied" and if she confirmed, they would leave together. [8]
Step 8. Support it:
according to one narrative, the Prophet's wife was traveling with him. She was late and he greeted her in tears. The Prophet, may peace be with him, wiped her tears with his own hands and tried to calm her. [9]
Step 9. Help her around the house, or at least try to keep your things tidy
Ayesha was asked how the Prophet behaved at home and she replied: "Help with the housework and when she hears the call for prayer, she goes out." [10] He also related that the Prophet, may peace be upon him, was accustomed to shining his shoes, sewing his clothes, and working around the house "just as everyone would." Ayesha testified that he was a man among men, accustomed to mending clothes, milking goats and keeping busy with some activity. "[11] Especially if your wife is tired or sick, don't wait for me to ask you: help her.
Step 10. Eat and drink with her or move to a higher level of romance and imitate the Prophet, may peace be with him
When his wife drank from a jar she shared with him, he put his lips where hers had been. And when she ate from a joint piece of meat, he himself sought the same spot from which he had bitten her! [12] If you do too, your wife will know that you are trying to please her and will adore you for these little acts of love!
Step 11. Call her with loving names
The Prophet, may peace be with him, called Ayesha "Humayra" [13] or 'pink' as she had fair skin and pink cheeks. Come up with a sweet name for your wife and you will see how she becomes more responsive and how your communication improves!
Step 12. Talk to her
Discuss his feelings and good memories. Spend time together talking. Try to delay the bad news until the right time. And find the best way to give it.
Step 13. Be cheerful
Be happy, jovial, friendly and kind when you meet your wife.
Step 14. Be honest
Avoid lying to her. If you don't tell her the truth she will never trust you.
Step 15. Consult it:
let her know that you think her opinion is important. Change your decision if his opinion is better than yours. The Prophet, may peace be upon him, once left Medina with his companions to make a pilgrimage. However, once they arrived in Mecca, non-Muslims refused to let them in. Then the Prophet, may peace be with him, drew up a treaty with them which was not in favor of the Muslims and which implied that they could not make their pilgrimage. The comrades left frustrated and angry at this treaty and refused to rise from the state in which they had let themselves go - which you too must observe if you want to make the pilgrimage. Elevation consists of shaving or cutting your hair, beard, and other practices. The Prophet, may peace be with him, on seeing them became sad and asked his wife for advice. She then advised him to go among them publicly and start shaving his head. He followed the advice and his companions, on seeing him, abandoned their frustration and imitated him. It is said that the advice of the Prophet's wife in that case was pitched! ' [14] You and your wife are two halves of each other: taking his advice is essential to your marriage.
Step 16. Thank her
Tell her thank you for all the good things she does so you can trust her.
Step 17. Bring her a gift
It doesn't have to be expensive, but it has to please her.
Step 18. Listen to his "halal" requests
Let him improve as a person. Encourage her to lead people on the right path and discourage them from sinning. Push her to meet best friends and relatives. Take her to lawful events and entertainment. Make her have fun in the way allowed!
Step 19. Be nice to her in bed
Adhere to the Islamic etiquette of marriage and sex. Lead a healthy intimate life with her and encourage her, praise her. Adding "halal" means improving your married life and its satisfaction.
Step 20. Do the Dua:
ask Allah to help you achieve and maintain excellent relationships with your wife.
Advice
- Treat your bride with kindness and sweetness. Heal it. Show her that you care with kind words and compliments.
- Whenever you can afford it take it to the Hajj and Umrah.
- Try to understand their needs and requirements, striving to meet them.
- Treat her generously.
- Help her serve Allah. Wake her up in the latter part of the night to pray "Qiyam-al-Layl". Teach her what you know about the Quran, Hadith, Tafseer and Dhikr.
- Never disrespect her.
- Be generous. Give her enough money. Never wait for him to ask you.
- Never lie to your wife.
- Take her often to visit her family, especially on special occasions.
- Tell her she is beautiful.
- Trust her and understand her.
- Always share everything with her (jokes, special moments, business, work, emergencies, family matters, personal matters, habits, etc.).
- To strengthen your relationship, organize meetings with the families of your best friends; broaden her horizons and in turn, she will be able to help you.
Warnings
- Never point out to your wife about the bad art of cooking. Even if you don't like what it's cooked, eat it anyway and thank her. If you don't appreciate it, don't say it.
- Avoid excess Gheerah. Don't stop her from answering the phone. Give her space so she doesn't feel suffocated.
- Never betray his trust, not even pretend.
- Avoid trying to shame her, such as insulting her.
- Don't describe other men to her. Don't compare her with other women.
- Don't insult her. If you hurt her, apologize and try to please her.
- Avoid returning late or she may get suspicious.
- Never blame her if you don't have incontrovertible evidence.
