Learning how to do a good sensual massage can ignite sparks of passion in your relationship with your partner, helping to spice up your love life. Massage is a nice gift you can give her, a great way to build your mutual trust and intimacy. To do the best massages you need to carefully prepare the environment and the body, communicate effectively, learn the tips and techniques to know how to touch all the right points.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Preparing for the Massage
Step 1. Wash and scrub carefully
To make the experience as sensual as possible, both of you should be calm, clean and fresh. Bathe and wash thoroughly, paying particular attention to your hands and nails. Before starting a massage, the fingers must be cleaned and the nails carefully trimmed.
- If the massage is for your partner, take a bath together to strengthen your intimacy. Taking a bath or shower together is a good way to start a massage.
- It can also be fun to start the massage right away, smear some oil and then jump into the bathtub together to get some of that oil out.
Step 2. Make the environment where the massage takes place comfortable and welcoming
Whether you are massaging someone on a professional bed, regular bed or other surface, it is important for the person receiving it that the massage is as comfortable as possible. If you need to take off your clothes, make sure the room is warm enough to undress, and make sure the sheets are clean and fresh. Light some candles and a cup of incense to add a special touch to the atmosphere of the room.
- Hot stones, bandages, rolling pins, and a variety of other massage tools are commonly used, but sometimes it is preferable to proceed as simply as possible. It is not necessary to prepare an elaborate set of tools to make the massage sensual and enjoyable for your partner.
- A little soft music can be a nice addition to a sensual massage, but also a cheesy mistake that makes you uncomfortable. Ask your partner what she prefers, but avoid the usual goofy Barry White tunes.
Step 3. Use an appropriate massage oil
A massage can be fairly acceptable even without oil, but your partner would perhaps miss out on the best part of the experience. Using the right oil, the massage becomes much more comfortable and sensual.
- Commercial massage oils are often scented in a variety of fragrances that can offer a truly intense sensual experience. Some people prefer odorless oils though, so the advice is to try a few to figure out what's best for you.
- It is not necessary to purchase a specific massage oil. While it may sound strange, cooking oils like olive oil, coconut oil, or cocoa butter can make excellent massage oils. Many massage therapists prefer to use cooking oil on the skin.
- You can also make your own massage oil by soaking extracts of lavender, calendula, rosemary or other aromatic herbs and essential oils in a natural oil. You will then be able to make your own massage oil, which you will keep in a jar.
Step 4. Talk to your partner first
The most important thing about a sensual massage is not where to put your hands. A massage won't be sensual if it doesn't involve mutual trust and emotional intimacy. Both before and during the massage, it is important to talk and listen to the other person.
- As you perform the massage ask questions such as: "Is it too strong?" or "Is that okay?" when you move to a new area of the body. Listen and adjust the massage accordingly.
- We must avoid turning the massage into an interview. Use your judgment and listen to the sounds your partner makes. If they are moans of pleasure, that's a good sign: you can keep doing what you were doing.
Part 2 of 3: Performing the Massage
Step 1. Heat the oil with your hands
Place a generous portion on your hands and rub it to warm it up, then gently spread it over the area of his body you are massaging. It usually starts with the back and shoulders.
- If the oil is cold, don't pour it directly on his back. Your partner would be surprised and experience a feeling of discomfort and tension. Heat the oil with your hands and add more every now and then to prevent it from drying out and drying out the skin.
- If you want to warm it up with heat, do it very gently and try it on your skin, before applying it directly to your partner's body.
Step 2. Apply some forceful pressure with your palms
There are so many different techniques for giving a massage, but there is no single secret to making her feel really good. Your touch should be gentle but firm, with extensive strokes on your partner's muscles. Apply the bulk of the pressure using the base of the palms, while with the other parts of the hand reach the most sensitive points.
- Remember that it is important to massage along the muscles and not pressing on the bones. It is not pleasant to feel the touch of the elbow, while it is very pleasant to receive a massage on the inside of the forearm.
- If you have never had a massage before, do an experiment on yourself: try massaging your shoulders and, if you feel a pleasant sensation, try to repeat the same massage, with the same touch, on your partner. It should work.
Step 3. Use your thumbs to massage the tension areas
Generally at the beginning it is preferable to do long and uniform massages using the palms of the hands, then move on to the most sore or problematic areas of the body by applying pressure especially with the thumbs. If there is a place on your body where your partner feels a particularly pleasant sensation, insist on that point by applying more pressure with your thumbs.
Always proceed gently, rubbing your thumbs in a circular motion along the back of her calves, just above her buttocks and lower back
Step 4. Focus on the most neglected areas of the body
Everyone knows that touching the genitals or other erogenous zones gives you pleasant sensations, but jumping straight to these points makes the massage a little rough and hasty. Go slow and, as soon as your partner begins to feel comfortable (communicate!), Explore the most neglected areas of her body, to give her the most sensual and caring massage there is. Don't forget these areas:
- The wrists
- The plantar arches
- The fingers and palms of the hands
- The back of the neck
- The ears
- The back of the knees
Step 5. Use other parts of your body
Well-oiled forearms, elbows, knuckles, and even a well-oiled chest or torso can become effective tools for massaging tense points and creating very intimate contact with your partner. If she has no qualms about practicing this type of massage that involves the whole body, take advantage of the pleasant sensations that you can give her by using other parts of your body as well.
Sometimes to massage it is also normal to use external objects, such as the rolling pin or the bottle itself that contains the oil, which are used to rub sore muscles and to relieve tension. However, keep in mind that these objects are less sensual than your hands and also give you a cold sensation, so use them with caution
Step 6. Take your time
Massage is not a quick preparation for sexual intercourse. Spend a lot of time on the massage, continuing with your sensual touches with the main goal of relaxing and making your partner feel good, not preparing her for sex.
It is also important to avoid any distraction during the massage. If you watch the game on TV while doing this, the sensual vibe collapses miserably. Turn off the TV and focus on your partner's well-being
Part 3 of 3: Tap the Right Points
Step 1. Start with the shoulders and the nape of the neck
The best areas to start are always the shoulders and neck: start by massaging slowly and gently with your thumbs along the spine, starting at the nape of the neck. Draw small circles on the back of your neck, while observing how your partner reacts to this type of massage.
Where the neck meets the shoulders is another great area to touch, paying particular attention to where the shoulder blade begins. Always move along the bones, not in a transverse direction
Step 2. Work on both sides of the spine
As soon as you place your hands on your back, bring yourself to the muscle that runs along both sides of the spine: it is an excellent area for a slow and gentle massage. Use your thumbs in long, concentric movements, applying even pressure. Do not press directly on the spine, but along its sides.
Step 3. Work on the back of the legs
Paying special attention to the calves, massage both large leg muscles separately. Here we see the difference between a good massage and a great massage. Work with your thumbs, starting from the top, also on both tendons in the back of the thigh, to relax areas that may be sore.
Step 4. Don't forget your feet
The movement of the thumb along the arch of the foot can cause incredible sensations. Massage each toe individually, spreading the oil liberally and using both thumbs to draw small circles along the sole of the foot. It is advisable to exert firm pressure on the foot, to avoid causing tickling.
If you typically perform your massage starting from the head and working your way down to the feet, move in the opposite direction from time to time. Start with your feet and work your way up slowly
Step 5. Make slow sliding movements
After working all over your partner's body using profuse oil, make long, even and very slow movements with your palms, going over all the points you just massaged. These strokes can be a very pleasant way to end the massage. You can also use your forearm or knuckles to vary the sensation your partner experienced the last time those areas were massaged.
Step 6. Ask your partner to guide you
Always refer to what's best for her. If you later want to move to the front of the body or other specific areas, talk to her and decide together. Good communication is the most important aspect of the massage.
