Many people enjoy massages on a regular basis, because it helps them feel good, and of course, having a massage is a great way to show affection for someone. Of our five senses, touch is the most significant: giving each other a luscious massage can bring you and your partner closer.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Preparation
Step 1. Choose a room with enough space to move around and where you can both stay
The best place to give your partner a romantic massage is on the floor - a bed is too sprung.
- Spread a soft blanket or duvet on the floor.
- You can also have your partner sit in a chair, mimicking the famous Ghost scene with Patrick Swayze and Demi Moore.
- Keep small pillows handy to make sure your partner is comfortable during the massage.
Step 2. Light some candles and play some soothing music
If you have a fireplace, turn it on to heat the room. Put on some music that your partner likes or finds relaxing.
Step 3. Heat the massage oil
The most used massage oil is sweet almond oil, because it glides easily on the skin, does not absorb too quickly and is thin and light. You can also use other oils, such as olive oil, coconut oil, avocado or grape seed oil.
- To heat the oil, pour it into a metal container and place it in a pot of water on the stove. Turn the heat to low and let it heat up.
- You can also rub the oil in your hands just before the massage to warm it up.
- Always check the temperature of the oil to make sure it is not too hot before using it for massage. You don't want to burn your partner's skin and turn a sensual experience into a painful one!
Method 2 of 4: Massage the Back of the Partner
Step 1. Ask your partner to lie down on the blanket
Place a pillow under her head and one under her legs. Cover her body with two large towels.
It is best for your partner to be naked or wearing only underwear, to be able to massage her directly on the skin
Step 2. Kneel near your partner's upper back
Keep some of your weight on your legs and you will be able to easily reach your partner's back without straining yours.
Step 3. Rub the oil between your hands
This will help warm it up and release the fragrance.
Step 4. Place your hands on your partner's back, on top of the towels, and ask her to take three long, deep breaths
Breathe with her and make sure she feels relaxed and comfortable.
Step 5. Run your hands from the base of the back to either side of the spine
Gently massage your shoulders. Start with light pressure.
Step 6. Massage your back and shoulders
Unroll the towels to expose your partner's back and, placing one hand over the other, move them in a circle around the shoulder blades. Use your fingertips to massage the top of the shoulders, the sides of the neck and down to the base of the skull.
- Follow a slow, steady pace, using your fingers to massage the upper shoulders. Tighten lightly then loosen your grip. Then, go back down your back with some long, sensual strokes.
- If your hands get tired, use your forearms. Have your partner sit down and sit behind her. Place your right forearm on his left shoulder, palm up. Place your left forearm on your left shoulder and use your body weight to push on your shoulders and rotate your forearms towards your neck. Repeat on the other side of the body.
Step 7. Spread your hands with your thumbs on each side of the spine
Starting at the base, work your way up to the nape of your neck and gently work your way back down.
Run your palms up and down along your spine, gently increasing the pressure with each step, to relieve tension on the muscles on either side of your back
Step 8. Use the petrissage technique
Petrissage is a massage technique that involves using the fingers to gently "knead" the skin around the shoulder and back muscles. - # * Form a 70 ° angle between the hand and thumb and massage the tissues of the shoulders and back.
- You can also make small circles with your thumbs all along the spine. Be careful not to touch the bones and not to massage it directly on the spine.
- Check that your partner likes this massage and let her know that you are about to move to the lower body.
Step 9. Fold the towels to expose the hips and upper legs
Apply more oil to your hands. Move your palms up and down to your lower back, hips and buttocks. The gluteus is a point that accumulates a lot of stress and tension, so dedicate more time to it and use the technique of petrissage or long fluid movements to untie any knots or relieve discomfort in this area.
Method 3 of 4: Massage Your Partner's Legs and Feet
Step 1. Massage your partner's legs
Move to your knees near your partner's feet.
Use long, fluid movements to massage your legs: from the ankle to the thigh and back
Step 2. Massage your feet
Making sure your hands are well oiled, apply pressure with small circles under the fingers, on the sole and on the heel and ankle.
If your partner is ticklish on their feet, avoid this part of the massage
Step 3. Make circular motions from the toes, up over the feet, to the ankles and down the legs
Keep your fingers on the outside of the main muscles, with your thumbs on the inside.
Follow the same rhythm with the movements, which should be slow and gentle
Step 4. Loosen your partner's legs with long, downward motions from the top of the thighs to the soles of the feet
As you bring your hands down, apply more firm pressure with your palms.
Step 5. Turn your partner around
When she's settled on her back, place a pillow under her knees - if she has a back problem, add more pillows as needed. Cover it again with towels.
Step 6. Fold the towel up to expose your legs and feet, then grease your hands
Use your palms to make long, even movements from the fingertips to the top of the legs and vice versa - move very gently over your knees.
Step 7. Loosen your fingers by rotating the tip of each one firmly between thumb and forefinger
Then hold your partner's ankle on the palm of your hand and massage it with the other: thumb on one side, the other fingers on the other.
Step 8. Continue massaging your legs with thumb and finger movements
Touch your knees lightly, as they are pressure sensitive joints, but push firmly on the thigh muscles.
Keeping the pace, and with a lot of oil on your hands, take your quadriceps and squeeze it - as you did for the shoulders
Step 9. Return to the bottom of the legs in circular motions
Apply pressure with your fingers as you come down, and with your palms as you go up. Roll out the towel again to cover your legs and feet.
Method 4 of 4: Massage your partner's chest, neck and head
Step 1. Fold the towel down to expose the chest and neck
Slide your hands over the upper chest area. Rub the oil between your hands.
Step 2. Focus on the pit of the shoulder
This is a point used in acupuncture in the center of the tendons on either side of the base of the neck. It is a center of tension, and getting a massage there is pleasant.
Only work on this spot for a minute, as if you massage it for longer it could cause a headache
Step 3. Massage the collarbones
The hollow under the collarbone bone is an erogenous zone. Gently press the collarbone with your thumb and forefinger.
Go to the center of the breastbone, directly above the heart. Find the hole in the bone with your fingers. This pressure point is called the "sea of tranquility" in acupuncture, and is a point that causes intense relaxation. Press it with your fingers and feel the tension that leaves your partner's chest
Step 4. Stimulate the nipples
Pour some oil on your chest and use a linking motion, or a long, fluid open hand massage on your nipples. Gently pinch the tip and twist the flesh between your thumb and forefinger.
Don't massage or rotate your nipples too hard, as this is a sensitive area
Step 5. Move behind your partner's head
Have her lie on her back and put a pillow behind her head.
Check to make sure she feels good and is ready for the last part of the massage: neck and head
Step 6. Make long, sensual movements from the waist to the shoulders
When you return to your shoulders, use the back of your hands gently to continue massaging your partner on the neck and under the chin.
Step 7. Massage the shoulders and the back of the neck
Make circular movements with little pressure, using your fingertips, on either side of the spine at the base of the skull.
- Never touch the spine itself - it is unsightly and could cause injury.
- Do not wrap your hand around your partner's neck, as it can be unpleasant.
- Avoid putting pressure on the hollow behind the eyes, just above the jaw. Pressing hard on this area can cause facial paralysis, so avoid it carefully.
Step 8. Run your hands over your neck lightly and use them to grab your partner's head
Where the neck meets the skull, you will find small hollows in the bone. These hollows are little known pressure points and erogenous zones.
Put your fingers on the hollows and gradually increase the pressure, but don't press too hard
Step 9. Rub your temples and forehead
Spend time massaging your entire head with firm circular motions.
- Trace the outline of the forehead, nose and jaw with your fingers. Apply gentle pressure on the forehead, between the eyebrows, for 30 seconds, to release the tension in the "third eye".
- Massage your forehead with your fingertips. Move your fingers slightly towards you, moving quickly from hand to hand, lifting them up when you reach the hair line. Make gradually lighter movements.
- Massage and caress the ears, a particularly erogenous zone. You could gently nibble or kiss your earlobes to relax your partner.
Step 10. Finish the massage
Ask your partner how she is feeling and if there are any areas that you have overlooked or that require additional massage.
- Wrap your partner in a towel to make her feel warm and relaxed.
- Let her rest or stay still to enjoy the beneficial effects of a full massage.
Advice
- From time to time, ask your partner if she would like you to have continued a particular movement or if you missed any points.
- Some people get nervous when touched - they may feel ticklish or tense when you place your hand on them. If your partner doesn't feel comfortable getting massaged, start gradually, from a mildly uncomfortable area such as the hands, skin, or upper shoulders. It is important not to be in a hurry. Keeping your hand steady in one place will relieve the tickling sensation.
- The most important quality of a good massage therapist is empathy: the ability to feel what the person receiving the massage feels. It is not difficult to acquire if you learn to notice body language. Do the muscles relax under your hands? She is smiling? Do you breathe naturally and deeply? Of course, don't forget to ask for his opinion.
- Use oils with scents that she likes. Use light aromas, which cannot be annoying.
Warnings
- Don't hurt your partner inadvertently by massaging too hard. Be gentle.
- Beware of contraindications, or conditions that make massages inadvisable. If your partner has fever or inflammation, high blood pressure, hernia, osteoporosis, varicose veins, cancer, HIV, skin problems such as burns or blisters, or is pregnant, you probably shouldn't massage her.
- Beware of body parts that are vulnerable and that you shouldn't massage, or just do it carefully. These include: trachea, sides of the neck, ear notch behind the jaw, eyes, armpits, inner upper arm, crook of elbow, upper abdomen, lower back at the kidneys, groin and area popliteal (the part behind the knee).
